Mark1 Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 For reference: I am 25 and these women were early 30s. I was at a work gala last night, and two married women kissed me on the cheek when they greeted me. It was only the second time I had met them ever. The second one, after kissing me turned her cheek to me to ask for a kiss for herself, too. They are both married, but only the first one's husband was there. I don't think they want to hook up with me or anything, but what I'm wondering is: were they just being nice, or do they find me good looking? I am social but I have low self confidence (I'm able to hide it well in person), I just overthink things a lot afterwards.
stillafool Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 They probably do think you are goodlooking. I sometimes give a quick hug depending on the relationship; but I normally do not kiss men on the cheek when I greet them.
elaine567 Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 Where do you live Mark 1? In some places and in some social circles, social kissing is the norm, in other places no-one socially kisses anybody. 1
elaine567 Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 Interesting read about social kissing - Britain has become a nation of positively effusive kissers | Science | The Guardian
CarrieT Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 I do it all the time - often to people I have met for the first time. No biggie...
Author Mark1 Posted February 15, 2015 Author Posted February 15, 2015 Where do you live Mark 1? In some places and in some social circles, social kissing is the norm, in other places no-one socially kisses anybody. Chicago, USA.
MissBee Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 This is a normal social greeting for some people so I wouldn't read into it. 4
almond Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 In my social groups, this is incredibly common. I often greet people with a kiss on the cheek, regardless of gender. However, she kissed you on the cheek, then waited and asked you to kiss her back. That's a bit different. Still, I wouldn't look into it too much - could have been a bit flirtatious, but also may not have been. Either way, she's married. Don't give it another thought...write it off as "just one of those things."
d0nnivain Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 It means absolutely nothing. To these women a cheek kiss is the equivalent of a handshake. It's a conventional greeting not a commentary about you & is definitely not any indication of sexual or romantic interest . 1
Author Mark1 Posted February 16, 2015 Author Posted February 16, 2015 It means absolutely nothing. To these women a cheek kiss is the equivalent of a handshake. It's a conventional greeting not a commentary about you & is definitely not any indication of sexual or romantic interest . Don't think you read my post.
bolase Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 I've read your post, and I agree with the poster above. It is normal and doesn't indicate anything. 1
mario_C Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 When greeted with a cheek kiss, you're supposed to do the cheek kiss back (on the other cheek! ). It's totally normal in Europe; in the US it's kind of a upper crust gesture but lots of people do it anyway. I reviewed your OP and unless you left something out, no sexual come-on took place there. I meet lady friends with the cheek kiss all the time; guys only do it with each other in Europe, to Will Smith's chagrin (you Google it, I'm tired ).
Author Mark1 Posted February 16, 2015 Author Posted February 16, 2015 I don't think they were coming onto me, I just want to know if they find me handsome/good looking. Would they kiss someone who was ugly?
bolase Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 THey would cheek kiss/greet any guy at a function where that was appropriate unless he had really bad personal hygiene or something. NO, it doesnt mean they found you good looking. They are married anyway, why are you so interested? Youre barking up the wrong tree.
rocketman122 Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 yea ur a us guy so u wouldnt know but in europe people do double kisses as greetings. middle eastern countries (arabs) even do a side to side to side three kiss greeting. men to men. women to women hand shake. even in HS the kids do it all the time. male to male. US people are cold and way too formal when it comes to greetings. its nothing. dont get your hopes up. you learned a bit of worldly culture. youre welcome.
Toodaloo Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 I am from the UK and kiss cheeks all the time unless I know the person is uncomfortable with it. Mind you there are one or two that I still do wind them up as a joke... There are also two men that I kiss on the lips as it is a "normal" greeting for them and just the way they are. Nothing abnormal in the way these women are behaving. They are just being friendly. 1
GemmaUK Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 It's no indication of anything. It's just a greeting. The one who offered you her cheek was just saying 'this is how to greet people'. A bit of social training. Yes they would also kiss someone who they thought was ugly just the same as you would shake any man or woman's hand no matter what they looked like. 1
contact1 Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 One time, one of my female employees when hugging goodbye from a social event, ended up kissing me right on the neck, was totally unexpected. My initial reaction was the "is she hitting on me???" But than she proceeded to do the same thing to other people as she was leaving, was able to make the connection that she was just that type of social person.
siabe Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 Where I'm from it's absolutely normal to kiss a man (and a woman) on the cheek, doesn't matter if you just met each other or if you're friends. Also doesn't matter if you're married or single. It's just the normal way of saying hello to a person.
d0nnivain Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 I don't think they were coming onto me, I just want to know if they find me handsome/good looking. Would they kiss someone who was ugly? Yes, I read your post & I answered your Q. Them kissing you means nothing. It is not a commentary about your looks pro or con. It was like a handshake. Yes, they would kiss you if they thought you were ugly.
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