Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 Yeah if a girl made me feel inadequate down there, I would cut her loose really quick.
Author MapleWish Posted February 16, 2015 Author Posted February 16, 2015 mightycpa Wanting or not wanting sex or the fact that we're not virgins has no relation to how much we like eachother, doesn't make any sense to connect those dots. It's like him saying "you don't wanna have sex? Oh I guess you don't like me." I've had sex in a past relationship and my guy has been been married once before so obviously he had sex with his then wife. He saved himself I didn't but he doesn't question that about me the fact that I'm not a virgin doesn't make him like me any less but now we've agreed we both think sex is for marriage only, I made that mistake but yea we like eachother a lot 1
Author MapleWish Posted February 16, 2015 Author Posted February 16, 2015 And really guys I joke about his size in a good way and the bromance jokes are not that bad like I'll joke they cuddle or slept together in bed and another friend of his named jake came over and jakes sex jokes were through the roof, he joked he'd seen my guy's penis and had sex with him and all that. My jokes are naughty and crass sometimes but my guy has had his share and jakes jokes were especially crude
Author MapleWish Posted February 16, 2015 Author Posted February 16, 2015 Ok looks like no one is ACTUALLY READING THIS. Some of you have gone straight to the fact that I make jokes about his size and have focused on that. THAT is not the issue here I NEVER said it was so be quiet and actually READ. He never said size jokes bother him, he said sex jokes in general. Example: jake came over and commented he and my bf had done stuff in the past on his bed and I joined in jokingly saying "oh that's why I found "white stains" THE CONCERN IS NOT ABOUT JOKING ABOUT HIS SIZE. I make naughty jokes, if I joke about his size it'll be like if I accidentally hit him in the groin I'll rebuttal with "oh it's not that big anyways"
Zahara Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 And really guys I joke about his size in a good way and the bromance jokes are not that bad like I'll joke they cuddle or slept together in bed and another friend of his named jake came over and jakes sex jokes were through the roof, he joked he'd seen my guy's penis and had sex with him and all that. My jokes are naughty and crass sometimes but my guy has had his share and jakes jokes were especially crude Well, whether it's a good joke about his size, he's telling you he doesn't like it. I'm sure you wouldn't like it if he started talking about your breasts or other parts and getting laughs about it. It's one thing to have guys make fun of each other but it's another thing when it's the girlfriend joking about her boyfriend's penis infront of his friends. It all sounds like juvenile locker-room humor.
gaius Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 I NEVER. Make jokes in front of parents. I always know when to make jokes and it's always around regular friends Male friends? I wouldn't like it either if you were doing that around male friends, I don't have a cuckold fantasy.
Author MapleWish Posted February 16, 2015 Author Posted February 16, 2015 Once again zahara actually read. Size jokes are not the issue. He never said "hey I don't like when you joke about my size" he's talking about when I chimed in sith jake and my jokes sound like Ron White
Zahara Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 I make naughty jokes, if I joke about his size it'll be like if I accidentally hit him in the groin I'll rebuttal with "oh it's not that big anyways" Are you 13? This is like Beavis and Butthead. 1
Author MapleWish Posted February 16, 2015 Author Posted February 16, 2015 What's wrong with those jokes zahara? No I'm 22 but not like the guys dot fire back at me
Zahara Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 Once again zahara actually read. Size jokes are not the issue. He never said "hey I don't like when you joke about my size" he's talking about when I chimed in sith jake and my jokes sound like Ron White Who knows what you joke about anymore? It's just juvenile and distasteful. You said he didn't like the sex jokes. You stated sex jokes were in reference to his size and what not. And now you're going round the bend with justifications and what the joke was really about.
Author MapleWish Posted February 16, 2015 Author Posted February 16, 2015 Yea I'm trying to explain what I mean and justify what is and what's not the issue here. I'm firing jokes like the Todd from scrubs, just innuendos here and there. But the guys will do it too so I figured that's unfair but when everyone is saying I'm at fault for joking about size I'm sitting here thinkin ok I'm pretty sure that's not the issue here
Zahara Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 What's wrong with those jokes zahara? No I'm 22 but not like the guys dot fire back at me Does your boyfriend make jokes about your boobs? Does he talk about your vagina? Does he do this infront of his friends? You want to go back and forth with other guys with crass and crude -- go for it. And if your boyfriend hits your boob and says he couldn't feel a thing because it's too small, then by all means fire back. Just because the guys do it, it doesn't mean you have to join in and have a go at him. 1
gaius Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 Maple, there's nothing wrong with a beavis & butthead sense of humor, but if you're making sexual jokes in front of his friends they can easily take that as you signaling availability, or he might just really be a little gay and sensitive about it. You have to manage a guy pretty carefully in front of his friends sometimes.
