juststarry6443 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 We've been together for 4 years & the gifts I got for Valentine's Day made me wonder this. A Vanilla scented candle & Butterfingers. I'm not a fan of the scent of vanilla at all. I'm very much a fruity girl. & Butterfingers happen to be one of my least favorite candy bars. The thing I loved the most is his card. We started off long distance so his written words means the most to me. I'm thankful & appreciative but it really just makes me scratch my head...like 4 years & he doesnt remember my favorite chocolate...
Andy_K Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Some guys think being romantic means buying any stereotypically romantic gift, rather than getting something specifically that is unique or meaningful to you. Often goes hand in hand with much of the rest of your interactions being default boyfriend/girlfriend pastimes. A quick test to see if you should be worrying - name three things the two of you do together that are unique to your relationship. Common interests that make you two a genuine match, not just another couple.
Els Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I wouldn't focus too much on the specifics of the candy bar flavour and scent... I mean, he put in effort and you liked the card, so I think that's what really matters. How is he like the rest of the time? Does he know and remember anything about you that others don't? Do you feel like the two of you are incompatible in general?
d0nnivain Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 You do have to say something otherwise you will get vanilla & butterfingers forever. However, keep it positive. Don't make him feel bad. Just point out that they aren't your favorite. A few years ago, DH bought me the ugliest old lady outfits from the "mature" section of the department store. I can't even begin to express how awful these clothes were. I took them back & exchanged them for cute stuff. When I would get compliments, especially in front of DH I would say Thank you, DH bought me this for my birthday. He knew darn well he bought me other stuff but the praise made him pay attention to what I did like & now he's much better at buying me clothes.
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