redblazerx78 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Ok, the story goes.....I messages a beautiful girl on Match on 2-7-15 and she responded a day later. After a few messages I asked for her phone number and if I could text her. We texted each other for a day or so and I asked her out on a date for saturday, which was vday. She accepted my date and we texted a little more that day. Well Friday she surprised called me on her way home from work and we talked for 3 hours that night. Everything is going great! She lives 3 hours away from me so I had some planning to do. I rented a car through work, reserved a very nice restaurant, rented a hotel room for me to stay in. I called her when i left my house and texted her when I arrived at my hotel room. So, I go change clothes and drive to meet her at the restaurant which is 45 mins from my hotel room. I offered to pick her up but she was already in the town that we had dinner at so she just met me there. She pulls into the parking lot of the restaurant and I greet her with a long hug and tell her that she was beautiful. We walk into the restaurant and I open doors for her, pull out her chair and take my seat. Dinner went well, 2 hours well. We talked about family, hobbies and careers, no silent moments at all. We ordered our dinners and when the waiter brought them they gave me her plate and she got my plate. We didnt notice until after a few bites in so we switched plates. We shared a dessert of her choice and carried on our conservation. I mentioned taking my vacation next month and she asked where I was going, I mentioned a place that I had been wanting to go and she replied "take me too" and we have talked about it a few times since then, she mentioned renting a cabin in the mountains which sounds great to me. How do I take that? We decided to go to a movie of her choice as there is hardly anything to do in her town. As we left the restaurant she said she would just follow me there since it was on her way home. We get on the interstate and I keep her in view until traffic gets heavy, well then i lost her and pulled over so I could call her. I guess in the meantime her mom calls telling her that she needs to go to urgent care because she thinks she has the flu. She really wanted to see me before then but she was only a few miles from home. So, she said that if they get out of urgent care before too late then she will come see me. Well, they didnt get home until 3am, the last update was 11pm. I didnt get much sleep that night because she has been on my mind for days and I was wondering why she hadnt texted me that night. She told me that she didnt want to wake me at 3am. So, we planned a breakfast for the next morning sice we didnt get to go to a movie. Sunday morning comes around and still havent heard from her by 9am. So, i sent her a good morning text around 9:30 and she responded back. I asked her if she still wanted to meet for breakfast but she suggested lunch. So, she tells me that she has been coughing and feeling like she cought the flu from her mom and the people in the waiting room at urgent care. She went to check her temperature and it was 102. She said again that she still wanted to see me but thought it would be better that she stay in. The weather was cold, 17 degrees that morning. I didnt want her getting worse so I suggested that she stay in too and that we could try to meet up next weekend. So, I texted her yesterday when I got home and by this point she had the flu and strep throat. She was going to take a nap and text me later. Since day one we have always told or texted each other good night but nothing after our date or last night. So, this morning i didnt text her when I left from work and waited for her to call or text me. Nothing from her, So at lunch I called her and left her a message telling her that I hope she is feeling better and to hit me up later. She texted me a few hours later saying that she just got home from the doctor and was going to lay back down. That brings us to now, I still havent heard from her and on the fence about calling her or texting her to see if she is feeling ok. I felt bad because I didnt text her this morning when I left for work, like I have since day one. We talked to each other about what we are wanting in a relationship and things that are important to us, communication was a big one for both of us. We both agreed that if there were no vibes during the date and we didnt feel that it would go anywhere then we would respectively tell each other instead of flaking on each other. So, this brings me to now. She has been on my mind since we met, she is gorgeous and we have alot in common. I guess I am asking about the communication part. When should I call or text if I havent heard from her? Should I message her before bed to see how she is feeling? I dont want her to think that I am not interested in her. Experienced lovers help me, lol.
Versacehottie Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I don't think she is being completely honest. i think she is not interested. Sorry
Author redblazerx78 Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 I had thought about that too but We had that discussion last week before I drove up to her town. Why would you tell someone that you want to see them then disappear?
Versacehottie Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 well but you had this "discussion" before you met in person. I think that's why she is not being straightforward. In a way, by agreeing in discussion that you "liked" each other, she feels obligated to date you--more of an obligation that a typical first date from the internet. So think that's why she's coming up with excuses. It could be true, but the timing is awfully concindental, isn't it? Plus she is not being responsive with texts. Doesn't matter really if she is sick when you get past 24-48 hours. I hope I'm wrong but am not optimistic. Sorry:sick:
Honeybunnies Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 So you switched plates and ended up eating something she already took a few bites out of? And then she gets sick? Doesn't that mean you should get sick too?... If you're feeling fine, her story might be fishy. 1
Author redblazerx78 Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 So you switched plates and ended up eating something she already took a few bites out of? And then she gets sick? Doesn't that mean you should get sick too?... If you're feeling fine, her story might be fishy. She didnt start getting sick until after sitting with her mom for 6 hours in the urgent care waiting room. Im feeling fine but im just hoping that she is not flaking on me after driving 3 hours to see her, a very nice dinner and having what we thought was a good time. I would think if someone wasnt interested they would decline the date before the person drives 200 miles to see them and make reservations at a 4 star restaurant. I am optimistic and hope she still talks to me.
irresolute Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 She's not interested in you. She wanted to get out of your first date and she made the excuse of her moms flu. Stop being naive omg. I don't think she wants anything with you, just not gonna happen.
Honeybunnies Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 She didnt start getting sick until after sitting with her mom for 6 hours in the urgent care waiting room. Im feeling fine but im just hoping that she is not flaking on me after driving 3 hours to see her, a very nice dinner and having what we thought was a good time. I would think if someone wasnt interested they would decline the date before the person drives 200 miles to see them and make reservations at a 4 star restaurant. I am optimistic and hope she still talks to me. Yes, but symptoms generally don't begin until about 2 days after exposure - meaning if she really did get sick, she was exposed at least 24-48 hours beforehand. My point is, if her story is true, she was sick on your date. And again, if her story is true, you might be sick soon. BUT it all just seems fishy.
Author redblazerx78 Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 This is why I hate dating! They flake if you give them too much attention and they flake if you dont give them enough, I am so close to giving up on dating, it sucks!
devilish innocent Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 She might just be sick. I know that when I have the flu, all I want to do is sleep and puke all day. If she really didn't want to see you again, she didn't have to keep responding to you or mention that she wants to see you again. I'd give it more time before getting too discouraged about her.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 You kinda came on really strong for a first date OP. I guess I don't know what to make of it all.
Author redblazerx78 Posted March 1, 2015 Author Posted March 1, 2015 Ok, So we had our second date today, flowers in hand. We have been in contact daily and had 2 phone conversations this week. We went to her favorite mexican restaurant in her town. We talked more about family and she asked me how work was going and some other things, lots of eye contact throughout the date. I was planning on going in for a kiss when I walked her to her car but I didnt feel like the timing was right. She had an appointment to go to so she gave me a quick hug. My question is: What direction should I go with her? The texting is there but has slowed some. I may be reading too much into it. I text her good morning and to have a good day during the week. I dont want to get friendzoned so I dont know what I should do next. We havent discussed when we were going to meet up again, just that we said we will meet up again.
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