Atmosphere77 Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 Well I thought I'd be fine on Valentine's day lol. About 3 weeks ago my friend came home from work to find his girlfriend of 3 years had moved out. There were no fights or neglect. I've been friends with both of them since before they met each other. She told him the usual "need space" "take a break" bull**** etc. She also moved in with her girlfriend and signed a 1 year lease. (Big space lol) He is not taking it well of course. He was planning on buying a ring this year. The past 3 weeks they've been talking and even hooking up. She told me that she was feeling marriage pressure from friends and family and wanted to be 100% sure he was the one because she doesn't believe in divorce. She volunteered that info and I believed her. I told him to go NC, give her space, and I'm sure she'll come back. Now they do have some loose ends to tie up. He was way too good to her. Always treated her well and wasn't a wussbag about it either. He leased her a car, she lived in his house rent free etc. He needs to get the car out of his name and off his insurance. The only issue I'd see as a problem for them was she is 27 and he is 40. So anyway, I'm not on facebook a lot and I'm no fb detective but there's some mystery guy popping up in her check ins and pics. It totally pisses me off that it always has to be another guy/girl. And she is a good person. Tonight my friend took off from work and we're going to our usual bar. I'm thinking of texting her that my friend will be there so she doesn't show up with this new guy. Luckily my friend deleted his FB years ago because he's in law enforcement, but it's a matter of time because we all have many mutual friends. So I'm asking, should I break it to him or hope it resolves itself? He's a tough guy but I'm sure he isn't when he's alone
darkbloom Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 Well I thought I'd be fine on Valentine's day lol. About 3 weeks ago my friend came home from work to find his girlfriend of 3 years had moved out. There were no fights or neglect. I've been friends with both of them since before they met each other. She told him the usual "need space" "take a break" bull**** etc. She also moved in with her girlfriend and signed a 1 year lease. (Big space lol) He is not taking it well of course. He was planning on buying a ring this year. The past 3 weeks they've been talking and even hooking up. She told me that she was feeling marriage pressure from friends and family and wanted to be 100% sure he was the one because she doesn't believe in divorce. She volunteered that info and I believed her. I told him to go NC, give her space, and I'm sure she'll come back. Now they do have some loose ends to tie up. He was way too good to her. Always treated her well and wasn't a wussbag about it either. He leased her a car, she lived in his house rent free etc. He needs to get the car out of his name and off his insurance. The only issue I'd see as a problem for them was she is 27 and he is 40. So anyway, I'm not on facebook a lot and I'm no fb detective but there's some mystery guy popping up in her check ins and pics. It totally pisses me off that it always has to be another guy/girl. And she is a good person. Tonight my friend took off from work and we're going to our usual bar. I'm thinking of texting her that my friend will be there so she doesn't show up with this new guy. Luckily my friend deleted his FB years ago because he's in law enforcement, but it's a matter of time because we all have many mutual friends. So I'm asking, should I break it to him or hope it resolves itself? He's a tough guy but I'm sure he isn't when he's alone God that's a tough position to be in. If he is paying for things for her though I would let him know that there's possibly a new guy. You're going to piss one or the other one off.
Author Atmosphere77 Posted February 15, 2015 Author Posted February 15, 2015 He's telling me "she walked out so they're done" but you know how everyone goes back and forth in their heads after a break up. The car lease is the only urgent thing. I texted his ex to give her a heads up that he'd be out tonight. Didn't say anything else though. Not my business. I guess we'll go out tonight and have a happy valentines night lol. Hopefully nobody else says anything.
darkbloom Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 It's never over until people have successfully f**ked with each other enough to send them back out into the world. I am proof that it is never over when they say it's over.
dyna85 Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 First of all, you're jumping to conclusions in thinking that this guy popping up on her FB is the reason for her decision to take a break from your friend. I would stay out of it completely and let your friend and his ex deal with each other as they will. Would you want a third party involved in your breakup? I'd be pissed if someone were feeding me any info about my ex, good or bad. It's none of anyone's business but theirs.
bubbaganoosh Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 She should have at least told the guy she was leaving. Just pulling up stakes and running is chicken $h!t and IMO not worth chasing. I think he can do better and I hope he does.
No Limit Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 He was indeed far too good for her. But it's indeed a tough spot - I'd give it some time before telling him, let him heal for a bit. And even if they share mutual friends, maybe they won't say anything to him? That would make telling him pointless (it's pointless anyway, that girl isn't going to find another guy like that in her life and he can do MUCH better than a gold digger).
Author Atmosphere77 Posted February 15, 2015 Author Posted February 15, 2015 I'm not going into detail but I'm 99% sure. I'm also not trying to get into the middle of it. I'm just worried when my friend finds out he'll be home alone with his gun next to him. You never know. And what she did was really f@@ked up but she probably did it that way so he couldn't talk her out of it. I will remain friends with both of them regardless
Author Atmosphere77 Posted February 15, 2015 Author Posted February 15, 2015 I'm more than likely not going to say anything. She wasn't a gold digger. He's too generous. He's a good looking guy. Her......not so much. He'll be better off and ok in the long run.
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