I don't get this at all.

[irresolute]

I'm in my thirties.

It is unfortunate, because I got to care for this guy. He is nice and easy going, he is someone I enjoy being with.

However, I don't think I can handle this any longer. I find myself wanting to text him, wanting to be with him again, and that is just not acceptable at this point.

I need to distance myself now from all this situation because I think My feelings are getting deeper and deeper for this guy.

I don't regret having sex. It was pleasurable and I enjoyed it. It was something we both agreed and I don't really wanted to go home without experiencing an intimate moment with him.

I'll have to think about all this messy situation, right now I'm a little sad because I miss him but I decided I'll ignore him if he decides to contact me during the week. It's not playing games, it's protecting myself from falling deeper from him.

Damn all this hurts...again crap

[irresolute]

Dear all,

Nothing has happened since we met on Saturday night and I ignored his last text. Yesterday I missed him a lot and thought I was seriously falling in love again with this guy who is so disfunctional to me. Today I'm feeling confident again. Our date was awesome and I had omg so much fun! He is incredible in every sense and I think I was pretty awesome too. I was so relaxed and things flow so naturally I'm actually happy.

I don't expect a serious relationship out of this, I'm not ready anyway, but the feeling of having connected and enjoyed our date to the maximum is just awesome.

Who cares if he is not into me that much, his loss anyway. I'm pretty awesome myself and today I feel confident in myself because I'm capable of enjoy this precious moments.

[ExpatInItaly]

Dear all,

Nothing has happened since we met on Saturday night and I ignored his last text. Yesterday I missed him a lot and thought I was seriously falling in love again with this guy who is so disfunctional to me. Today I'm feeling confident again. Our date was awesome and I had omg so much fun! He is incredible in every sense and I think I was pretty awesome too. I was so relaxed and things flow so naturally I'm actually happy.

I don't expect a serious relationship out of this, I'm not ready anyway, but the feeling of having connected and enjoyed our date to the maximum is just awesome.

Who cares if he is not into me that much, his loss anyway. I'm pretty awesome myself and today I feel confident in myself because I'm capable of enjoy this precious moments.

 

Why on earth are you doing that again? You've completely sabotaged this.

 

It's actually going to be your loss, because he'll get tired of the games and move on.

[Zahara]

his last text said something like: "Maybe I'll get to see you again soon" Which I didn't replied.

 

Why didn't you reply? Looks like he was trying to plant the seed that he wants to see you again.

[William]

Folks, as a reminder, here's the original topic, subject to updates:

 

What's going on with this guy? Is he playing with me? I don't understand how to handle this.

We had a date planned for Saturday but I had to confirm him, I'm scared he'll cancel or something if I confirm.

 

should I just wait to see if he contacts me again during the week? I already told him that I missed him...right??

 

It's always inappropriate to make public editorial comments on any member and/or to state or insinuate that they are trolling or manipulating members or using emotional extortion to solicit a reaction. However, it's always appropriate to make such comments privately to moderation via use of the 'alert us' link on each post.

 

Now, back to the topic. Thanks!

[irresolute]

It was my loss, actually. Today I saw him online chatting with another women. I made my profile invisible because it was just too much.

 

I don't really know why I'm doing this and I don't really see how can I fix it now. Maybe he already lost interest. Gezz

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

It was my loss, actually. Today I saw him online chatting with another women. I made my profile invisible because it was just too much.

 

I don't really know why I'm doing this and I don't really see how can I fix it now. Maybe he already lost interest. Gezz

 

Who cares - move onto someone else.

[irresolute]

Who cares - move onto someone else.

 

Why are you saying this? Is he not worth it if after one text ignored he already Moved on?

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

Why are you saying this? Is he not worth it if after one text ignored he already Moved on?

 

Because mindlessly obsessing over him isn't going to help. There are other people out there that will be excited to be with you and won't keep you guessing all the time.

[irresolute]

I won't be able to be ok now. This is just too much. I'm repeating the story again.

[Zahara]

It was my loss, actually. Today I saw him online chatting with another women. I made my profile invisible because it was just too much.

 

I don't really know why I'm doing this and I don't really see how can I fix it now. Maybe he already lost interest. Gezz

 

I think you know why you are doing this. From the beginning of your threads, you've been advised. You went from a traumatic marriage/separation/affair/divorce, then onto here and there men that caused you to go into a tizzy and even in this present moment it's repeating itself.

 

You're an emotionally nervous wreck. You lack confidence and the ability to make healthy decisions. You give yourself a huge mind**** and then self-sabotage. Then you say you don't know why you do it.

 

You both played cat and mouse games. He plants the seed that he wants to see you again. You chose not to reply. Then you ask but why, how come, how can he? What did you expect? If someone ignored me, I'd be inclined to think that he didn't want to see me.

 

Nothing changes until you work on your confidence and resolving your past demons.

[irresolute]

I think you know why you are doing this. From the beginning of your threads, you've been advised. You went from a traumatic marriage/separation/affair/divorce, then onto here and there men that caused you to go into a tizzy and even in this present moment it's repeating itself.

 

You're an emotionally nervous wreck. You lack confidence and the ability to make healthy decisions. You give yourself a huge mind**** and then self-sabotage. Then you say you don't know why you do it.

 

You both played cat and mouse games. He plants the seed that he wants to see you again. You chose not to reply. Then you ask but why, how come, how can he? What did you expect? If someone ignored me, I'd be inclined to think that he didn't want to see me.

 

Nothing changes until you work on your confidence and resolving your past demons.

 

 

Ok zahara. I made a mistake, I ignored him when things were going really good, I probably made him realize I'm not worth it either as he decided to chat with other people. He might think I'm a flake and therefore, not worth his time. Alright. Now, is there anything I could do? Maybe let some days pass and send him a nice text? Or should I forget about this one as well and not contact him anymore?

