Prettylady77 Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 Okay, long story short Im 26 been married 4 years been with my husband total 6 years we've had plenty ups and downs as any marriage should but it's like valentines holidays birthdays have been basically blown off I do things for his birthday and holidays valentines but he doesn't like today for an example he got up left still is not back I've expressed to him threw out the day that I was upset and he just blew me off I really feel this is very onesided
CarrieT Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 Please use punctuation and sentences... One constant run-on phrase is hard to understand. 1
A O Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 He won't do counseling Then either get it for yourself or you can try and be more detailed here, in regards to things that bother you.
Gloria25 Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 He won't do counseling Then it's time to make a decision. Based on the age you posted, seems you two coupled very young. Maybe he wants out.
Author Prettylady77 Posted February 15, 2015 Author Posted February 15, 2015 Then either get it for yourself or you can try and be more detailed here, in regards to things that bother you. I honestly don't even feel the need to I feel that I should just walk away completely, I mean I'm tired VERY tired it's like I like to communicate and express how I feel he says I'm nagging so I have to go around bottling up everything because I don't want him to feel I'm jumping down his throat
Author Prettylady77 Posted February 15, 2015 Author Posted February 15, 2015 Then it's time to make a decision. Based on the age you posted, seems you two coupled very young. Maybe he wants out. Yes, we did get together young and marry young I already feel this isn't the right marriage/relationship for me. It's like I've never been his PRiority like I shoud be friends family ect come before me all the time I've expressed that and its like it doesn't click or he just doesn't care, we split up for like 6 months back in 2013 because I got fed up and he begged and begged the entire time for me to let him come back until I finally did things were better for awhile but then went back to the same ole again, he's stopped going out with his friends but every now and then he will and will come home at like 3/4 in the morning I have a issue with that because it's not a married persons behavior. He sees no wrong in anything he does even if he knows it's going to cause an argument
A O Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 Yes, we did get together young and marry young I already feel this isn't the right marriage/relationship for me. It's like I've never been his PRiority like I shoud be friends family ect come before me all the time I've expressed that and its like it doesn't click or he just doesn't care, we split up for like 6 months back in 2013 because I got fed up and he begged and begged the entire time for me to let him come back until I finally did things were better for awhile but then went back to the same ole again, he's stopped going out with his friends but every now and then he will and will come home at like 3/4 in the morning I have a issue with that because it's not a married persons behavior. He sees no wrong in anything he does even if he knows it's going to cause an argument Oh, I've seen all this before, basically he doesn't care for you so its high time you cared for yourself...and moved on. Big call this, big call, but you have to learn to start talking control of your own life because only then will life start resembling what you want it to be. 1
StanMusial Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 Yes, we did get together young and marry young I already feel this isn't the right marriage/relationship for me. It's like I've never been his PRiority like I shoud be friends family ect come before me all the time I've expressed that and its like it doesn't click or he just doesn't care, we split up for like 6 months back in 2013 because I got fed up and he begged and begged the entire time for me to let him come back until I finally did things were better for awhile but then went back to the same ole again, he's stopped going out with his friends but every now and then he will and will come home at like 3/4 in the morning I have a issue with that because it's not a married persons behavior. He sees no wrong in anything he does even if he knows it's going to cause an argument Nope. He knows he's in the wrong, but doesn't care because there's no consequences for him. 1
Satu Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 Please use punctuation and sentences... One constant run-on phrase is hard to understand.
preraph Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 I think if you're going to get out you should do it now while you're still in your prime of youth. It's too hard later. Be aware that with you having kids, any new relationship, YOU may be the one viewed as the fuddyduddy who won't leave the house because of the kids. Maybe you can find a nice single father who is nonetheless a gentleman. You married and had kids too young. I'm sure you know that. He is carrying resentment, and now you are too. Make a new life for yourself. INSIST he have joint custody so that you too will have a couple of evenings off to date.
StanMusial Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 I think if you're going to get out you should do it now while you're still in your prime of youth. It's too hard later. Be aware that with you having kids, any new relationship, YOU may be the one viewed as the fuddyduddy who won't leave the house because of the kids. Maybe you can find a nice single father who is nonetheless a gentleman. You married and had kids too young. I'm sure you know that. He is carrying resentment, and now you are too. Make a new life for yourself. INSIST he have joint custody so that you too will have a couple of evenings off to date. Where did she write she had kids? Granted the run on sentences are hard to read... Also, not sure about "insisting" some dubious character be given even partial responsibility for children.
preraph Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 ^ You're right. It doesn't say whether she does or doesn't. If not, I kind of assumed she'd have moved on LONG before this.
Author Prettylady77 Posted February 16, 2015 Author Posted February 16, 2015 I don't have kids. And he does have consequences I put him out previously for this behavior 6 months focused on my career rejected him from my life he constantly emailed called texted I responded with minimal response every blue moon. I don't put up with it anytime he does something I expeess to him how I feel he says he loves me and I'm just too sensitive ect
Author Prettylady77 Posted February 16, 2015 Author Posted February 16, 2015 I mean of course it's not all bad obviously I would've left long ago it's just the lack of communication sometimes with things, then as well the birthday and holiday stuff. We get along great when it's not these issues.
spiderowl Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 Sounds like he just likes to keep you where he can keep an eye on you, meanwhile he goes off and does exactly as he likes. He treats you with minimal interest. You are the wife in the kitchen (mum), his security blanket. He doesn't sound like he cares about your feelings at all, only that you are there.
A O Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 Well, communication is a must have in any relationship, certainly big enough to be a deal breaker if communication styles aren't compatible. I , myself will not last long with someone who can't express their feelings no matter how great everything else is.
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