Hopeful30 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 There's this guy at work that I like. At first, he was extremely shy around me (which really turns me on because he's incredibly attractive), so I gave him my contact info, as a hint that "I like you, here's how to reach me outside of work." It didn't take, he never contacted me, so I figured okay, he's not that into me. But the following week at work, he started talking to me and even got flirty! So I then tried a different approach. I got HIS contact info, and established a line of communication. He's still not making any moves. I'm not sure if he's just not that into me (then why start flirting at work?) or if I'm not being obvious enough. What do you guys think? 1
elaine567 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 There's this guy at work that I like. At first, he was extremely shy around me (which really turns me on because he's incredibly attractive), so I gave him my contact info, as a hint that "I like you, here's how to reach me outside of work." It didn't take, he never contacted me, so I figured okay, he's not that into me. But the following week at work, he started talking to me and even got flirty! So I then tried a different approach. I got HIS contact info, and established a line of communication. He's still not making any moves. I'm not sure if he's just not that into me (then why start flirting at work?) or if I'm not being obvious enough. What do you guys think? He has had two clear messages that you are interested in him and he didn't take the bait. HIJNTIY He doesn't date co workers, or he already has a gf/wife/bf/husband or has other "issues".
Me_plus_who Posted March 1, 2015 Posted March 1, 2015 So hard to say since we don't know him. I have been that super shy guy and I can imagine him calling his (only other) friend and asking what to do. His friend doesn't know how to go about the next step either, because he is just like his friend:) they talk and talk and finally his friend cajoles him into being flirty with you. He has probably never done this before(maybe once) and is clueless about the next step….on and on. See where this is going? Ask your highly sexualized self this? Trade awkward for safe? It's not a bad start, but at some point you'll want to move on, break a heart and get really nasty with stud.
ThisisIt606 Posted March 1, 2015 Posted March 1, 2015 I'd say you made it very clear you're interested and gave him the green light. YOu made it easy by giving him your contact info. He shouldn't really feel shy about just sending a hey, what's up text outside of work hours since he gave you his phone. What sort of "flirty" things is he doing in the office? He may just feel a little awkward that he has all this contact info of yours so now he feels the need to speak to you more in person.So to me he doesn't sound terribly interested. However if he IS, do you really want to date a guy who is so passive? He can't even contac t you affter you basically implied "here is my number, i like you, contact me". Alternatively, he could like you but just be very against work relationships as those can get weird fast. Strange boundry lines in the office and too much time together.
torturedartist Posted March 1, 2015 Posted March 1, 2015 There's this guy at work that I like. At first, he was extremely shy around me (which really turns me on because he's incredibly attractive), so I gave him my contact info, as a hint that "I like you, here's how to reach me outside of work." It didn't take, he never contacted me, so I figured okay, he's not that into me. But the following week at work, he started talking to me and even got flirty! So I then tried a different approach. I got HIS contact info, and established a line of communication. He's still not making any moves. I'm not sure if he's just not that into me (then why start flirting at work?) or if I'm not being obvious enough. What do you guys think? I think he's into you. He sounds like a typical shy guy. You see, with shy guys, the woman has to be the man, as far as kindling a relationship is concerned. Once the relationship is kindled, and the shy guy feels secure in the relationship, he might/probably will start being the man. If you think he's worth it, my suggestion is to lay it on strong. I read too many stories where romances involving shy guys fizzle out because the woman keeps waiting for the shy guy to do something, but he never does. Lay it on strong? I mean, make your feelings for him clear. And especially, be on the lookout for his insecurities, because he has some. He's afraid that once you get to know him and realize the real him, you're going to reject him, and that would be devastating to him. When you become aware of his insecurities, go out of your way to reassure him that you're okay with him. You want to know the best way to snag a shy guy? Hate me for saying this, but this is good advice. Get him into bed. The ultimate expression of approval by a woman, for a shy guy, is her (nearly) uncontrollable sexual desire for him. Once he knows that you want him, and approve of him sexually, his insecurities will move to the background. Get him into bed and you'll have a relationship with him, for better or for worse. And you'll save yourself tons of time and frustration, in walking on egg shells around his insecurities, because they all point towards his question about his ability to satisfy you in the bedroom. If things don't work out between you and him, let him go on believing he really is a stud. You'll have done him a great service, and both you and him can look back at your relationship as a good thing. Hope that helps. 1
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