Amy77 Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 So tonight to get my mind off Valentines day I went to a local club where I was greeted with the sight of my ex kissing the girl he left me for, this was the most painful thing I've ever had to witness..it's knocked me back about ten steps in getting over him I feel awful I can't get the image out of my head what am I going to do I can't sleep I feel sick how have you guys coped with familiar situations?:(
Nolan 93 Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 Yes its hard, but theres nothing you can do. For me I was pissed when i saw my ex post a pic kissing her ex. All we can do is move on, we have to accept that its over, and in my situation it is her loss. I only lost a lot of memories, and gained a broken heart. While she lost everything that I had to offer. ...........It hurts but we cant do anything 2
Jerseyguyy Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 Take it as a painful blessing in disguise. Yes it was terrible to witness that but take it as a reminder he isnt sh**. You deserve better. What ive learned to realize is when someone leaves someone for another person they usually get effed over somewhere along the road! Be strong 1
Marco Valerio Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 Yes its hard, but theres nothing you can do. For me I was pissed when i saw my ex post a pic kissing her ex. All we can do is move on, we have to accept that its over, and in my situation it is her loss. I only lost a lot of memories, and gained a broken heart. While she lost everything that I had to offer. ...........It hurts but we cant do anything Completely agree!!! Many times you realize that they are losing much more than you are!!! 2
marimari Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 I know how you feel, it happend to me. A month after break up, I went to a club with girlfriends and saw him with a girl who he left me for. I was shocked and couldn't even great them with a fake smile, I was paralised, but still I pretended to have a good time at the club. He also didn't even say hello to me, he was kissing her like I wasn't there. When I got home, I couldn't sleep and I need to go to work tomorow. I felt like crap but I didn't give up. I went to work, came home, cried etc. If someone did that to you, it means that he is a piece of ****, and he didn't even think about your feelings. I felt like I wasn't there for three years, and that he doesn't respect me at all. If I was in that situation, ran into him with my boyfriend, I would go somewhere else, cause I know that I hurt that person, and I need not to hurt them anymore. In that situation I would feel bad, and I don't understand why are men doing that. But, karma is a bitch. That girl who he left me for, he cheated him, and she was in a relationship with his good friend. So long sucker! 1
na49 Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 I'm sorry that you had to see that. Seeing a picture of my ex with another guy is bad enough, seeing her kissing someone else? I think I'd die. (not really, I'd just feel dead) I don't really have any magic advice, but seeing that should give you the tools you need to move forward. He is moving on with his life, and so can you. I've been reading a lot of articles on how to move on after a breakup, and one that I read last night said that "we are not entitled to their love anymore". It's obvious, but it was refreshing to read. He doesn't really owe you anything because your relationship is over. (and you don't owe him anything either!)
Elle1975 Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 I hope you left when you saw them. You had nothing to prove and everything to lose on that one. Take something to help you sleep that is not addictive. Realize that depending on this guy to make you happy is a mistake. Why would you allow him to make your life miserable, as he's not even in it anymore? Think about it, and take control back.
stillafool Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 When did you guys break up? I'm sorry you had to see that, especially on VD. I'm sure it was very painful.
HowMightI-live Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 Wow, I'm sorry to hear that. I know that really must suck, but it is what it is. One day it won't hurt as much. One day you'll look back on this and probably laugh, but for right now this is going to suck, a lot. That's just the way life goes.But you' ll be okay. Keep your head up.
Sweetescape910 Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 If he did it to you, he'll do it to her. Sounds like you dodged a billet from an extremely insensitive selfish jerkoff. Now, why aren't you celebrating? Girl you gotta change your mindset into thinking that it's HIS LOSS, and YOUR GAIN.
NoLeafClover Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 So tonight to get my mind off Valentines day I went to a local club where I was greeted with the sight of my ex kissing the girl he left me for, this was the most painful thing I've ever had to witness..it's knocked me back about ten steps in getting over him I feel awful I can't get the image out of my head what am I going to do I can't sleep I feel sick how have you guys coped with familiar situations?:( Amy you will be fine just give it some time. It is too soon and fresh to just come back up like that. It is normal to feel devastated, I have been there myself. Now 2 years after I couldn't care less about the person that I got on here for. I also had a very strong relationship that lasted about 7 months which ended in June 14 and I have coped much better. I guess I am trying to say that things will get better. I am sorry you are at this point in your life right now. Just hold on tight and brace yourself because it's going to be a bumpy ride but I promise you, you will be a much stronger person afterwards. You will look back and like I, you won't believe how you could let this bother you so much. It is just a matter of time. Be strong and try to go easy on yourself. Whatever the case maybe, whatever answers you want to know..just let them go. You will only stress yourself more if you keep thinking about what happened and what you so. Perhaps it might help to think that things could have been much worse. Like being married or having a child involved or even having a mortgage and being in this situation. I don't come on here very often but I saw your thread I really felt for you. Please be strong. 1
mightycpa Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 It's never a nice thing to have to look at.
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