SydneyGirl84 Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 Hi everyone I need some advice please I am a 30 year old girl and have a crush on a guy at work who is only 23 (we work in an office). We have worked together for 2 years (in different departments), I always noticed he was cute but wasn't really interested because I thought he was too young - the past couple of months he's looking more grown up for some reason and I have started liking him more! I don't really know him all that well we only have a bit of small talk every now and again but I feel like a school girl with a crush it's crazy lol. I've been flirting with him lately and he seems to be talking to me more often (not sure if he's just being friendly). Just want some opinions on 1. the fact that it is such a big age gap, 2. we work in the same office and 3. What should I do?? (by the way I do look very young for my age I usually get told I look around 25 sometimes younger - not sure if that makes a difference!) Thanks heaps
wb1988 Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 (edited) Unfortunately it doesn't work both ways, 30f/23m is very different to 30m/23f. I'm sure you look 25 (or younger) but if he's up for it it'll only be for the sex, and you'll be dreaming things that will never materialize. I know that there are many advantages of dating a co worker that make it hard to resist but if you search this forum you'll see many threads about why it's a bad idea (even if you forget about the age gap). Edited February 16, 2015 by wb1988
Author SydneyGirl84 Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 Unfortunately it doesn't work both ways, 30f/23m is very different to 30m/23f. I'm sure you look 25 (or younger) but if he's up for it it'll only be for the sex, and you'll be dreaming things that will never materialize. I know that there are many advantages of dating a co worker that make it hard to resist but if you search this forum you'll see many threads about why it's a bad idea (even if you forget about the age gap). Thanks for the advice! I'm interested to know other people's opinions too, what does everyone else think?
Conners Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Don't worry about the age difference and don't listen to those who assume he just wants sex because he's in his early 20s. I'm older than my boyfriend and he's early 20s and he's extremely committed to me. Just go with the flow!
Buddhist Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Dont be hung up on the age, I was in a relationship with a guy 12yrs younger. It's far less a problem for guys than you think. As long as you look attractive to them and have the right personality they don't actually care. I wouldn't normally go for a work romance but if you're not working side by side its less of a problem. Plenty of corporate offices have couples working there. As long as you're not forced to work shoulder to shoulder with them if it all goes pearshaped, you'll be okay.
BikerAccnt Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I wouldn't be as concerned with the age difference, as I would be about starting an office romance.
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