VedderisBetter Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I have been on Match for several months and have met one person. This new girl I am talking to, after like 5 message exchanges, I asked for her number. I assume she will give it to me or else she wouldn't have responded to my emails. Out of curiosity, does anyone have any good or bad Match.com experience they can share?
d0nnivain Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I was never on Match but my husband was. I was on e-harmony. Most OLD experiences are similar; the site doesn't matter. Some people do great. Others find everybody to be too flaky, picky etc. Good luck with the woman you are getting to know but proceed cautiously 1
Gaeta Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I never ever had a good experience with match.com. I only got scams messages from men pretending to be widowers with a sappy story and eventually they need money from me to come back home from some far away country.
Author VedderisBetter Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 I've spoken to a few women and can usually tell between fake and real profiles. I've gotten maybe 20 percent to reply but I figure it's because all the cute girls are talking to a handful of guys. This new girl is cute but a little top heavy. This doesn't bother me but it may to some other guys.
Gaeta Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I've spoken to a few women and can usually tell between fake and real profiles. I've gotten maybe 20 percent to reply but I figure it's because all the cute girls are talking thankful of guys. This new girl is cute but a little top heavy. This doesn't bother me but it may to some other guys. Does it matter what other guys like? I was reading an article not long ago, they were talking about how some men will go after what society dictates is attractive instead of going after what they really find attractive. If you like her that is all that matters. 1
Shining One Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I've gotten maybe 20 percent to reply...20% is a very good response rate for a man, so consider yourself fortunate. I was at around a 0.8% response rate when I stopped using Match. I met my current girlfriend on Match, so you can say I've had some success. Of course, this was after several years (on and off) and well over a thousand initial messages sent.
BikerAccnt Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I met the woman I'm in love with on Match. Our 1 year anniversary of our first date is coming up on 02/23. Prior to her, I'd met and dated a couple of other women on Match. For me, it was the best site. Your mileage will very. For me, I'm very very happy with the woman I met on Match. 1
central Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I had dozens of good experiences from match, in that of all the women I met, none could count as a bad experience. True, with most there wasn't enough chemistry for a second date, but there was with the rest. A few had long term potential, and I married one of them. 2
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I've been using Match since Dec somewhat passively. Good experience overall. Site loads quickly and is easy to use compared to the other sites (OKCupid is slow with all the ads...). I've gotten a few dates, and the last girl I dated was actually quite attractive. 1
Author VedderisBetter Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 Update: The woman did give me her number and we texted tonight. I asked her what her experience has been like on the site and she said it's been ok. She said she's met two guys. The first one there was no chemistry and the second she made a point to say is casual right now. I guess she said that because she doesn't want me to think she's really into said guy yet.
newmoon Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 not on it now, but all of my dates went very well. i met about 5 people over 3 months. most went to a second date and the guys looked like the pics and were 'nice' - not weird in any way i could see outwardly. the better matches seemed to be the ones where we met fairly fast and didn't waste time on too many emails/texts/calls.
organizedchaos Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 I have been on Match for several months and have met one person. This new girl I am talking to, after like 5 message exchanges, I asked for her number. I assume she will give it to me or else she wouldn't have responded to my emails. Out of curiosity, does anyone have any good or bad Match.com experience they can share? Met my last ex on it after a month on the service. We were together 3 years.
Dybbuk Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 I posted this in another thread, but once I recounted all my experiences it made for a nice little summary. This was a comparison of Match and OkCupid btw, and OKC is owned by the same company that owns Match for what it's worth: I met 20 guys total between using OkCupid and Match.com. I started in Feb. 2014, and ended my search in early Sept. of 2014. So I only had a short period of time on those sites (7 months) but in my experience of those 20: -8 guys were interested in pursuing something with me, and set up dates consistently each week. (5 from OKC/3 from Match). -Of those 8^ only 3 made it past a third date (2 from OKC/1 from Match) The rest I broke off before then because I didn't see us going anywhere. -6 guys never called back after the first date. (3 from OKC/3 from Match) -2 guys outright asked for a FWB arrangement only. (1 OKC/1 from Match) -10 guys in total were the ones to break off contact at some point. Either directly or by fading out. (6 from OKC/ 4 from Match) -9 guys in total were ones I broke off contact with at some point. Always directly. (6 from OKC/ 3 from Match) -1 guy resulted in a serious relationship that I'm currently still with. Been together for 5 months now! (Met on OKC) I tell you all of this so you know it's pretty even across the board. People who are on a paid site are also on free sites most of the time, but those on free sites might not be on the paid ones. You meet good people on both types of sites, and flakes on both. Being on a paid site doesn't mean that people are more 'serious' about finding a relationship, BUT I will say I got waaaay more messages on the free site than I ever did on Match. I will say that regardless of the site you will have to weed through countless emails to find people to approach/reply to that you felt are relationship material and ready to move forward. Often times people are 'window shopping' and having fun rather than looking for a potential partner; and I think that stems from the fact that OLD is like a smorgasbord of available people all the time! So you meet someone, and there is just one teensy weensy thing that bothers you about them, you can just log back into your account and resume emailing the masses again. Overall no matter what site you use, OLD can take a while before you meet someone of genuine interest who will feel the same about you. It took me 7 months, I've known some people who have been on Match/OKC for 3+ years. The important thing is to keep trying. TAKE BREAKS now and then. Especially after a string of failed dates. Make an effort to improve and update your profile/keep it fresh. Don't dwell on the failures, learn from it and put your best foot forward with every person to meet. Take chances and keep an open mind. Best of luck!
