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irresolute Established Member

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He is a piece of garbage just like John. He was hiding me I'm not stupid.

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He is a piece of garbage just like John. He was hiding me I'm not stupid.

 

I don't know who John is - anyways, you still haven't told us why him chatting with other women is infuriating.

 

Did John hide you too?

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He is a piece of garbage just like John. He was hiding me I'm not stupid.

 

Heya I don't think we've ever chatted but I've followed some of your other threads. Can I make a suggestion? I think you would benefit immensely from meeting with a therapist. I mean, let's take the above statement - there are two conclusions:

 

1. It is true. The men you bring into your appear to be garbage. So why is it that you attract or are attracted to such men. It isn't unusual for some people to be attracted to destructive personas. A therapist can help you with this.

 

2. It is false. The this guy and perhaps the other guy aren't garbage. But rather you're delusional and have a victim or even perhaps a drama complex. Again, this isn't unusual. A therapist can help you with this.

 

So that's the rub of it - a therapist can not only help you see which of the above is true, but how to address the underlying issues. And besides - it can't hurt.

 

Best of luck!

 

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irresolute Established Member

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He never hide me because we never hanged out. But I have a tendency to be attracted to players and liars.

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He is a piece of garbage just like John. He was hiding me I'm not stupid.

 

If that is the case then you should move on. But honestly, in your need to avoid facing your f*** up, you're finding a way to blame him for the demise.

 

He's not Johnny. You don't know him well enough to throw him in that bucket. Johnny was a man that used you and manipulated you for sex for months. Not the same.

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I swear he pulled me aside because he didn't want someone to see him with me. At that moment was awkward but I thought we were both tipsy. Now I realize what he did. I want to confront him.

Plus, he's been chatting with other women since yesterday. I'm infuriated!!!!

 

So what if he did? Does it really matter?

 

He accessed the website right after your date...so you know he is probably dating other women. Or maybe it was a woman he used to date and "hid" you so as to avoid unnecessary drama.

 

Also, when he expressed interest in seeing you again soon, why did you ignore him? Since you're so into him, that makes no sense to me at all.

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He never hide me because we never hanged out. But I have a tendency to be attracted to players and liars.

 

Thanks for answering my question.

now my other question - why does it infuriate you if he is talking to other women - especially since u are the one who ignored him?

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He's garbage and you are angry because he's chatting with other women?

 

For me that's a win, move on.

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What I meant is that he hide us from being seen by another person. That's what I meant.

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He never hide me because we never hanged out. But I have a tendency to be attracted to players and liars.

 

And why do you think that is? If the same thing is happening over & over don't you think it says something about you as well.

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What I meant is that he hide us from being seen by another person. That's what I meant.

 

Pulled aside, hide you, shoved you out of the way -- let it go. It's done. You said he's garbage so leave him be. If you are so sure he was hiding you from someone -- an ex or a woman he is seeing maybe, if that is what you are implying, then all the more reason to stay away from him.

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Pulled aside, hide you, shoved you out of the way -- let it go. It's done. You said he's garbage so leave him be. If you are so sure he was hiding you from someone -- an ex or a woman he is seeing maybe, if that is what you are implying, then all the more reason to stay away from him.

 

Should I contact him? He migh think I'm stupid I didn't realize. I don't want to be treated like that and he gets away with it...

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Should I contact him? He migh think I'm stupid I didn't realize. I don't want to be treated like that and he gets away with it...

 

You're looking for an excuse to break the ice. So you sat there and thought and thought and thought and you nit picked every little thing in your head and came up with this insane excuse.

 

Treated like what?! You're speculating and if this guy is like Johnny, no you don't confront because you'll get nowhere. He's a player, right? So what does he care about your grief? And get away with what? You had sex with him and enjoyed his company. Had a great date. Then you f*** up, he moves on to other women and suddenly, here's Johnny again and you have to confront him because how dare he?! Insanity.

 

I'm really starting to question what's going on up there in your head.