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

Ok zahara. I made a mistake, I ignored him when things were going really good, I probably made him realize I'm not worth it either as he decided to chat with other people. He might think I'm a flake and therefore, not worth his time. Alright. Now, is there anything I could do? Maybe let some days pass and send him a nice text? Or should I forget about this one as well and not contact him anymore?

 

If you have a 5 page thread on this same issue from over a week ago, and you're still wondering, I'd say move on to someone else.

[Zahara]

Ok zahara. I made a mistake, I ignored him when things were going really good, I probably made him realize I'm not worth it either as he decided to chat with other people. He might think I'm a flake and therefore, not worth his time. Alright. Now, is there anything I could do? Maybe let some days pass and send him a nice text? Or should I forget about this one as well and not contact him anymore?

 

You're not ready to date, Irresolute. Your issues are going to keep resurfacing. If it's not this guy, it's going to be the next. You self-sabotage. And it comes from your lack of confidence and fear from your past. If someone opens the door for you and you shut it, it isn't a mistake. It's because you're fearful and you don't trust anyone, even yourself. That doesn't go away overnight. Dating triggers your insecurities. You're trying to use what ails you to cure you.

[matt1221]

You just said you ignore him and he initiates most of the texts! So he probably thinks you're not into him. Stop playing so hard to get and screwing with his mind and show him you like him. Otherwise he's moving on.

[irresolute]

Yes, he initiated most of the texts but I also initiated telling i was missing so much it hurt and then inviting him to a date last Saturday.

Now, he might think I'm running away from him. And he won't initiate again since I ignored him.

Plus I've made my profile invisible so he'll ptobably think... I don't know whatever.

 

Yes, I should initiate but I'm terrified either he won't reply and ignore me or that I go blank and have nothing to say to him. Crap. He was already talking to someone else this morning!!!

[irresolute]

Guys, I just realized of something that happened during my Saturday nights date.

We were walking downtown after our dinner and suddenly he pulled me aside and cover me with his body. I laugh and asked him what was happening but he didn't say a word, just smiled. Some people walked by at that moment. He then grabbed my hand and we walked out away.

 

What migh had happened? He pulled me aside because he didn't want someone else to see him with me? Should I text him asking???

[TigerCub]

No Op, don't text him - leave the poor guy alone.

He texted you after the date and the sex and he expressed to you that he hopes you'd hang out again, and you ignored him.

 

Don't toy with this person. Don't toy with anyone.

 

Don't text him again.

[irresolute]

No Op, don't text him - leave the poor guy alone.

He texted you after the date and the sex and he expressed to you that he hopes you'd hang out again, and you ignored him.

 

Don't toy with this person. Don't toy with anyone.

 

Don't text him again.

 

But he pulled me aside!!! He wanted to hide!!

[Zahara]

Guys, I just realized of something that happened during my Saturday nights date.

We were walking downtown after our dinner and suddenly he pulled me aside and cover me with his body. I laugh and asked him what was happening but he didn't say a word, just smiled. Some people walked by at that moment. He then grabbed my hand and we walked out away.

 

What migh had happened? He pulled me aside because he didn't want someone else to see him with me? Should I text him asking???

 

He was just being a gentleman by pulling you out of the way from the people that were walking by. By standing infront of you, it was his way of shielding you from the passersby.

 

I think you're now grasping at straws in how to break the ice with with him. Or possibly sabotaging and going down that negative train of thought, creating an issue with him even when there's none.

[irresolute]

He was just being a gentleman by pulling you out of the way from the people that were walking by. By standing infront of you, it was his way of shielding you from the passersby.

 

I think you're now grasping at straws in how to break the ice with with him. Or possibly sabotaging and going down that negative train of thought, creating an issue with him even when there's none.

 

I swear he pulled me aside because he didn't want someone to see him with me. At that moment was awkward but I thought we were both tipsy. Now I realize what he did. I want to confront him.

Plus, he's been chatting with other women since yesterday. I'm infuriated!!!!

[Zahara]

I swear he pulled me aside because he didn't want someone to see him with me. At that moment was awkward but I thought we were both tipsy. Now I realize what he did. I want to confront him.

Plus, he's been chatting with other women since yesterday. I'm infuriated!!!!

 

Please stop acting this way. You really need to stop this craziness. And yes, you're acting over the top.

 

You're picking an issue when there isn't one. Even if he pulled you aside, you are speculating that he was hiding you. I think you build a lot of BS in your head.

 

He has every RIGHT to chat with other women. He mentions seeing you again and you ignore and now you are mad he is talking to others? What insanity is this? And you are infuriated? Be infuriated at yourself, not him.

[TigerCub]

But he pulled me aside!!! He wanted to hide!!

 

So what?!

Maybe he was just playing to get you closer.

 

Maybe it was as Zahara suggested - that he wanted to move you out of other pedestrian's way.

 

He pulled you aside - it means nothing.

[TigerCub]

I swear he pulled me aside because he didn't want someone to see him with me. At that moment was awkward but I thought we were both tipsy. Now I realize what he did. I want to confront him.

Plus, he's been chatting with other women since yesterday. I'm infuriated!!!!

 

Wow, what gives you the right to be infuriated?!

I'm sorry to say this OP, but you are acting like an entitled brat!

You ignore this guy and toy with him - but god forbid should he try to find someone that will actually be good to him?

 

Really? why are you infuriated?

[stillafool]

Plus, he's been chatting with other women since yesterday. I'm infuriated!!!!

 

But he isn't your boyfriend. He can chat with whomever he pleases.