oberkeat Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 I never had any success on match. My profile got zero views, and no one ever responded to my messages. I did not renew my membership. I've had better luck on okcupid. 1
oberkeat Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 I got kicked off of okcupid too for an outrageous reason. You said that already. We get it. 1
Dybbuk Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 You've been kicked off four dating sites for "outrageous reasons"... if they were so outrageous why is it a reoccurring happening in your OLD experience? Just curious honestly.
organizedchaos Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 It's some kind of bias. Christian mingle kicked me off after I called jesus the biggest fraud in history to one imof the ladies on there. Outrageous. No, it's you. Or you like to make up stories.
hudson701 Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 So.... Do women ever actually message first on match? Or do they just sit and wait for all the offers to roll in before picking the best one? How stressful that must be for them lol. Most of the posts here seem to be coming from men. I suspect women are oblivious to struggles men go through to get dates.
insert_name Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 I never had any success on match. My profile got zero views, and no one ever responded to my messages. I did not renew my membership. I've had better luck on okcupid. Same here, got a few dates off OKC, by contrast I got no responses at all on Match. Apparently the difference between paid subscribers vs general members is such on Match that you have to send 10 messages to guarantee you have sent a message to an account that is actually able to reply. Crazy, especially for a 'service' you are paying for! Thats the biggest problem with match, the business model disadvantages the customer so much its ridiculous. £60 spent and I basically got absolutely nothing in return, may as well have set fire to the koney or given it to the homeless.
Author VedderisBetter Posted February 20, 2015 Author Posted February 20, 2015 Welp, things are looking up with this girl still. I asked her if we could talk on the phone and she said yeah so I'm calling her tomorrow evening. When I asked her how it's going with the other few guys she's talking to, she said "It's going. I've gone out with two or three people. Nothing crazy.The one guy I had a bad date with." To me, this means she's ready to see what else is out there (in particular, me). Also, I asked her what she is up to tonight and she said she just got home from the gym and mentioned she stopped and got a salad. I don't think she's fat but I think she purposely mentioned this to let me know she's being health conscious. What do you all think?
BluEyeL Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 Sounds good. Ask her out soon and see he it goes. I met my boyfriend on match and I am so happy I can't describe it. We've been together about 8 months, and things are absolutely perfect. I was on match for 18 months on and off. In total, active maybe just about 10 months. I had good experiences, but it strongly varied with the profile changes I've had. Once I found the optimum profile I've only met high quality men. Really high quality. Before that I've had see several weirdos.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 Just got another date setup on Match for next week Sounds good. Ask her out soon and see he it goes. I met my boyfriend on match and I am so happy I can't describe it. We've been together about 8 months, and things are absolutely perfect. I was on match for 18 months on and off. In total, active maybe just about 10 months. I had good experiences, but it strongly varied with the profile changes I've had. Once I found the optimum profile I've only met high quality men. Really high quality. Before that I've had see several weirdos. Question... The weirdos that you met - did they come off weird in your emails, or was it a surprise when you first met? 1
BluEyeL Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 Just got another date setup on Match for next week Question... The weirdos that you met - did they come off weird in your emails, or was it a surprise when you first met? They did come off as not awesome before meeting and many of those I didn't end up meeting after emailing, texting and/or talking on the phone. Fewer of the ones I actually met were lower quality. The ones that I consider lower quality were those who I sensed upon meeting that were into casual liasons, and not really serious prospects. They weren't weird people, just not really serious people. One was a negative surprise in person compared to email. It took me a while and some experience to understand how to tweak my profile and who should I say yes to giving out my phone number and/or meeting. But it was my first dating experience, being with my ex-husband since I was 18 until 41, so I wasn't good at it at first. But yes, in time you can learn how to pre-screen better and that makes a lot of difference. 1
oberkeat Posted February 20, 2015 Posted February 20, 2015 One of my co-workers met her husband on match, so clearly it does work for some people. Honestly, though, it's difficult to imagine paying my hard-earned money for that again, after getting nothing from my 6 month membership a year or two ago.
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