I don't get this at all.

February 24, 2015

Do you all think the incident was minimal and that I'm giving it more importance than it has? Because now I'm confused.

You're giving it importance because you can't find any other reason to make contact.

February 24, 2015

My guess you are looking for comformation and I will confirm it for you...., yes he saw the other woman and took a dive.

This guy is shady and would never tell you the truth anyways.

February 24, 2015

You're giving it importance because you can't find any other reason to make contact.

I could contact him if I wanted. I'm not making excuses. I'm just surprised he acted like that. I feel he wanted to hide me from another woman he might still have feelings for or he thinks he has potential for sex or whatever.

He pulled us aside almost inside a restaurant and he made like he was reading the menu. I asked what was he found and he smiled but he seemed overwhelmed at the moment. I thought he was drunk but that was not the case. Is it clear enough now?

February 24, 2015

I could contact him if I wanted. I'm not making excuses. I'm just surprised he acted like that. I feel he wanted to hide me from another woman he might still have feelings for or he thinks he has potential for sex or whatever.
He pulled us aside almost inside a restaurant and he made like he was reading the menu. I asked what was he found and he smiled but he seemed overwhelmed at the moment. I thought he was drunk but that was not the case. Is it clear enough now?

Then contact him. Confront him. Tell him he is a player and he was wrong for hiding you. I think you should contact him and get it over and done with.

If this wasn't a "minimal" issue with you, I'm not sure why it's taken you this long to now feel wronged by it. Then and there you would have sensed it and it would have played on your mind. After your date you even came here and said nothing about it. Coincidentally, days later, you're upset, at a time when you realize you made a mistake by not replying and the fact that he is now talking to other women.

February 24, 2015

Then contact him. Confront him. Tell him he is a player and he was wrong for hiding you. I think you should contact him and get it over and done with.

If this wasn't a "minimal" issue with you, I'm not sure why it's taken you this long to now feel wronged by it. Then and there you would have sensed it and it would have played on your mind. After your date you even came here and said nothing about it. Coincidentally, days later, you're upset, at a time when you realize you made a mistake by not replying and the fact that he is now talking to other women.

I was driving to school and trying to interpret that sudden gesture of him, pulling us aside. It wasn't that he wanted to kiss me. He was making time for someone else to not see us so we could start walking again.

I'm gonna send him a text now.

February 24, 2015

I don't know you, so my unprejudiced opinion is that yes, he's probably hiding something and he could have been hiding you from another woman. I think I would be very angry, especially since he didn't explain. If you do confront him be firm and if you sense bull*hit tell him you're not buying it.

February 24, 2015

He's not replying. How curious. He used to reply immediately

February 24, 2015

He's not replying. How curious. He used to reply immediately

Goodness! 10 minutes and freaking out already.

February 24, 2015

Call him again. Maybe he was just looking at a menu? How long have you known him?

February 24, 2015

He's not replying. How curious. He used to reply immediately

It's not curious at all. He is behaving the way someone who's been ignored generally behaves when the game-player resurfaces again. I think you're just angry he's moving on and it hurts your ego. You're trying to re-gain the upper hand in a losing game. Leave him alone.

February 24, 2015

Do you all honestly think this is minimal? How would you have felt is something like this happened yo you?

Yes it is completely minimal because he is not even in your life, leave him alone now!

February 24, 2015

I have a feeling, if he replies, he'll tell you that your accusations are wrong, then communication will resume. You will forget the "reason" for contacting -- confronting your strong belief him being a Johnny/garbage/player and saying goodbye because you finally have him back in your corner again.

February 24, 2015

He replied. He said he let the people pass by because we were walking slow and he pulled aside because he felt like a high schooler again.

February 24, 2015

He replied. He said he let the people pass by because we were walking slow and he pulled aside because he felt like a high schooler again.

It doesn't matter. Even if he was hiding you, he wasn't going to respond that he was hiding you because he saw a woman he knew or was seeing?

It doesn't change the fact that you believe he is garbage player and that you truly believe he was hiding you from someone, making him someone you shouldn't be seeing.

Now you can move forward and leave this guy behind.

February 24, 2015

He never hide me because we never hanged out. But I have a tendency to be attracted to players and liars.

Don't you expect this type of behavior from the guys you date by now? If you hang out with dogs don't be surprised when you get fleas. When you continually fall for players and liars expect them to play you and lie to you.

February 25, 2015

Ok, we texted for three hours. I told him everything I wanted to say, including the fact that if he's having sex with me I don't want him to have sex with anyone else.

He asked me if I wanted to be exclusive. I got freaked out honestly. He said that he knew my answer was going to be no that I always run away.

Why would he asked me to be exclusive? He asked it several times, like waiting for me to give him an answer instead of him proposing it to me. I told him I'll talk to him tonight so I'll try to resume the conversation but I'm not sure if he's testing me or what

February 25, 2015

Ok, we texted for three hours. I told him everything I wanted to say, including the fact that if he's having sex with me I don't want him to have sex with anyone else.
He asked me if I wanted to be exclusive. I got freaked out honestly. He said that he knew my answer was going to be no that I always run away.
Why would he asked me to be exclusive? He asked it several times, like waiting for me to give him an answer instead of him proposing it to me. I told him I'll talk to him tonight so I'll try to resume the conversation but I'm not sure if he's testing me or what

What happened to you being sure he's another player/Johnny, he's garbage? All that drama you came up with was an excuse to contact him. Just because he said he wasn't hiding you from another woman, you're now back on again and dismissed those red flags you were sure about?

