wer45 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 (edited) OK so I met this girl on this social networking site and we hit it off from the start. She ended up giving me her number and we started texting. Within a day or so she escalated the texting and started talking about how she walks around the house in only her underwear and even sent me a picture of just her legs. Intrigued we continued to text and flirt, and I invited her to hang out that weekend. She kept telling me should couldn't wait to cuddle and kiss me. All seemed a little forward to me but i went with it. She came over and we watched a movie on thing led to another and we had sex. After, she texted me and asked if I was still going to talk to her. I told her of course why wouldn't I. She said just making sure. She started telling how she wanted to be with me, often referring to her as my gf and really saying some things that it seemed a little early for. Turns out, she went through a divorce before and a relationship in which the guy used her. She started talking about how many pets she wanted us to have and it kind of pushed me away because I didn't know how to take it. I ended up telling her I didn't know if I wanted a relationship which I thought would give me time to figure her out. She came over 3 more times over the next 3 weeks and she initiated sex every time. During that time she would periodically take naps and not text for hours. Which I won't lie, made me slightly uncomfortable because it was sometimes times she would of came to see me. Which made me question her and act kinda insecure. I'd get mad when she said she couldn't come over because her excuses never made sense. I'm in a bad mood, I have a headache etc. Then after that, she never came back. We texted the whole next month and I'd invite her she'd have an excuse and I'd get mad. I told her I wanted a relationship with her after a while but I don't think she believed me. I started to fall back a bit to give her space, and then she'd text me and be like I guess we're not talking anymore and I'd let her know I felt like she gave up on me and then she'd start telling me she just can never sleep and it's a far drive and she has all this going on. So we'd talk and then we'd be right back at that a week later arguing. I did something dumb and posted something about not wanting a relationship and just someone to chill with and see where it goes and she took major offense to it. This was all way after we stopped hanging out and I guess I did it to get a reaction out of her. Well I ended up getting concert tickets for a friend and me and she got upset that I didn't ask her. I took major offense because she had not made time for me in a month. I ended up ending things with her because I felt like she made no effort. I ended up texting her the next day and apologizing for snapping like I did. I asked her if she believed me when i said i wanted to date her, she told me no. And she said I knew I wanted to be with u since the first time we slept together, but we are gonna take time. We have a lot of insecurities we need to work on. I told her she'd have nothing to worry about as long as she made time for me and let me prove i wanted to be with her. She agreed to it. I made plans with her over and over. Asking to go places, dinner, all had reasons why she couldn't. Told me she wanted me to be her valentine and said she was gonna send herself flowers on valentines day because she's never had them before. I asked her to come spend my birthday with me and she changed the subject on me. But I didn't want to fight so ignored it. But like I was saying I kept asking to take her on dates and do things and she always had a reason she couldn't. I'd get frustrated and we'd fight. Then in our fights she'd resort to telling me how much she wanted this work and she thinks she was falling in love with me and all this. A week ago was the last straw for me. She got mad I didn't invite her to my birthday when I did and she had made other plans anyway. She happened to be near the same place I was days later and couldn't stop for a few minutes to say hi. She made excuses. This initiated the last fight because I was frustrated. I told her I'm tired of trying when u put in no effort. She told me she still had problems trusting me because I said things that hurt her. She even went as far as to say that she loves me. Which I felt was way over the top. She said she was going to talk to her therapist and see if she could give her advice on what we should do. Apparently she told her we should try to be friends before we work on a relationship. That we really messed up the situation from the start. While I agreed, I was so frustrated with the situation, I couldn't just be friends. Especially when I had feelings. So I ended things because I saw no effort from her except words when we argued. I just didn't feel like she was being honest and I didn't want to keep my hopes up for her and be hurt. This past week though I've been thinking and over thinking that maybe I could of done more. In the beginning she pushed for a relationship and I didn't feel ready, I probably pushed her away because I get scared when I get to that point. I know she has depression, insomnia, and anxiety. Maybe that contributed to her not wanting to come around and only text because I screwed up in the beginning? Maybe I pushed too much to see her instead of letting her tell me when she's ready. Maybe I pushed my feelings too much and pushed her away or came off unattractive? She told me she can't work on us and her at the same time. That we need to be friends and go from there. Her last message she sent me she told me she'll always be there if I wanna talk which leaves the ball in my court. What do you think? ? Edited February 17, 2015 by wer45
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