Over 2yrs from divorce still have his recliner and big screen

[shellybeantoo]

I have been divorced over 2 years. When my ex and I split the household belongings, he was going to take his belongings along with the big screen TV and the recliner. I actually loaded all his things except the TV and Recliner in his vehicle for him. He has asked several times when he can come get his TV and Recliner, I have told him come and get them on many occasions. It has now been over 2 years and I still have the large items. He has been to my home several times in the past two years but has never taken the items, always comments he doesn't have any place for them right now. Am I legally required to give them to him?

Edited February 16, 2015 by shellybeantoo
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[Gloria25]

I don't know...

 

I'm not an attorney, but watch a lot of daytime court TV drama and before you sell and/or discard his stuff I say document, document each and every time you've contacted him about it.

 

Actually, I'd recommend sending him a certified/registered letter (with a request for his signature confirmation) giving him 30 days to "come and get it". Also, within the letter, document how many times you've contacted him and nada.

 

I mean, you can look up laws in your state, but they sometimes word that stuff that unless you know key legal terms, you may have some difficulty researching/Googling the law.

[preraph]

I think what you should do is tell him he has X amount of time to collect his items if you can't use them yourself. Don't be mean about it. Just tell him you don't need them and he does, and maybe he can get a storage unit or something if he isn't living anywhere he can have them. Maybe he will just tell you to do whatever you want. Maybe you can ask him if he'd like to sell them instead of take them and he could keep the money.

[Gloria25]

I think what you should do is tell him he has X amount of time to collect his items if you can't use them yourself. Don't be mean about it. Just tell him you don't need them and he does, and maybe he can get a storage unit or something if he isn't living anywhere he can have them. Maybe he will just tell you to do whatever you want. Maybe you can ask him if he'd like to sell them instead of take them and he could keep the money.

 

I stick with documenting it, and keeping a copy of that certified letter and confirmation that he received and signed for it.

 

Too many court TV shows where the person comes and wants their stuff back after you finally chuck it.

[TheGuard13]

I still have my ex wife's wedding china. Did you document who got what during the divorce?

 

Make a list, etc?

 

If so, somewhere there's a copy of that, and he has legal right to the items.

 

But hey, enjoy them until he asks for them back, which he may never do. It's a hassle moving that stuff.

[Gloria25]

I still have my ex wife's wedding china. Did you document who got what during the divorce?

 

Make a list, etc?

 

If so, somewhere there's a copy of that, and he has legal right to the items.

 

But hey, enjoy them until he asks for them back, which he may never do. It's a hassle moving that stuff.

 

Not really...

 

There are charities that you can call and they'll pick up the stuff and handle it for you.

 

In my hood I see people just leave stuff outside all the time and subject to the elements - why not take it to a Goodwill or call one of those charities? Geesh I mean, some of them will even put a sign like "free stuff". Why would I want your "free stuff" after it's been exposed to bugs and the elements?

 

Lol, believe it or not I used to pick up stuff all the time that people left outside - something else from my dad that rubbed off on me...lol.

[rester]

I don't know...

 

I'm not an attorney, but watch a lot of daytime court TV drama and before you sell and/or discard his stuff I say document, document each and every time you've contacted him about it.

 

Actually, I'd recommend sending him a certified/registered letter (with a request for his signature confirmation) giving him 30 days to "come and get it". Also, within the letter, document how many times you've contacted him and nada.

 

I mean, you can look up laws in your state, but they sometimes word that stuff that unless you know key legal terms, you may have some difficulty researching/Googling the law.

 

I was just going to say to give him a month deadline to come get the stuff. Gloria's advice is much more thorough. It's great advice to document all of the communication about it. Even better if you have emails or texts to prove it.