Short Guys can't get Dates?

[Shining One]

Plenty of men find me unattractive for XYZ reason and I don't really care? I've never been upset because random people that I am not dating aren't interested in me.

The point he is trying to make is that the short men who are complaining are getting little to no attention. You say that plenty of men find you unattractive, but I imagine that plenty of other men find you attractive. I bet that the short men would be complaining far less if they were in a similar situation.

[Rejected Rosebud]

This is where it makes sense. But it doesn't make sense to guys when a woman is 5'2" but only wants a guy that's 5'10" or taller. I could understand when a 5'9" woman only wanting a guy that's 5'10" or taller but not when she's half a foot or more shorter exclusively wanting a tall man.

But you guys this is what I just can't understand no matter how hard I try, why is it supposed to "make sense" to you what any random women want, that is really not your business is it!! We all like what we like and if what somebody likes isn't us then too bad for us, there is not any sense to be made of it!! I ate at Chipotle last night near the university and I was consciously looking for short guys who were with girls and there were so many of them.

[somedude81]

Plenty of men find me unattractive for XYZ reason and I don't really care? I've never been upset because random people that I am not dating aren't interested in me. I grew up in an area where men were shorter than average as the norm and was seen as too tall. It never bothered me.

 

How do you know that plenty of men find you unattractive?

 

Have you ever struggled to find a boyfriend?

[runitonce]

The point he is trying to make is that the short men who are complaining are getting little to no attention. You say that plenty of men find you unattractive, but I imagine that plenty of other men find you attractive. I bet that the short men would be complaining far less if they were in a similar situation.

 

Yeah exactly. By completely missing my point, she actually proved my point.

I have no doubt plenty of men don't find her attractive, but I also have no doubt that she's regularly approached by plenty that do. Of course the odd rejection will be water off a ducks back in that scenario

 

 

In many ways, I don't blame women for not being able to see it from a guy's perspective or considering shorter guys as whingers because its something they simply don't experience

 

 

Imagine for a second that, for the last 200yrs, the roles for dating were reversed. Very attractive men & women would still get the same attention they do now but the reversal would come with 'average Joes' getting the attention average women currently experience. Think how quickly you would get an over-inflated opinion of how attractive u are in that scenario! Think how quickly your ego would get big. U would dismiss average looking women (that were your equal in attractiveness) because you have regularly been approached by better looking ones. Average women would have to work very hard simply to get an average looking man.

Suddenly, men who have only a slight preference for large breasts (for example), but cant afford to be picky, would be in a position where they could outright dismiss any woman that didn't measure up. That's an exact reflection of how men's height is treated by many.

[somedude81]

Yeah exactly. By completely missing my point, she actually proved my point.

I have no doubt plenty of men don't find her attractive, but I also have no doubt that she's regularly approached by plenty that do. Of course the odd rejection will be water off a ducks back in that scenario

 

Yup. It's easy to not care that plenty of men don't find her attractive when plenty of men do.

 

 

In many ways, I don't blame women for not being able to see it from a guy's perspective or considering shorter guys as whingers because its something they simply don't experience

 

The vast majority of women have not struggled with dating and they simply can't empathize with the troubles that men go through. Even women that are considered undesirable because they are very overweight still have boyfriends and are being hit on. Every now and then there will be a female posting here about how she struggled with dating but upon closer inspection it turns out that she's had several boyfriends in her life and/or that her taste in men is absolutely horrible.

 

Imagine for a second that, for the last 200yrs, the roles for dating were reversed. Very attractive men & women would still get the same attention they do now but the reversal would come with 'average Joes' getting the attention average women currently experience. Think how quickly you would get an over-inflated opinion of how attractive u are in that scenario! Think how quickly your ego would get big. U would dismiss average looking women (that were your equal in attractiveness) because you have regularly been approached by better looking ones. Average women would have to work very hard simply to get an average looking man.

Suddenly, men who have only a slight preference for large breasts (for example), but cant afford to be picky, would be in a position where they could outright dismiss any woman that didn't measure up. That's an exact reflection of how men's height is treated by many.

 

It would be interesting to live in that world.

 

I'm a short guy that is very attracted to women with large breasts. I know that as a short man, I'm not desirable at all, so I have to settle for whatever women wants me regardless of her bra size.

 

And of course a woman with small breasts can date a man with any height she wants simply because she's a woman. Even the tall guy who prefers large breasts would be happy to have a small breasted woman.

 

Right it's pretty much that men's preferences are irrelevant and women get whatever they want, no matter what they look like.

[runitonce]

Yup. It's easy to not care that plenty of men don't find her attractive when plenty of men do.

 

It would be interesting to live in that world.

 

I'm a short guy that is very attracted to women with large breasts. I know that as a short man, I'm not desirable at all, so I have to settle for whatever women wants me regardless of her bra size.

 

And of course a woman with small breasts can date a man with any height she wants simply because she's a woman. Even the tall guy who prefers large breasts would be happy to have a small breasted woman.

 

Right it's pretty much that men's preferences are irrelevant and women get whatever they want, no matter what they look like.

 

 

 

Yeah. My last post was maybe more harsh that my previous ones in this thread but I needed to get the point across because too many ignore the realities of the situation. I like brunettes with a nice smile that are my height. That's my 'type', if you asked me to put it into a dating computer. But I'm attracted to, & would date loads of other women that are nowhere close to that. However, if the dating roles were reversed.... who knows, I might just be far more picky, just as many women are because they can get away with it

 

 

However, when people are advising you to work out, be approachable, etc... they are right about that. That's all good advice & I wouldn't give up hope

 

 

At 5'7.5 I'm short, but up until about 17 I was a good deal shorter than that &, having experienced what that's like, I am under no illusions that women would find me even less desirable if I were 5'5 , nevermind 5'2/ 5'3

[MrNate 2.0]

I know to some this may be considered ground breaking but:

 

 

Yes. Short guys can get dates.

 

How, you may ask? Simple. Because most women are also short.

 

Do most women prefer their man to be taller? Absolutely. There's nothing wrong with that.

 

However taller means in relation to their height. Not automatically 6 feet.

 

 

Come on, now.

[Buddhist]

Some short guys are extremely lucky to have a personality and charisma that compensates for their height. Many short men don't have those things and they simply struggle with women. God forbid a short man also be introverted, he might as well become a monk.

 

We all have to make the best of what we are given, just moaning about the unfairness of it all, doesn't tend to change anything.

 

To be honest a 5' introvert is my favourite, especially if he is lightly built and has anime hair.

[guest569]

I much prefer introverts Somedude.. I'm an introvert myself, and i feel more comfortable around other introverts. It's not a bad thing at all!! And again, you are NOT short, so stop using it as your excuse.