smg15 Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 list of good signs and bad signs Bad signs 1. Initially didn't want to get anything to drink or eat at the cafe 2. Never took her coat off 3. Said "if you want to" when asked her to walk to her car Good signs 1. She chatted for 2 hours 2. We face each other the entire time 3. She asked some questions about me 4. She sent a text 30 mins after our date letting me know she made it home and hope I did too 5. The text didn't say "it was a pleasure meeting you" lol So I will see what comes out of this.
Gaeta Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 The bad signs are....BAD! She did not want to have anything? She just sat there with you with nothing while you had a coffee? Was it that cold that she did not want to take her coat off? She sounds overall inexperienced to me or clueless.
Author smg15 Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 The bad signs are....BAD! She did not want to have anything? She just sat there with you with nothing while you had a coffee? Was it that cold that she did not want to take her coat off? She sounds overall inexperienced to me or clueless. Initially she didn't want to get anything but she got a hot chocolate
Author smg15 Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 Better than most of my dates. At least she showed up. you just made me spill my drink lol
ThisisIt606 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 It's weird she initially didn't want to get anything AND kept her coat on. Why come? seems like she wanted to be ready to bail at a moment's notice without having to worry about or order coming or how to pay. Not sure what she was expecting out of this, but if you're meeting at a cafe you at least order a coffee off the bat. As was mentioned before she's either extremely inexperience or just not interested. Text her tomorrow and ask how her day's going or bring up something funny/what you bonded over in the date. See how she responds to that. 1
Author smg15 Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 It's weird she initially didn't want to get anything AND kept her coat on. Why come? seems like she wanted to be ready to bail at a moment's notice without having to worry about or order coming or how to pay. Not sure what she was expecting out of this, but if you're meeting at a cafe you at least order a coffee off the bat. As was mentioned before she's either extremely inexperience or just not interested. Text her tomorrow and ask how her day's going or bring up something funny/what you bonded over in the date. See how she responds to that. she sent this text after she got home and this was our exchange Her: " I just made it home and hope you did too" Me: "Of course I made it home I was 3 mins away" Her: lol Me: "i just took my hands out the oven, im warm now" Her: "Lol, yes it was very cold today" I didn't sent anything else after that
Belle88 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 At first when I read your post I didn't think it sounded too bad. She could've been nervous and that's why she didn't want to order anything and maybe she was cold. But after reading your recent posting it doesn't sound super promising. I would play it cool and see if she contacts you again.
Author smg15 Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 At first when I read your post I didn't think it sounded too bad. She could've been nervous and that's why she didn't want to order anything and maybe she was cold. But after reading your recent posting it doesn't sound super promising. I would play it cool and see if she contacts you again. well I didn't get this text like I did last year which I didn't know was a bad sign "It was a pleasure meeting you" lol
Gaeta Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 she sent this text after she got home and this was our exchange Her: " I just made it home and hope you did too" Me: "Of course I made it home I was 3 mins away" Her: lol Me: "i just took my hands out the oven, im warm now" Her: "Lol, yes it was very cold today" I didn't sent anything else after that You didn't sent anything after that?? You need coaching! After that you should have sent: It was fun meeting with you and I would like we do this again soon, are you up for it?
Author smg15 Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 You didn't sent anything after that?? You need coaching! After that you should have sent: It was fun meeting with you and I would like we do this again soon, are you up for it? I plan to say that on the phone later instead of texting it
Author smg15 Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 You are such a nice guy. You are so sweet. You are so honest. You are so reliable. You are a good guy. You are friendship material. You'll find an amazing wife someday. Yes I know all of that now but I was saying a girl sent me that last summer and I thought she was interested but found out she wasn't it lol
Gloria25 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Yes I know all of that now but I was saying a girl sent me that last summer and I thought she was interested but found out she wasn't it lol I would plan to not call her back... WTF/WTH?!? And someone asking me to make a good/bad list after my date is a reason I get tired of even trying to date. Is this homework? A graded assignment/event? Dating is supposed to be fun - not a task, job interview, etc. Pleeeze
Author smg15 Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 She won't be answering the phone. If she doesn't then i will send one last text tomorrow morning
bubbaganoosh Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 You are such a nice guy. You are so sweet. You are so honest. You are so reliable. You are a good guy. You are friendship material. You'll find an amazing wife someday. And his reply should be. I'm all of the above and your damn skippy I'll find an amazing wife someday. You had your chance. Have a good life.
Gaeta Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 She won't be answering the phone. I thought you guys were suppose to encourage each other, not the other way around. OP: she did initiate text after your date to let you know she was home safe and inquired about you. That is a positive sign and a good one! Don't wait too long and ask her out again.
Author smg15 Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 I thought you guys were suppose to encourage each other, not the other way around. OP: she did initiate text after your date to let you know she was home safe and inquired about you. That is a positive sign and a good one! Don't wait too long and ask her out again. Im going to do it tonight During the date I was saying that I like Tuesday and Wednesday dates because of the atmosphere and she said it would not work for her since she gets off at 9pm. Basically letting me know her availability is on the weekends 1
Author smg15 Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 Isn't that harassment? sophisticated harrassment:D
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 OP she doesn't seem into you that much. You dropped off on the texting at a good point I'd say. I guess you could have asked for another date then, but I usually wait until the next day myself.
Author smg15 Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 OP she doesn't seem into you that much. You dropped off on the texting at a good point I'd say. I guess you could have asked for another date then, but I usually wait until the next day myself. I rather do it on the phone which will be in a hour
Art_Critic Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 In my dating world (when I was single) if you don't make the kiss on the first date then there will be no second date.. of course there can be exceptions to the rule but the rule always held true in my dating world... Sorry....
Author smg15 Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 OP she doesn't seem into you that much. You dropped off on the texting at a good point I'd say. I guess you could have asked for another date then, but I usually wait until the next day myself. Well you could be right, I called and got no answer. I did call at 11:35pm so she could have been sleep but it's all on her now. No more contacting from me ball is in her court.
Author smg15 Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 I will say if no second date comes out of this I won't be going on anymore dates until April or May. Wasn't shy this time, showed interest by asking her tons of questions, paid for her hot chocolate, and walked her to her car. And this is why I hate dating
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I don't like calling early on unless theres a huge connection. You run the risk of missing them - or them not picking up. Calling someone early on is like using the chat feature on OLD sites - women hate it. 1
Author smg15 Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 I don't like calling early on unless theres a huge connection. You run the risk of missing them - or them not picking up. Calling someone early on is like using the chat feature on OLD sites - women hate it. I only did it because she text me first after the date. So I was like..."ok let go ahead and call. If she had picked up the plan was to find out her availability for this weekend and end the call. And then call 4 days later. But in all honesty, I never felt like it was a good sign that she never took her coat off.
todreaminblue Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 i often wear a coat on a date even in winter...i have scars...i think the good signs are good enough for a second date........deb
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