marie55567 Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 I met a really good guy and we been on 3 dates. The chemistry is there and he is what I look for in a man. We talked about only dating each other exclusively and I want to tell him what I decide when we go on a fourth date. I been hurt before in the past and trying not to tell it ruin a potential good relationship and it somewhat is holding me back. I'm also afraid what my friend's might think would they think I'm moving too fast? I'm really thinking about this and I feel in my gut it's the right time without any doubt to start a relationship.
mightycpa Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 There are two kinds of people in the dating world. Those that can date multiple people, and those that can't. This I been hurt before in the past and trying not to tell it ruin a potential good relationship and it somewhat is holding me back. tells me you're not quite ready for an exclusive love relationship. Your heart is still sore and it is focused on not getting hurt again. Love isn't really about trust.. it is about the acceptance of risk. Of course you might get hurt again. It goes with the territory. That tells me it is too soon, although I don't think you should just throw this guy away either. Somehow, you have to make him understand. 1
Author marie55567 Posted February 14, 2015 Author Posted February 14, 2015 There are two kinds of people in the dating world. Those that can date multiple people, and those that can't. This tells me you're not quite ready for an exclusive love relationship. Your heart is still sore and it is focused on not getting hurt again. Love isn't really about trust.. it is about the acceptance of risk. Of course you might get hurt again. It goes with the territory. That tells me it is too soon, although I don't think you should just throw this guy away either. Somehow, you have to make him understand. Well I learned I shouldn't be afraid to try love again and take risks. I been ready to move on from the past sometimes you get abit paranoid lol. I been single for a couple years now and I'm ready to settle down. It took me so long to find a good guy.
Popsicle Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 No, it's not too soon if you both want it.
crosswordfiend Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Nope not too soon. The pacing of a relationship with a single person shouldn't have any bearing on whether you are seeing others on the side. 1
MissBee Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 I met a really good guy and we been on 3 dates. The chemistry is there and he is what I look for in a man. We talked about only dating each other exclusively and I want to tell him what I decide when we go on a fourth date. I been hurt before in the past and trying not to tell it ruin a potential good relationship and it somewhat is holding me back. I'm also afraid what my friend's might think would they think I'm moving too fast? I'm really thinking about this and I feel in my gut it's the right time without any doubt to start a relationship. For me, pretty much all my boyfriends were men I got into a relationship with after 3 or 4 dates which were usually stretched out over 2 or 3 weeks, I also tended to talk to them on the phone a lot before the dates and in between. So usually by then I had a good sense of whether or not we wanted to be exclusive. We usually decided to see only each other after 3/4 dates for me and then maybe made things "official" shortly after. 2
spiderowl Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 Pretty much all the guys I've dated who have decided they like me have broached the subject of exclusivity on the first, second or third date. I don't think it's too soon, but you could sound him out on the subject of exclusivity so you both have a chance to discuss your feelings and neither feels pressured. I suspect a decision on both your parts will emerge from a discussion.
Author marie55567 Posted February 15, 2015 Author Posted February 15, 2015 For me, pretty much all my boyfriends were men I got into a relationship with after 3 or 4 dates which were usually stretched out over 2 or 3 weeks, I also tended to talk to them on the phone a lot before the dates and in between. So usually by then I had a good sense of whether or not we wanted to be exclusive. We usually decided to see only each other after 3/4 dates for me and then maybe made things "official" shortly after. We been talking almost everyday since we met so since we communicated reguarly plus the dates I am sensing the type of person he is
Gaeta Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 I met a really good guy and we been on 3 dates. The chemistry is there and he is what I look for in a man. We talked about only dating each other exclusively and I want to tell him what I decide when we go on a fourth date. I been hurt before in the past and trying not to tell it ruin a potential good relationship and it somewhat is holding me back. I'm also afraid what my friend's might think would they think I'm moving too fast? I'm really thinking about this and I feel in my gut it's the right time without any doubt to start a relationship. Yes it's ok to become exclusive after 3-4 dates if you both wish it. It's not a marriage, it's just you 2 deciding to concentrate on each other, how could that be bad for anyone. Your friends can huff and puff all they want, YOU decide how to lead your love life. 1
BluEyeL Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 Yes, I also concur that it's OK to be exclusive after 3 dates. It doesn't mean it's a relationship just yet, because that cannot be rushed much, but not everyone dates around after date 3. Generally after date 3 many people decide to focus just on that one person. 1
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