acidrein_08 Posted April 4, 2005 Posted April 4, 2005 Saw my ex yesterday and it was only the second time I have seen her since we broke up almost 2 months ago. I went down to the park with some friends to play ball and she was down there, it made me really uncomfortable and I didn't know what to do but I stayed and played ball and didn't even let it bother me. We didn't talk. I totally forgot all about seeing her becuase last night I had a bunch of people over and one is a girl I really like and am talking to. But just a little bit ago today she called and I didn't answer it cause I was on the phone but she left a voice mail and said she was sorry for not talking to me yesterday and she felt really bad and she really would appreciate it if I called her to talk if I wanted. I doubt I will, but what do you all think?
FolderWife Posted April 4, 2005 Posted April 4, 2005 DON'T CALL. Ball players are too sexy to waste time on past relationships!
Author acidrein_08 Posted April 5, 2005 Author Posted April 5, 2005 Well I went to a party last night and around 1 this morning my ex calls again! I was on the phone so after I got off I called her back. She was trying to be real friendly and we talked a bit then I told her I was going to get off after a few minutes. She texted me a little bit after that and said she never pictured things like this so I called her back to find out what she was talking about. I talked to her for a bit in between talking to all my friends at the party. Her and her roomate were wanting to know who was there but I wouldn't tell them, but I know my ex could hear all the girls I was talking to and was really interested. I ended up talking to her roomate for a little bit then she gave the phone back to my ex and I told her I was going to go again and we got off. But get this...today she calls and she wants to know why I changed and she told me who I was now was the guy she fell in love with and why wasn't I like that when we went out. She said I was the first few months but things changed, and I agreed with her and told her she did to and she agreed but we never could come up with any reasons why. She was being super nice but I had stuff to do so I told her I asked if she wanted to call me in an hour or so. She did and we talked awhile longer, but it was just about how i've been and she's been and different stuff she has heard. She was going to lunch with her friends so I told her I would let her go and we got off. Sudden change of events..have been in no contact for the past month and now all this, need advice.
sweetie7 Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 Well, I think in order to give you advice, we need to know what you want. Do you want her back or were you doing fine without her? Is it worth it, or are you moving on? Let us know how you feel about her and what you want!
greenhorn Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 I agree with Sweetie, I have read many of the posts where their ex have called them or they met and talked after breakup. hmm lucky ppl *sigh*
simon_uk Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 lol agreed longhorn! evverybody I know who has had a break up has had the option of trying again and have so successfully. No such luck for me, when I am dumped I AM DUMPED! Simon
greenhorn Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 Yep Simon , but this is what getting dumped means .
sanne Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 trust me you'd rather be dumped then get mixed signals. after 3 days of strict NC, my ex went really crazy. I invite her to hang out, she comes over, we make out again. She tells me the next day that she really wants to *have sex* with me. She then tells me she wishes she was over at my place with me. Then she starts sending me casual text messages about how her sunglasses are broken, and then that her internet is down. I don't really know what the hell is up. I know what i'm not going to do, and that is I'm not going to bring up ANY relationship talk whatsoever. I'm cautiously optimistic, and I'm going to approach the situation as if I've moved on.
Author acidrein_08 Posted April 6, 2005 Author Posted April 6, 2005 I don't know what I think about her, I have been doing great without her but I would probably do great with her too, it wouldn't matter I am not going to rely on people to make me happy anymore becuase in the end you will just get your heart broke. I really don't know what to do, what do you all think? She is being super nice, telling me she is sorry for almost anything small and insignificant..sounds like she really misses me and i'm so confused.
greenhorn Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 I don't know how much would you like this suggestion , but I would like you to be upfront. This time when she ask you to talk to her, you say clearly that look we have broken up and so talking to you is not helping me much to move on. But I was always having great time when we were together , so if you are really serious this time to go back into that we can start talking. You can also say that it would be difficult to be friend or anything else to her rather than her bf. If you have any other issues from the past you can say that too. Give her some time to think and ask her to call back and tell you what she thinks. If she says YES then you know it...if NO then well you are already on the way. The only way this suggestion will help is to get you out of the dilemma.
