Ekalb Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 We have been texting, flirting, sexting and having deep and meaningful conversations for the last 6 months. I went to school with her, have know her quite a while and share the same mutual friends. We live in different cities and her ex from over 6 years ago has recently moved back to the city where she lives. He is also part of the friendship group and they have all been hanging out together the past couple of weeks. This is what caused me to ask her about him. After avoiding the question multiple times she admitted that she likes him and that old feelings have been stirred up. I still want to maintain the friendship but have not spoken to her for 8 days. We have both admitted that we like each other a lot. She told me that she would never act on these feelings towards her ex because she did not want to hurt me and that she likes me so much it's killing her. I told her I trust her but I don't trust her emotions, I don't want to stop her living her life and that we should just be friends. She was upset and said she can't handle us drifting apart and things becoming weird. I said we should cool it because my feelings are only going to get stronger. She was upset but the conversation pretty much ended there. It has been almost 9 days since either of us have spoken. Last night I tagged her in something on Facebook that I knew she would like and she commented "You remember who I am?". The past 8 days have been very difficult for me. I'm not over her and find myself constantly stressing about the situation. I don't want to loose her as a friend and it feels like this no contact thing might be causing that to happen but I'm not sure if it's a good idea to message her. If we start conversing again I think will get a little overwhelmed with emotion and maybe say some regrettable things but at the same time all I want to do is talk to her again. What should I do to preserve the friendship/potential future relationship but protect my self from getting hurt?
melodicintention Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Having deep meaningful conversations over text while sexting. Mmmmmkay. Sorry babe but I don't see this going anywhere. You aren't true "friends" with this girl and whatever you do have is rather shallow sounding, so do whatever because it's going to fall apart eventually. Sorry to sound harsh but I call it like I see it.
spiderowl Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Do you meet with her regularly? A relationship over text/phone can only last so long. You need to see her regularly for there to be any chemistry and real bonding. Otherwise, she is naturally going to find herself attracted to another guy who is there in person. I don't think you can avoid getting hurt. It's in the nature of relationships which are more then superficial.
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