mericangirl Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 Hello! I'm hoping to get some insight on my current situation because I'm not sure what to do, if anything. My side job hired a new guy last summer. He's 28, has a full time office job and is doing this on the side as one of his hobbies or passions. He's apparently been single for 5 years and I hardly ever hear about or see him with other woman, but I know he's not gay. He just doesn't seem like a player at all, but does live a pretty full life it seems. Since this job is all internet based we rarely see anybody in-person, and it's mostly Skype meetings and the occasional real life hangout or random event we throw. I was kinda into this guy after he was hired but didn't know too much about him since we didn't friend eachother on facebook or have any one-on-one talks about any projects. It was always a team thing. One night, being goofy, I sent him a friendly facebook message that joked around about getting married. He responded later that night and took it pretty lightly. He was very friendly but the conversation died rather quickly after some 'Haha's' and stupid 'thumbs up' icons were sent. Needless to say this went nowhere but he friended me shortly after that. Well, we met up as a team a few weeks after this and we finally met eachother in person. Nothing about my reaching out to him was regarded and we both were co-worker friendly towards each other. It wasn't awkward and I think everyone actually had a great time. Shortly after this he left for a 2-week tour with his rock band. (He plays guitar professionally and records music as another hobby of his). I went on vacation around the same time to visit family and we didn't talk to each other for several weeks. When he returned home, he sent me a text asking if I wanted to go out that night. Well... I was returning home at the time and politely declined, telling him this. We had a fun little conversation that lasted about 30 minutes before he told me to have a safe trip. When I returned I invited him out to my birthday party. He had other plans that night but actually made it out towards the end of the night. I was definitely pretty sloshed when he showed up, but not embarrassingly so. Also, my ex boyfriend ended up showing up (we have mutual friends) so I can imagine that made him a bit uncomfortable. We definitely didn't hit it off that night. A total of maybe 30 words were spoken between us, and he seemed to be having a good time going around and just striking up random conversations with some of my friends, most of whom he was meeting for the first time. A few hours later he just disappeared into thin air and I couldn't find him. The next day was my birthday in which he sends me a very enthusiastic text and apologized for missing me later that night. We met up again as a work team a few weeks later and it was kinda awkward. We hardly said 2 words to each other, but then again he did have a pretty busy job to do that night. But still... Now it's coming up on 4 months or so since I last saw him. We still work at the same place, but we've both been slacking on going to any real life meet ups. He's still single, apparently, so I'm wondering if maybe he was just being a friendly guy and was never interested in the first place? I'm at the point where I know for sure he's never going to reach out again. Should I just contact him? We haven't talked in MONTHS and gauging his interest has me feeling like a dog chasing it's own tail.
elaine567 Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Hello! I'm hoping to get some insight on my current situation because I'm not sure what to do, if anything. My side job hired a new guy last summer. He's 28, has a full time office job and is doing this on the side as one of his hobbies or passions. He's apparently been single for 5 years and I hardly ever hear about or see him with other woman, but I know he's not gay. He just doesn't seem like a player at all, but does live a pretty full life it seems. Since this job is all internet based we rarely see anybody in-person, and it's mostly Skype meetings and the occasional real life hangout or random event we throw. I was kinda into this guy after he was hired but didn't know too much about him since we didn't friend eachother on facebook or have any one-on-one talks about any projects. It was always a team thing. One night, being goofy, I sent him a friendly facebook message that joked around about getting married. He responded later that night and took it pretty lightly. He was very friendly but the conversation died rather quickly after some 'Haha's' and stupid 'thumbs up' icons were sent. Needless to say this went nowhere but he friended me shortly after that. Well, we met up as a team a few weeks after this and we finally met eachother in person. Nothing about my reaching out to him was regarded and we both were co-worker friendly towards each other. It wasn't awkward and I think everyone actually had a great time. Shortly after this he left for a 2-week tour with his rock band. (He plays guitar professionally and records music as another hobby of his). I went on vacation around the same time to visit family and we didn't talk to each other for several weeks. When he returned home, he sent me a text asking if I wanted to go out that night. Well... I was returning home at the time and politely declined, telling him this. We had a fun little conversation that lasted about 30 minutes before he told me to have a safe trip. When I returned I invited him out to my birthday party. He had other plans that night but actually made it out towards the end of the night. I was definitely pretty sloshed when he showed up, but not embarrassingly so. Also, my ex boyfriend ended up showing up (we have mutual friends) so I can imagine that made him a bit uncomfortable. We definitely didn't hit it off that night. A total of maybe 30 words were spoken between us, and he seemed to be having a good time going around and just striking up random conversations with some of my friends, most of whom he was meeting for the first time. A few hours later he just disappeared into thin air and I couldn't find him. The next day was my birthday in which he sends me a very enthusiastic text and apologized for missing me later that night. We met up again as a work team a few weeks later and it was kinda awkward. We hardly said 2 words to each other, but then again he did have a pretty busy job to do that night. But still... Now it's coming up on 4 months or so since I last saw him. We still work at the same place, but we've both been slacking on going to any real life meet ups. He's still single, apparently, so I'm wondering if maybe he was just being a friendly guy and was never interested in the first place? I'm at the point where I know for sure he's never going to reach out again. Should I just contact him? We haven't talked in MONTHS and gauging his interest has me feeling like a dog chasing it's own tail. Lots of complications there that seemed to get in the way. BUT life is short, if you think there may be something there for you, then there is no harm in trying. It may not work out, but at least you gave it your best shot.
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