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It does sound like he was hiding you -- but how does that do him any good, because he didn't hide himself, did he? So if it was a woman he knew, she'd still have noticed him, wouldn't she? It's a fishy maneuver, I'll go along with you on that. If you ask him, he's probably not going to tell you the truth anyway. If he's raising a lot of red flags, just stop seeing him.

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Should I contact him? He migh think I'm stupid I didn't realize. I don't want to be treated like that and he gets away with it...

 

Just be like hey, a few days ago you pulled me aside. I was just wondering if that meant anything and if you are seeing other people. I want __________ (monogamous? casual? ) relationship. Then see what he says. No one wants to be the side chick or hidden and asking him would make you feel a lot better about the situation.

 

side note, I think it would be a good idea to figure out what you want. Do you want a monogamous casual relationship? If so, I would tell him. I get sometimes that being hurt in past relationships can mess you up a lot. However, you should put yourself in his shoes as well. No on wants to be ignored and he doesn't want to be hurt as much as you do too.

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Should I contact him? He migh think I'm stupid I didn't realize. I don't want to be treated like that and he gets away with it...

 

I think you should leave this guy in peace

 

Don't start drama over something so minimal and the only thing he will do is show your crazy texts to his friends if you start something over this.

 

He's gone, let him get away with whatever you think hes done the window for anything between you two has passed id say.

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It does sound like he was hiding you -- but how does that do him any good, because he didn't hide himself, did he? So if it was a woman he knew, she'd still have noticed him, wouldn't she? It's a fishy maneuver, I'll go along with you on that. If you ask him, he's probably not going to tell you the truth anyway. If he's raising a lot of red flags, just stop seeing him.

 

He hide both of us and he is like he was reading a restaurant menu almost inside the restaurant. It was silly but he could had told me: hey I just seen xxx but I don't want to say hi. Right?

 

 

Do you all honestly think this is minimal? How would you have felt is something like this happened yo you?

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Sounds to me like he is married or cheating and that you need to cut off all contact with him. Why give him a chance to make up a lie to explain. He'll just say something lame like "Oh, it was a guy at work I don't like." He's cheating on someone.

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Sounds to me like he is married or cheating and that you need to cut off all contact with him. Why give him a chance to make up a lie to explain. He'll just say something lame like "Oh, it was a guy at work I don't like." He's cheating on someone.

 

He's not married at all. But he's probably seeing other women. Id like to confront him and say goodbye.

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He's not married at all. But he's probably seeing other women. Id like to confront him and say goodbye.

 

Why say goodbye to garbage? Again, you're looking for an excuse to make contact!

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He hide both of us and he is like he was reading a restaurant menu almost inside the restaurant. It was silly but he could had told me: hey I just seen xxx but I don't want to say hi. Right?

 

Do you all honestly think this is minimal? How would you have felt is something like this happened yo you?

 

 

You said you both were walking downtown and he pulled you aside now you're saying he was reading a restaurant menu and was almost inside a restaurant and hid you both?

 

 

Let's play with your scenario. If that is the case, even more reason to stay away from him. There is no point in confronting him because if you do and if he had no intent of hiding you, he's going to think you're nuts. If he is a player, then he's going to give you excuses and you're going to eat it up and fall into another Johnny.

 

No need for goodbyes. You're looking for an excuse.

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Why say goodbye to garbage? Again, you're looking for an excuse to make contact!

 

Do you all think the incident was minimal and that I'm giving it more importance than it has? Because now I'm confused.

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Im saying its minimal because you're taking a situation and blowing it way out of proportion with zero proof you're basing everything off your riled up emotions and conjoured thoughts of negativity and worse case scenario.

 

If you call up this guy and start going on about this without any solid proof he was avoiding someone hes just going to think your severly emotionally unstable, maybe hang up on you, or say things about your behavior you dont wanna hear.

 

I agree for someone who thinks the guy is garbage you seem to be looking for a reason to contact.

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Men are not the center of the galaxy. Your journey to the center of the galaxy, never took place.

 

 

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