junemarie Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 I apologize for the typo of the title. I am asking what to do in this situation. We just started dating and not sure what to do or make of this conversation. Please read what he said. I got a contact from someone who wants me to pay $5,500 for arranged married.. Cos I was told if I dont fix my stuff, I will pay extra $3k to 4k if I stay more than September.. So I thought of talking to u first cos since we have a nice chemistry it will make it easier n better.. I know u ain't ready for marriage yet so I thought if I can pay u for the arranged (its gonna be BTW us) while we in real relationship.. The reason why I thought of this, is because I trust u more than someone I don't know.. Its nothing very seriousI'm just making a suggestion n offer n also asking your opinionI just felt there is no need giving someone else the money.Its not like we are officially married.. Its just to make my parole fast so I can get a better job..
Toodaloo Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 (edited) I am going to point out the obvious. Dump him. You haven't been seeing him for long and he is not proposing for the right reasons. Edited February 16, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
Buddhist Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 In the unlikely event it's serious here's my official answer.... Marrying for visa purposes is in most countries considered a crime and fraud. Heavy penalties apply. In most cases you will have to prove the validity of the relationship and that it's been in existence for more than 1 year. Committing fraud is a really bad idea. 1
Maleficent Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 Woah! Look at this huge reg flag flowing over there! Also, 5,500$? This man not only thinks he can but you, he thinks he can buy you for less money than a used car. 2
Author junemarie Posted February 16, 2015 Author Posted February 16, 2015 I am going to point out the obvious. Dump him. You haven't been seeing him for long and he is not proposing for the right reasons. I really hate to dump him. Can I not accept the offer? I am seeing him today about it and wasn't going to accept it
Author junemarie Posted February 16, 2015 Author Posted February 16, 2015 In the unlikely event it's serious here's my official answer.... Marrying for visa purposes is in most countries considered a crime and fraud. Heavy penalties apply. In most cases you will have to prove the validity of the relationship and that it's been in existence for more than 1 year. Committing fraud is a really bad idea. So should I dump him like someone said? I won't accept the money.
PegNosePete Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 I would tell him you don't get out of bed for less than $10k. 2
Gaeta Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 First : It's illegal. Are you ready to have a criminal record for him? Second: You will be financially responsible for him for the next 5 years depending where you live. It's not a small deal, it's a freakin big deal that could get you in debt for years to come. You just started dating and he's offering you this? Hon, he's not dating you for your pretty eyes. He's dating you to obtain his citizenship. 3
Toodaloo Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 I really hate to dump him. Can I not accept the offer? I am seeing him today about it and wasn't going to accept it Get a grip. He is trying to get you to commit fraud! Grow a pair of balls. If you are stupid enough to accept then go ahead. buy you the way he would a pair of shoes or a car... 1
Author junemarie Posted February 16, 2015 Author Posted February 16, 2015 First : It's illegal. Are you ready to have a criminal record for him? Second: You will be financially responsible for him for the next 5 years depending where you live. It's not a small deal, it's a freakin big deal that could get you in debt for years to come. You just started dating and he's offering you this? Hon, he's not dating you for your pretty eyes. He's dating you to obtain his citizenship. Thanks so much for this I really appreciate it this.
Author junemarie Posted February 16, 2015 Author Posted February 16, 2015 Get a grip. He is trying to get you to commit fraud! Grow a pair of balls. If you are stupid enough to accept then go ahead. buy you the way he would a pair of shoes or a car... Thanks so much for opening my eyes.
Buddhist Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 So should I dump him like someone said? I won't accept the money. Or maybe advise him that the going rate for visa marriage is in the region of $50k, not a mere $5k. He can't afford it. 1
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