runaway Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 Apology in advance- it's a slightly long post I met a very attractive girl K at my best friend's going away party. She came with her roommate P, whom my best friend has been attracted to for a long time. K and I clicked the moment we started talking. Quite frankly, the connection I felt with her was the strongest connection I've ever felt with a girl on the first encounter. I was basically with her the entire time. Conversation flowed so nicely, and there was never a dull moment. She seemed as interested in getting to know me as I was interested in getting to know her. Soon we naturally started making out. At the end of the night, the only people left were me, my best friend J, K, and P. The situation was quite ideal for everyone involved because it turns out P and my best friend were also looking to hook up. Soon, I was left with K because J and P went to J's room to take care of business. My best friend said both K and I were more than welcome to use one of the empty rooms in the house. K wanted to stay in the house for her friend. We ended up in the empty room together and spent the night together. I absolutely loved her company. She seemed like a total package. We had just so much to talk about, and the great chemistry we had ultimately led to sex. I did not go to the party with the expectation of finding someone to hook up with, but I met this fantastic girl, and everything happened so quickly. That same night I asked her what she would be doing Saturday evening because I wanted to go on an actual date. She said she might be down to meet up late at night because she and P had plans for the evening. She gave me her number yesterday morning and told me to text her. She has responded to my message only once, and she did not reply when I asked her if she would be willing to meet up later that night. She is yet to respond, and I have not been able to stop thinking about this since last night. I have been asking myself so many questions. Did she feel that the sex we had wasn't good enough? Did her friend P's situation with my friend J have some impact on my situation with K? Was she just interested in having a one night stand even though my gut feeling says otherwise? Whatever the answer(s) may be, I am just so frustrated because I find her so attractive! I have learned not to get emotionally attached to girls, but I really want to see her again! Today I had brunch with my best friend J and another friend who was at the party till the end and saw everything go down. They believe I should wait for a few days to make sure J's situation with P dies out and then send a text message to K to ask her out. I wish I could communicate to her that I really wanna get to know her instead of just hooking up with her. However, I don't know what I should say to her. I know that things have to be subtle in the world of dating to work. My friend J is trying to find out if he can hang out with P one more time and find out what K thought of me and the eventful Friday night by asking P. I sincerely hope to see K again... What do you guys suggest?
CarrieT Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 She probably thinks you are looking for another hook-up and is avoiding the potential of being a booty call. Why don't you ask her on a PROPER date; dinner, etc.
Buddhist Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 Invite her on a date that does not look like an offer of sex. Something in the daytime, in a public place etc. That way you two can build on relational aspects and see if there really is something there.
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