Author MapleWish Posted February 16, 2015 Author Posted February 16, 2015 And the main deal is nt even jokes directed at him it's literally sex jokes in general. Like when jake came over and commented about sharing the bed so I made the semen joke. My guy will do it too like if I comment about the day behind boring and nothing to do he'll be like "well there's one thing we could do..." he's obviously joking but I'm not the only one with jokes
xxoo Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 It sounds like he's been stuffing that the jokes bother him for whatever reason, and instead of being forthcoming about that, it spilled out in the "future spouse" conversation. If he'd brought this up a different way, do you think you'd have the same defensive response? I make some bawdy jokes, even in mixed company, and my partner is fine with it. If he weren't fine with it, then early on I'd have to decide. Do I tone it down for him? Or do I make note that this might not be the guy for me? It sounds like he said nothing, but made a note that you might not be the woman for him long term and just failed to let you know. Communication 101.
girl-in-boots Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 Bottom line is irrespective of if it's double standards or not he has told you he doesn't like it and so doesn't consider you wife material. End of story. It doesn't matter what people on here say, they are not the ones dating you it matters what he thinks and if he decides that's a deal breaker then that's his deal breaker. On a side note I know my female friends can tell sex/dirty jokes and I would find them funny, but if one of their partners joined in somehow it would stop being funny and just be yuk. That's just the way I would feel. 1
Author MapleWish Posted February 16, 2015 Author Posted February 16, 2015 "Deal breaker" is the one word I hate. To me sex jokes are NOT. A deal breaker. Lying stealing cheating are deal breakers. If I make sex jokes and my guy doesn't like it I think he should at least say "hey these are a little much for me could you tone them down" but fact is he didn't tell me. He said instead he bit his tongue and was waiting to see if I'd stop on my own. Stupid. But to say hey I don't think you're right for me cause the sex jokes sounds ridiculous. My guy isn't that affectionate would I say sorry you're not right for me cause you're not super affectionate
OMC Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 How about this... just do what you want. Keep pissing him off and lose the relationship if you want. Or.... grow up and realize you're not in high school anymore and there are people who find your behavior offensive. Don't like that... then find someone who will appreciate it. Simple really. You have made up your mind that the issue is his and he has no right to be offended. Then just end it and move on to the next joke®. 4
xxoo Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 "Deal breaker" is the one word I hate. To me sex jokes are NOT. A deal breaker. Lying stealing cheating are deal breakers. If I make sex jokes and my guy doesn't like it I think he should at least say "hey these are a little much for me could you tone them down" but fact is he didn't tell me. He said instead he bit his tongue and was waiting to see if I'd stop on my own. Stupid. But to say hey I don't think you're right for me cause the sex jokes sounds ridiculous. My guy isn't that affectionate would I say sorry you're not right for me cause you're not super affectionate It's not the sex jokes, but the feelings he has about them. If he's embarrassed by you when you make these jokes, that's not a matter of reason but feelings. 2
Gaeta Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 But the guys will do it too so I figured that's unfair but when everyone is saying I'm at fault for joking about size You are not his friend, his buddy, one of the guys. You are his girlfriend. 2
Erised Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 Oh. I just read the details on the jokes. No, I'd stop that. That's not an occasional crude joke, that's something personal that he has expressed a desire for you to stop. I change my answer. I thought you were just telling a dirty joke, not joking about his size. You only do that if it's okay with him and there's still lines to actually being funny and not demeaning. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 The worst thing a woman can do to her man is make him feel like a lesser man. Which is exactly what OP is doing... Don't be surprised if he turns nasty OP. 1
preraph Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 OK. Well, you cannot joke to a guy about their size. I only would say something like that to someone who had just insulted me in some way. Even in jest, they don't want anyone present wondering if there's any truth to the rumor.
Rejected Rosebud Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 It all just doesn't make sense to me!! You haven't had sex, you are not interested in having sex, you are talking about whether you are well suited for getting married and the cherry on top is you're making really embarrassing sex jokes around his friends?? This doesn't add up to anything going well!! 1
Photofinish Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I kinda do. I have to question how much you really like each other if neither of you wants sex yet and neither of you are saving your virginity for each other. Sex isnt everything. There are couples of there whose love is stronger and havent had sex. Some people actually want more in a relationship. Just because youre not a virgin doesn mean you have to jump at the next thing in your path. I wish you luck OP, maybe take the jokes down a notch. I make sexual jokes to my BF who I havent had sex with and we both laugh like kids about it but I'm always careful to not say anything to make him feel bad, ya know? If I make fun of him it's always in a way that doesnt make it sound like I want to hurt his feelings . I'll say something like "your head is so big. You're like a bulldog" and we will both laugh about it. I wouldnt say something like "Your head is so big and unproportional to your body. You ugly mofo" Nothing wrong with humor . It's kinda how you go about it . I make more sexual jokes then your average gal but I never will make a comment about his size or anything negative
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