Nikki Sahagin Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I'm not talking physically but emotionally/mentally/spiritually. I'll get the ball rolling. Generally speaking these things turn me off of a person: * An addictive nature including being a workaholic * Poor hygiene/self-care * A party girl/party boy (just not my scene) * Big drinker/smoker/drug taker * A misogynist/misandrist - someone who is bitter or hateful towards their opposite sex * Violence/abuse * Emotional detachment * Someone who doesn't like to spend much time together * Laziness (I like easy going aka sleep in, chill, go to the beach but not laziness) * Animal hater * Big flirt * Lover of strip clubs, lap dances, online dating sites, prostitutes or excessive porn use (porn is fine otherwise) * Low sex drive/lack of interest in sex * Sleazy/crude attitude towards women; I don't want to see you flick through Tinder whilst telling me who is hot and who is not or hear you rating women out loud etc or talking about women in my company as hoes, whores, bitches or just tits and ass (as my exes friend always did) * Disrespectful * Selfish * Rude * Dishonest/disloyal * Sneaky/cagey or lacking openness * Fanatical in any area What are yours?
todreaminblue Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 i think any sort of unforgiving behavior or attributes.... mocking god...I cant handle it or specifically dont want to have to handle it judgemental of others heartless cruel to animals or kids... has to love kids has to believe in the family unit has to be a team player too sarcastic....confuses me i dont liek thoughtlessness i prefer a thoughtful guy a guy who uses hookers is not for me faithless disloyal\ not reliable not able to commit a guy who steps back when grunt work is needed someone who doesnt really love me the way i am and wants or expects me to change into something i am not.....i change what i want to change i dotn need to be told..... a guy who cant be my friend.....who ridicules me....doesnt support my wishes dreams and hopes liek i woudl always support theirs..... a guy who is a lad and not a man.... godo hygeine polite and courteous is a must.....old school...i dont do new..... a guy who refuses to stand behind his words.....or refuses to stand by me......right or wrong ill stand next to a guy i love...i expect the same.....we go down together or we stay afloat together there is no other way.....deb 1
Els Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I'll leave the basic stuff like cheating, abuse, selfishness, lack of respect etc off of my list - I feel that it should go without saying that all of that is a turn off. So I'll focus on the stuff that is more of a personal preference, rather than explicitly bad traits. Some of my less black-and-white turn offs: - Never questioning the status quo. It's extremely important to me that someone can think for themselves and evaluate what they do and don't want for themselves, rather than blindly following what they are told to do (or, similarly, doing the opposite just for the sake of it). - Lack of ambition in their career. There is nothing wrong with unambitious men, and I have a few good friends who are not very ambitious, but I intrinsically feel zero sexual attraction towards such men. - Strong focus on physical appearance. This goes both for themselves and for their preferences for women. - Lack of interest in kinky sex. 1
todreaminblue Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I noticed that i really messed up my turn off list....because i dont like writing a whole lot of negatives...i would rather hunt for the guy who fits my turn ons...than look or concentrate what turns me off guys in general like hygiene for example...if a guy had bad hygiene or didnt take showers as often as i liked.but yet he was and did tick many boxes.......i would make him love taking showers.......i would entice the shower ideal............ as far as reliability goes if a guy isnt reliable i cant date him.....i need someone who i can rely on equal too how they can rely on me.....i dont expect more than that.....i dont know if it is considered needy that i like reliable people..that i should just worry abotu myself learn to rely on myself and thats it...i dont think its fair that way....and i already do that.... anyway ...if someone reads my mixed up list... it is because i naturally revert to what turns me on......i find that far more exciting to think about .....writing what turns me off...makes me want to be a nun in peru with many llamas.....deb 2
Eighty_nine Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Racists, homophobes. Lack of social insight and analytical nature. Anyone who is too into image or "stuff" 1
RedRobin Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Double standards Hypocrisy ... all the normal ones (dishonest, disrespectful, etc) Repeated incidents of poor judgment Impulsiveness Addictions of any kind Lack of curiosity Irresponsible Taker/freeloader mentality 1
RedRobin Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 makes me want to be a nun in peru with many llamas.....deb That would be pretty awesome. I think I'd opt for sheep though. They are more cuddly and friendly... plus I'd learn how to spin wool. 2
Haydn Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Think you covered most things OP, Like Elswyth says, the subtle things.... For me, slowly morphing in to a complete lunatic after a year. Someone who asks me every 5 minutes, where am i? Jealousy taken to the extreme. Oh and an inabilty to use `chopsticks` 1
todreaminblue Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Think you covered most things OP, Like Elswyth says, the subtle things.... For me, slowly morphing in to a complete lunatic after a year. Someone who asks me every 5 minutes, where am i? Jealousy taken to the extreme. Oh and an inabilty to use `chopsticks` i used to wear chopsticks in my hair....could never use them to pick up food unless i stab the food.....i still stab food with chop sticks.....and make shish kebabs...:0) 2
todreaminblue Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 That would be pretty awesome. I think I'd opt for sheep though. They are more cuddly and friendly... plus I'd learn how to spin wool. not a fan fo male sheep......they are perpetual walking horn balls....got molested in a corner by a male sheep once...he wanted me bad..had to be pulled and dragged over the top of a wooden fence by my agriculture teacher......got many splinters.....fell in love with the teacher..lol...ahem...so much for my nunship..... i will honestly say that llama even though they can spit arent as big a hornball as rams..deb
guest569 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 (edited) Anti-feminists Pompousness Arrogance Avoiding of problems Fake personalities Close minded ness Smoking Impolite Laziness I wouldn't say low sex drive or sex issues are a turnoff, but a refusal to acknowledge or address it is. Edited February 17, 2015 by smiley1
Woggle Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Serial Cheaters Misandrists People who think they can't have excitement and passion without drama People who have no regard for how they treat others
central Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Turn-offs include: Lack of integrity. Lack of compassion and kindness. Lack of intellectual curiosity. Lack of significant libido. Lack of balance in life. Lack of self-sufficiency.
Omei Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 If a person cant be punctual I cant be their partner or their friend it gets old fast (sometimes is okay) Someone who is more lazy than I am sure ill do afternoon naps etc but someone who sleeps a full night then continues up till 3 pm drives me nuts. Guys who complain about women every day shut up already People that suck off others to survive People that are always depressed
ASG Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Apart from the basic ones, like cheating, abuse, etc I have to say: Jealousy - I'm not jealous and can't understand jealousy. So wouldn't be able to deal. hyperactive/workaholic - I'm laid back and enjoy my lazy days, curled up in the sofa, watching movies/TV. Someone who is unable to do that would turn me off and we'd be ultimately incompatible. Double standards - This one I feel very strongly about. A guy who thinks it's ok for guys to do something, but if women do the same thing they're less quality make me actually sick to my stomach
Toodaloo Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 not a fan fo male sheep......they are perpetual walking horn balls....got molested in a corner by a male sheep once...he wanted me bad..had to be pulled and dragged over the top of a wooden fence by my agriculture teacher......got many splinters.....fell in love with the teacher..lol...ahem...so much for my nunship..... i will honestly say that llama even though they can spit arent as big a hornball as rams..deb lol I was thinking of a similar incident! Really hurts when they head butt you! Laziness Selfishness Drunken behaviour on a regular basis Chain smoking Lack of Hygine Lack of respect Lacking care for others Inability to be a grown up How long a list are we allowed? Shouldn't we do a positive one about what is a turn on in a partner? 1
Under The Radar Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 The biggest turn off for me would be a lack of empathy ...... that goes for either gender. 1
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