Author acidrein_08 Posted April 6, 2005 Author Posted April 6, 2005 We talked for two hours tonight, she told me about how much she has thought about me and wish things could have been different and that she was sorry for things she had done and that she said I was better off without her and I told her that she is better off without me too and she said no she isn't. I asked her what she meant, and she said sometimes she is happy but sometimes she ain't. She realizes what she gave up. She was super nice again and we talked about so much. We would have talked more but her roomate was there so we got off after 2 hours. Wow this is crazy, what do I do...need a lot of advice and opinions!
mixwell Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 Honestly I think you should get back with her.. Just tell her straight up that if she is serious then to think about it and get in touch with you once she has made her mind up.. At least find out what the hell is going on.. So if she says she doesnt want to be together big deal you are most of the way on to recovery anyways so just pick up to where you are now right ? No big deal.. Give it another try though.. Whats the worst that could happen ?? DO IT !! Take it easy homie Peace
Author acidrein_08 Posted April 6, 2005 Author Posted April 6, 2005 She called me this morning and we talked for like 30 minutes about different stuff. Then she asked me if i've thought about her any since we been broke up and I told her I had some, she told me she thought about me a lot. But i'm not sure wether she just wants to be friends or wants to start talking again. She had to go to class so we got off but I called her back a few minutes later and we laughed and talked a little more while she was on her way and she thought about skipping but I told her to go..then I told her I had a reason to call and she asked what it was and I told her it was difficult to be her friend...she paused for a minute then said ok. I told her that wasn't all I wanted to say but couldn't find any words to say and she told me to think about it and she would call me after the class...and I told her to think about it, she said ok and we got off. I don't know what to say when she calls back? Please help.
simon_uk Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 Tell her the truth man! Tell her that you have too many feelings for her to just be her friend but if thats all she wants then you have to move on. You will respect her decision and whatever it is you are fine with it. Good Luck!
Author acidrein_08 Posted April 6, 2005 Author Posted April 6, 2005 Ok well she called back and she was really down and depressed becuase I had told her it was difficult to be her friend. We got talking and I told her that I wasn't saying I liked her or that I would even go back out with her but I just wanted to know if talking would go anywhere or if she could ever see us together and I wanted her to think about it and I would respect however she felt. I told her that it would be fun to get to know her again and we laughed and talked about a few other things. I told her to have a good day and she said she would definantly think about things and get back with me, I told her to take her time and then we laughed and got off. Now either way, I know I will be fine and i'm glad I put it out on the table, things look good right?
mixwell Posted April 6, 2005 Posted April 6, 2005 Sounds good that you finally got it out there for her to know how you feel.. I would bet on it that she will say she wants to get back together !! From what it sounds like its only a matter of time.. I think in the next couple days or weeks you will be posting on here about how you got back with her !! haha.. Sorry I dont want to jinx it.. So keep us updated.. its cool that you have updates a couple times a day.. it makes your post interesting.. I will be back to check on yer thread later on.. peace
Author acidrein_08 Posted April 9, 2005 Author Posted April 9, 2005 Just got off the phone with my ex. See yesterday night her friend asked some of my friends if they wanted to go camping tonight with my ex, her, and my ex's roomate. My friend said well can't I bring (me) and she was like I don't know i don't think that would go over to well. But then texted back and my ex said it was cool if I came. I didn't tell my friends all night wether I was going to go or not but I told them all that has happened this week. One said I should go and one said he didn't know. But today my friend called and said to come out there to have some fun with the boys and not worry about them girls so I was like ur right, i'll come. It wasn't 5 minutes after that my ex called and wanted to know how to get her dvd player to work. She wondered wut I was up to and what I was going to do tonight. I told her I didn't know. She said her and her roomate were going camping and had tons of drinks but didn't know if they were going to do it now cuz her roomate might not be in. I called her a liar and said if she didn't want me to go then she could just tell me. She got a little mad about this and said she wasn't and I immediately apolgiized. She said she didn't care if I came tonight and that I could. Then she said she called cuz she didn't know anyone else to ask about the dvd player..so I said alright, bye..she paused then said seeya. I left my friends and called her back but no asnwer...shew I am pissed. What to do?
greenhorn Posted April 9, 2005 Posted April 9, 2005 Man, I think you are jumping the gun, just take it slowly. Your aim is to get her so make strategic moves and not tactical ones. I think you can chuck up the idea of going camping with her, now that you know that she misses you then let her miss more of you so that she can be more sure of what she wants to do. Don't come across as desperate one, which I am sure you are not but then any sort of altercation at this point will seem that only. Just do something else tonight and let her go to camp if she wishes. Hmm..this is what I think,let others chip in with their opinions and then you may be can make up your mind bye
mixwell Posted April 9, 2005 Posted April 9, 2005 You shouldn't have called her a liar.. When she said they didn't know if they were going because the roomate you should have just said OK well just let me know if you are still going or not. You shouldn't have gotten all defensive man !! Anyways I wouldn't worry about it and just take it easy.. Remember you are calm and cool right ? You would never get angry and call her a liar.. You have to keep your poker face even if you have crappy cards !! Take care. peace
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