And now that you've resumed contact, just I as predicted, the drama, questions, freak outs, self-doubt, etc. start all over again.

I don't have any advice. It's become futile and exhausting. Honestly, you thrive on drama.

But I hope things work out and wish you the best of luck.

Edited February 25, 2015 by Zahara

February 25, 2015

What happened to you being sure he's another player/Johnny, he's garbage? All that drama you came up with was an excuse to contact him. Just because he said he wasn't hiding you from another woman, you're now back on again and dismissed those red flags you were sure about?

And now that you've resumed contact, just I as predicted, the drama, questions, freak outs, self-doubt, etc. start all over again.

I don't have any advice. It's become futile and exhausting. Honestly, you thrive on drama.

But I hope things work out and wish you the best of luck.

Can't I give him the benefit of the doubt? It's not that he cheated on me or something like that. I told him I don't want him to sleep around.

February 25, 2015

Can't I give him the benefit of the doubt? It's not that he cheated on me or something like that. I told him I don't want him to sleep around.

Just tell him you want a FWB with a condition that he only sleeps with you.

February 25, 2015

This guy I've been seeing just make me nuts.
He initiates most of the times, we already had sex and everything, but something more's going on and I don't really know how to handle this.
I told him I'm scared of relationships, and so does he, so sometimes I just don't reply to his messages when I sense he's becoming too close to me. So I ignore.
For Valentines, he just didn't contact me at all, nor did I, its OK, we are not exclusive, whatever.
However, yesterday I texted him "I miss you. so much it hurts".
He replied instantly he misses me too.
This is exaclty how it went:

me: I shouldn't have said that but you were in my mind
him: if you don't say it, I will
me: say it, say it!
him: I miss you, irresolute, so much it hurts!
me: I'm melting right now
him: lol, you're melting? then you run away, I know you

And that was all. What's going on with this guy? Is he playing with me? I don't understand how to handle this.
We had a date planned for Saturday but I had to confirm him, I'm scared he'll cancel or something if I confirm.

should I just wait to see if he contacts me again during the week? I already told him that I missed him...right??

To be honest, you sound like you have no clue what the hell you want. You say that you're scared of relationships and you purposely don't respond to his texts. Then you complain about him playing games with you?

It doesn't matter how hot a woman is or how great the sex is. If a woman played these types of games with me of purposely not responding and being hot/cold, I'd explore other options. It sounds like he is finally giving you a taste of your own medicine.

Ok, we texted for three hours. I told him everything I wanted to say, including the fact that if he's having sex with me I don't want him to have sex with anyone else.
He asked me if I wanted to be exclusive. I got freaked out honestly. He said that he knew my answer was going to be no that I always run away.
Why would he asked me to be exclusive? He asked it several times, like waiting for me to give him an answer instead of him proposing it to me. I told him I'll talk to him tonight so I'll try to resume the conversation but I'm not sure if he's testing me or what

So you tell the guy that you don't want him having sex with anyone else. But then you freak out when exclusive comes up and you don't want to be committed to him. What the hell did you expect him to say when you say you don't want him having sex with anyone else? This sounds like you want to be exclusive. In all honesty, this sounds like a case of you wanting your cake and eating it too.

Edited February 25, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

February 25, 2015

Ok, we texted for three hours. I told him everything I wanted to say, including the fact that if he's having sex with me I don't want him to have sex with anyone else.
He asked me if I wanted to be exclusive. I got freaked out honestly. He said that he knew my answer was going to be no that I always run away.
Why would he asked me to be exclusive? He asked it several times, like waiting for me to give him an answer instead of him proposing it to me. I told him I'll talk to him tonight so I'll try to resume the conversation but I'm not sure if he's testing me or what

What on earth does the bolded mean?

It sounds like he's offering what you want, now you don't want it? I'm honestly baffled.

February 25, 2015

Well, we texted last night again and when I told him ok to be exclusive, just to see why he said, he back up. He said he's not giving up the dating sites and that he wants us to see when we both have free time. That the dating sites are entertaining to him blah blah.

Supposedly I'm meeting him for breakfast in 1 hour but I'm hoing to cancel and forget about him.

February 25, 2015

Well, we texted last night again and when I told him ok to be exclusive, just to see why he said, he back up. He said he's not giving up the dating sites and that he wants us to see when we both have free time. That the dating sites are entertaining to him blah blah.
Supposedly I'm meeting him for breakfast in 1 hour but I'm hoing to cancel and forget about him.

In a way I actually give him credit for being honest - I mean he could have said 'yeah for sure - exclusive all the way' and then created a different account on different sites.

So at least he was honest

Also, him agreeing to being exclusive with you - what does that give him? 1 or 2 calls a week when it suits you?

A 'Maybe' date here and there when you're in the mood?

I wouldn't swear off other dating potentials because a guy that is so inconsistent and hot and cold wanted me to. That would be stupid.

But yeah - You should cancel the breakfast and cross him off your list.

February 25, 2015

It's done. I cancelled on him, he said ok. Then I ask him not to contact me anymore, because I need to work on myself to try to see why I'm acting the way I do. He read it but didn't reply.

Yesterday was madness. Today is a busy day and I hope it'll be better. Can't believe how I'm repeating the story once again.

February 25, 2015

We continued texting, I said him I love you and he said he loves me too. This is becoming kinda creepy. He said he's scared of love as well. I don't know what to reply right now

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