NTB Posted April 4, 2005 Posted April 4, 2005 so i am back to square one and i was doing so good, i thought anyway. all weekend i kept getting these calls in the middle of the night first i ignored them but then i figured since no telephone # was coming up that i should pick it up it could have been an emergency. well it wasn't it was my ex gf calling me all drunk telling me she misses me and all this crazy stuff. she did this like 3 night in a row, i thought only guys got drunk and called their ex gf's.... so know after weeks on NC and missing her like crazy and getting horny at the thought of her i am feeling like crap. and aside from that i am worried about her i mean i don't even know who she was with, i hope she wasn't driving. so my question here is i want to call her and make sure she is okay but then again i don't know if i should? i am back to being confused.........when will this pain ever end
tanbark813 Posted April 4, 2005 Posted April 4, 2005 Originally posted by NTB so my question here is i want to call her and make sure she is okay but then again i don't know if i should? No you don't, man, you're just looking for excuses to call her. Do what you gotta do, but I'm guessing you'll be happier with yourself in the long run if you remain strong and not call.
Merin Posted April 4, 2005 Posted April 4, 2005 Ugh! I hate drunk dialers If you're trying to move past the break up then NO I still wouldn't call her.. Obviously she's got some of her own issues and isn't handling the break up as well as she might have lead you to initially believe.. for real 3 nights in a row? Don't call her.. if she was dialing your digits 3 drunk ass nights in a row.. she'll be calling you again (hopefully when she's sober) When she does.. I would tell her you don't appreciate the intoxicated phone calls (if she's sober when she calls) and if she's drunk and calls.. tell her NOT to call you again UNLESS she's sober and can have an intelligent conversation. Good Luck
whichwayisup Posted April 4, 2005 Posted April 4, 2005 Don't call her because it's just going to make you miss her more. AND she may be remembering she called you in her drunken stuper and regret doing that...Just isn't worth your heartache. Keep busy with friends, enjoy spending time doing things you like to do and try to put her OUT of your heart and mind. Yeah I know it's easier said than done, but you have to do this for YOU.
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted April 4, 2005 Posted April 4, 2005 What happens if you call her and she has NO recollection whatsoever and you look like a desperate idiot making up stupid excuses to call her. Continue NC, The balls in your court. She was the one who caved (if she remembers) not you. You were the strong one. Drunken phone calls are never serious. Just some little girl acting stupid.
Author NTB Posted April 4, 2005 Author Posted April 4, 2005 alright so NC it is......thanks everybody guess i was just feeling week
RecordProducer Posted April 4, 2005 Posted April 4, 2005 Next time she calls, tell her "Please talk to me when you're completely sober!" Or you can call her and ask her to stop calling and if there is something she wants to say to you that you don't know already, she can do it when she is not drunk. Furthermore, remind her that you broke up and no matter what she says, you will not change your mind. So there is no point in her humiliating herself and calling you in the middle of the night.
begman Posted April 4, 2005 Posted April 4, 2005 I'm assuming she broke up with you. NC is the best my brother. I'm there now and it is hard but it has to be done. Contacting her gives her back all the power.
moon Posted April 4, 2005 Posted April 4, 2005 I was in a short term (maybe five months) relationship once and when we "broke up" he did the same thing to me. Thank God for Caller Id. I never picked up the calls. He did it over and over again and only on weekends when he'd go out. It was pretty obvious what he was up to--you know the "booty calls" -- I think is the terminology. I did run into him once later and was like... dude what's your problem. He totally blew it off. He sort of made me feel stupid for even asking. Needless to say there was no hope for reconciliation there (neither wanted it). I'd wait for this girl to make an honest attempt at calling you sober and I would keep that ball in her court. She has no business calling you drunk. That's a pretty immature move and 9 times out of 10 it is looked at as a mistake on the caller's part....maybe even a source of embarrassment. I might send her an e-mail, though (less confrontational) and tell her if she wants to actually hold a conversation with you it'd be best when she's sober. But better yet I would probably just ignore the late night phone calls. It's pretty tacky and desperate to go that route. Sorry, I know it's your ex we're talking about. But hopefully she'll see the error of her ways and call during normal business hours. It sounds like you really love and miss her. Maybe you guys will get back together....who knows. Good luck.
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