She had a gut feeling.

[javamonsters]

So here's my story.

 

I got tinder because I was bored. I ended up tinder "fishing" basically swiping right to everyone and whoever I matched with i tried striking up a conversation. And then along came this girl, who seemed to have similar interests. I asked what her Intention's were on tinder she said she was honestly looking for a relationship, as was i.

 

So I asked for her number, texted for a week also skyped a few times. then went out to meet each other. We had a simple dinner then a movie. Where we held hands. And after the movie we went back to her place where we watched a show we both liked. We cuddled and then I went to leave and ended up missing her.

 

Eventually we talked about past relationships. She just broke up with her ex, whom she lost her virginity to, she dated him for 2 months then he broke up with her shortly after her losing it to him. I explained my situation where I have been cheated on and ect. And that I am still a virgin, which she didn't care about.

 

And two weeks after seeing each other and me meeting both her parents, she messaged me saying "she misses holding hands and me being there" and that she was worried about what's going to happen when she goes back to college, which is 4 hours away. I told her I was very willing to do the drive every weekend because I really felt it was right between us, she agreed to do so, and she left for college.

 

I visited twice. The first time we almost had sex, but stopped me because she said she wasn't ready. I understood that. We generally kissed often and cuddled while I was there for the weekend, going out to dinner a couple times. Then she called me after the second visit say its been really stressful adjusting to college and having a boyfriend. We then agreed to have the visit every other weekend.

 

Then came the 4 the weekend of her in college and two days before valentines day, she called me to say that we could no longer date because she's stressed with school, and still hasn't gotten over her ex boyfriend. I was in shock. Because things didn't seem that way from my end. She said she also felt our connection wasn't there anymore, and that it was just a gut feeling that she had to do this. I asked her why so soon to make that decision because she said things felt different since the last visit. She said she wasn't sure and was confused about it.

 

So after texting after the phone call to just confirm everything with her, that it was actually over, I asked if I did anything wrong she said it didnt have anything to do with me. So out of bordem I re downloaded tinder, and it said she hasn't been active since we went out on the first date. I check 4 hours later and it said she was active one hour ago. I'm guessing she was just doing the same thing she did to me, even though she said she wanted her own time to herself to get over her ex.

 

Any opinions on this? We were talking for 2 months exactly.

Edited February 15, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[Eaglestar83]

She's young, and heartbroken.... Move on. Girls under the age of 25 change their mind almost every day, don't try to analyse or reason with her because there is no reason. One day she could tell you she loves you and the next she leaves and go back on tinder. That's 21st century courtship for you....

[marimari]

I think that she was honest with you, and that is okay. She probably didn't get over her ex, and it is better for you to find that now, than later. You should move on, and find someone available and for you.