suhbliem Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 Coworker situation. Known each other 4 months, get along great. Finally go out to lunch. Go back to my place talk some more and hang, having a great time. I ask her if she is seeing anyone and she says "she is kinda seeing someone but is waiting for him to make a move". That's when we hug and say our goodbyes for the day and for some reason she kisses me on the cheek as we are hugging. I lean back so i can see her face while we are still embraced and we end up kissing. She then initiates some tongue action and i tell her more and she sticks her whole tongue in my mouth, it was... exciting. she was really giddy as was I, she was blushing and said she had a great time. The morning after I had serious regrets about kissing her since I realized I would be seeing her at work that day and that she was seeing someone. At the time I thought it would be a good idea to try and break any awkwardness at work by sending her a playful text "butterflies? haha". I kinda realized I screwed up immediately after I sent that text. She didn't come into work that day. I kinda freaked. I called her that afternoon and left a voice message apologizing about kissing her and it's not right for me to come between her and her guy friend. I told her I wouldn't try to pursue her to try and put her at ease. Obviously I haven't heard from her, I doubt I ever will. Probably why I can't stop thinking about it... This all happened last week. What do you think she is thinking right now, and put yourself in her shoes, would you call/text back at some point or just move on
Buddhist Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 I think you're over analyzing. Why not kiss her if the other guy has yet to make a move? If she was truly hanging out for him she wouldn't have been on a date with you in the first place. Sure the txt probably wasn't the best idea, especially if she was feeling weird about seeing you at work. Would have been better to just see her in the kitchen at work and say a friendly hello to let her know things are still cool and not too serious. Meh....just let it go now. She can't hide in her basement forever, at some point she'll have to turn up to work and then you can just do your friendly hello and see where things go from there.
Honeybunnies Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 Is there a chance she could have been talking about you when saying "she's sort of seeing someone but waiting for him to make move"? I don't know, she seemed eager and happy after it happened from what you're saying. I don't think you should've left her a voicemail saying you're sorry. Just be cool.
Author suhbliem Posted February 16, 2015 Author Posted February 16, 2015 Is there a chance she could have been talking about you when saying "she's sort of seeing someone but waiting for him to make move"? I don't know, she seemed eager and happy after it happened from what you're saying. I don't think you should've left her a voicemail saying you're sorry. Just be cool. she said it was someone she knew from highschool. if you had an electric moment like that with a guy but then he leaves you a message like what I left, what would you feel/do? my plan is to just wait it out and hope for a call eventually. it's only been 5 or 6 days I think...
Honeybunnies Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 Ah, I see. Well either way, I agree with the earlier poster. If she was really interested in the other guy, she wouldn't have stuck her tongue down your throat. Let HER decide who she spends her time with. Don't call and say you won't interfere by pursuing, especially if the other guy has yet to make a move. If you like her, tell her.
Honeybunnies Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 if you had an electric moment like that with a guy but then he leaves you a message like what I left, what would you feel/do? I would think "this guy doesn't know what he wants."
Author suhbliem Posted February 16, 2015 Author Posted February 16, 2015 Ah, I see. Well either way, I agree with the earlier poster. If she was really interested in the other guy, she wouldn't have stuck her tongue down your throat. Let HER decide who she spends her time with. Don't call and say you won't interfere by pursuing, especially if the other guy has yet to make a move. If you like her, tell her. I think she knows I like her I think we both know we like eachother. It's just that I am wondering if I have permanently screwed things up with the voice message I left saying I won't pursue her... I'm trying to guage the chance she will call professing her feelings for me... hehe wishful thinking me thinks
Honeybunnies Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 I think she knows I like her I think we both know we like eachother. It's just that I am wondering if I have permanently screwed things up with the voice message I left saying I won't pursue her... I'm trying to guage the chance she will call professing her feelings for me... hehe wishful thinking me thinks Yeah, I wouldn't count on her doing that. She's probably talking to the other guy since you basically told her you weren't going to pursue her. The other guy probably made a move and didn't apologize about it.
wb1988 Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 Everything you did after was a bad idea, especially the voicemail. If she was into you she wouldn't have missed work the next day. Think about it, would you?
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