AVarma Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I met her at a party I attended after my escort plan fell through in order to get my spirits up. Anyway we hit it off and I asked for her number. I called her afterwards and we had a good chat for an hour before I finally asked her out. I figured a lunch date would be a nice first date. Well the day arrives.... and she doesn't. My luck eh? I guess I'm just thinking what do I do now? Do I call her and ask her what's up? Or do I just move on and forget about her? Just as a side note being stood up sucks.
todreaminblue Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 call her ask outright be friendly.....deb
mammasita Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Leave it alone. If she reaches out, I'd ignore but potentially humor her to see what excuse she has. Otherwise, she should probably be written off. 2
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 If she hasn't said anything I'd leave it alone. It's one thing if she fell asleep or something (happened to me once) and apologizes but it sounds like she either: a) Didn't care about you b) Forgot about her plans with you Neither of which are good - if she forgot about you shes clearly not into you. 3
somedude81 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 She's a coward. Erase her from your life. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 While I'm not a big fan of texting, in this case I would give it one shot. Hey what happened to you on ______? I thought we were meeting for lunch but you were a no show. Are you OK? If you get an answer evaluate it's truthfulness. Then decide if it's worth pursuing. If you don't get a response, assume she's an awful person & never look back. A guy & I sort of stood each other up for a lunch date. We had agreed to meet at a chain. He went to one location; I went to the other. Neither of us knew there were 2 in that town. Under those circumstances we tried again. Nothing came of the 2nd date but I had no reason to doubt his explanation since he thought I flaked too. 5
PegNosePete Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I would move on. There is no excuse for such a terrible lack of communication. Even if she had an excuse for standing you up, she has no excuse for not telling you know.
clevelander321 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 a. Just use the phone to set up a date. No hour long convos. b. Skip lunch dates. c. Call and joke around, ask what happened. Don't act hurt at all. As a sidenote, I had a woman blow me off 2 nights in a row.. I acted as if i didn't care at all.. She just spent the entire weekend with me and told me she is in love. many women are flaky.. Just part of dating.
Toodaloo Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Just as a side note being stood up sucks. Actually both times I have been stood up I have gone on and had a fantastic time anyway. The first time was years ago - I ended up going out with a Rugby team and being their "mascot" for the evening i.e. being fake girlfriend if any women they didn't fancy latched on etc. Fantastic night. The second time was on Friday and I had a lovely quiet evening in with a really good book, hot bath and lots of bubbles. I was actually relieved to be stood up! It only sucks if you have high expectations. If you have no expectations at all it can be rather fun to go and find alternative ways of entertaining yourself and meeting new people! As for why she stood you up... does it matter? She clearly isn't all that into you and not all that interested so why not go and waste your worry on someone who does care about you instead?
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 While I'm not a big fan of texting, in this case I would give it one shot. Hey what happened to you on ______? I thought we were meeting for lunch but you were a no show. Are you OK? If you get an answer evaluate it's truthfulness. Then decide if it's worth pursuing. If you don't get a response, assume she's an awful person & never look back. A guy & I sort of stood each other up for a lunch date. We had agreed to meet at a chain. He went to one location; I went to the other. Neither of us knew there were 2 in that town. Under those circumstances we tried again. Nothing came of the 2nd date but I had no reason to doubt his explanation since he thought I flaked too. I wouldn't even do any of this. No matter what the reason is for her missing, she handled it poorly. If she forgot, then she was never THAT interested in the OP in the first place - why should he waste his time with someone like that. If she intentionally stood him up - would never give someone like this another shot. I wouldn't even message this girl for the time of day let alone ask her WHY she stood me up. It doesn't matter. 2
EgoJoe Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I'm with Cleveland. Skip the phone conversations unless you're an actual phone pro. If you don't know if you are. You're not.
preraph Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Going by Donnivain's point, think about where you were supposed to meet and see if there's any chance there were two locations or there could have been any mixup. It could just be that because you didn't pick her up like on a real date, she blew you off. 1
Author AVarma Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 So I sent her a message this morning at around 11 telling her I missed her yesterday and that I hoped she was ok. I still haven't received a response. I guess this one got away.
kendahke Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 So I sent her a message this morning at around 11 telling her I missed her yesterday and that I hoped she was ok. I still haven't received a response. I guess this one got away. It really wasn't your loss. If she was into you, she'd have called to say something came up and would like to reschedule. That she hasn't says that she is avoiding you. I wouldn't have given her the time of day. I also don't give stood ups a second chance. When I'm stood up, I'm no longer interested and nothing on God's earth is going to spark that interest ever again. It's too easy to open a can of "act right" and pick up the phone and say you can't make it. I may be disappointed in the moment, but I would give them the benefit of the doubt because they considered my time to be important to me. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 So I sent her a message this morning at around 11 telling her I missed her yesterday and that I hoped she was ok. I still haven't received a response. I guess this one got away. Just make sure it ends here. If she doesn't respond with a good explanation it wasn't her that "got away" it was you who avoided having to deal with a tactless person.
oberkeat Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Unless she texts you first, and apologizes for the no show, and gives a plausible excuse why she didn't show up or contact you in advance, and offers up a specific date and time for a re-do, delete her number from your phone. Women who do this are not worth a second thought. 4
Mizz Layta Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 I have had same thing happen to me few years ago.I met this guy on face book who lived few minutes away from me .After talking for few weeks we decided to meet up at convenience store close to my house. When it was almost time to meet up,i texted him to let him know that I was on my way out and he responded and said okay. Then i ended up waiting for more than 20 minutes. At first i didn't think anything of it,i just thought he was running late Then 10 more minutes went by so i decided to text him to see where he was but i didn't get a response. I waited 10 more minutes then i decided to call him .He answered the phone and i asked whats up. To my surprise he hung up then he sent a text message saying that he is sick and cant meet up. I was so mad so i sent him a text message asking how he could do this to me and why he didn't just tell me that he coudn`t make it. He never responded .I then sent him a text telling him to have a nice life. I went home and deleted him on Face book and his his number However,2 weeks latter he texted me and said hey. I didn't recognized his number since i had deleted it so i asked who it was .When he identified himself i stop responding.Then he started apologizing and said that he had things to do.I just ignored him. There is no way i could give him second chance after that since he blatantly stood me up 1
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