rollercoaster11 Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Just curious...did your ex call or text to say Happy Valentines Day or did you contact them and did you get a response back? 1
mightycpa Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Just curious...did your ex call or text to say Happy Valentines Day or did you contact them and did you get a response back? :lmao: Oh, RC! Unless you're text begins with "Do you know what I hate about you?", then DON'T DO IT! It's one of those rollercoaster days, isn't it? Hang in there, you're right, it does get easier, one day at a time. 2
4everangel Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Yes my ex contacted me and he even sent a picture of a beautiful basket filled with things however he said I would have to wait for it. Made me cry wasn't expecting and I'm still very much in love with him.... I wonder if he is celebrating it with someone else.....
towardthefuture Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Yes my ex contacted me and he even sent a picture of a beautiful basket filled with things however he said I would have to wait for it. Made me cry wasn't expecting and I'm still very much in love with him.... I wonder if he is celebrating it with someone else..... That sounds like one of the most cruel, sociopathic things I've ever heard 4
kenmore Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Yes my ex contacted me and he even sent a picture of a beautiful basket filled with things however he said I would have to wait for it. Made me cry wasn't expecting and I'm still very much in love with him.... I wonder if he is celebrating it with someone else..... Ouch!! If he's celebrating it with someone else, he's a complete dick! If not, why are you two apart? I have not heard anything but I mailed two Valentines cards Thursday. One to my wife and one to my step-daughter (who is 17.) I texted with my blood daughter today and we wished each other a happy one, but she has her own Valentine. For me, a much bigger one is our fifth anniversary which is next week. 1
4everangel Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 I have mixed feelings about it , we were together a year only been broken up a few weeks, reason for breakup pressure and not knowing what they want.... Why wld he get you a gift but not take u out or spend time with you. Called to say thank you but seemed like someone walked in and he hung up quick
High_hopes Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 (edited) Yes my ex contacted me and he even sent a picture of a beautiful basket filled with things however he said I would have to wait for it. Made me cry wasn't expecting and I'm still very much in love with him.... I wonder if he is celebrating it with someone else..... I just posted a thread asking if it were absurd of me wanting to send something to someone I just broke it off with. I wanted to be nice and try to create peace. It was going to include a note suggesting it was a peace offering.. Reading this makes my move seem tame. I risk making a fool out of myself and sending the wrong message.. This guy is just comes of like a jerk. Why would he do that? Were those things for you or someone else? I don't understand. He didn't say, I miss you , these are for you, come and get them.....or I'm bringing them. Was this an in your face thing? Seems that way. He should deserve you, not the opposite. Send him a picture of your boobs and tell him he'll have to wait...the rest of his life. Edited February 14, 2015 by High_hopes 1
4everangel Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 He sd it was for me we live about an hour away, I was hoping he would of asked to see me and spend time with me one of these three days but nothing . Not sure why the gift and why a picture why not surprise me . I haven't had a Valentine's in over 3 years this wld be my first . Yet I'm sad and my emotions are wacked and confused
High_hopes Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 He sd it was for me we live about an hour away, I was hoping he would of asked to see me and spend time with me one of these three days but nothing . Not sure why the gift and why a picture why not surprise me . I haven't had a Valentine's in over 3 years this wld be my first . Yet I'm sad and my emotions are wacked and confused Ahh maybe I miss understood. Then maybe he thought he was being cute and fun. He should have elaborated a little bit more. Maybe ask him why you have to wait. Maybe he's on his way. 1
mightycpa Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 i'm going to take it all back, thanks to high_hopes 1
smellysocksuni Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Haven't heard a thing. Makes me think she's spending it with someone else.
4everangel Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Thanks I wish he was on his way . The best gift I cld have on Valentine's day would to see him and hang out talking and watching tv or going to the park or zoo things we enjoyed doing .... Miss him a lot happy Valentine's day to those like me alone and wishing those we care about were with us or still wanted us in there lives.....
High_hopes Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 i'm going to take it all back, thanks to high_hopes I tend to play devils advocate and give people the benefit of the doubt. I don't know this guy. His move certainly isn't very tactful and maybe he's terrible at this stuff. Maybe his intentions were good. If that's the case. Definitely not smooth character. 1
Holmes85 Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Why would you want to wish your Ex girlfriend / boyfriend "Valentine Wishes"? They broke up with you, thought they can do better, maybe already lined up someone before they exited the relationship with you .....and here you are willing to text / calling them "Happy Valentines Day"? By calling / texting your Ex'es, you are letting them know that they are the best thing since slice bread and you are not over them and they are still on your mind, which not only would give them an ego boost but also degrade your value as a person in their eyes. 2
High_hopes Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 (edited) Why would you want to wish your Ex girlfriend / boyfriend "Valentine Wishes"? They broke up with you, thought they can do better, maybe already lined up someone before they exited the relationship with you .....and here you are willing to text / calling them "Happy Valentines Day"? By calling / texting your Ex'es, you are letting them know that they are the best thing since slice bread and you are not over them and they are still on your mind, which not only would give them an ego boost but also degrade your value as a person in their eyes. Not sure were it says who broke up with who here...maybe I missed something. I think each situation is different. In either case, someone may have regrets that they broke up with someone. V-day is a perfect day to say I miss you and want you back. What if someones actions initiated the other person breaking up with them? In this case the dumped may be looking to say they are sorry. Maybe someone just really loves someone and has hopes to get that person back. It doesn't matter who broke up with who. Depending on the circumstances Taking a risk isn't always a bad thing. Just because someone broke up with you doesn't mean they are putting themselves on a higher pedestal. They just may be on a different one. I don't know. I think your statement is generalizing. Edited February 14, 2015 by High_hopes 1
Holmes85 Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 High_Hopes, You say that every situation is unique and different and yet here you are linking the whole thing to your own story (you can see your own threads for the reference). I don't know. I think your statement is generalizing. First you don't know and then you think I'm generalizing, I have a feeling that you are conflicted towards your own judgments and feelings. I'm not just saying that to make you feel worse or anything, I am saying this because after reading your other threads, you do feel conflicted.
High_hopes Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 (edited) High_Hopes, You say that every situation is unique and different and yet here you are linking the whole thing to your own story (you can see your own threads for the reference). First you don't know and then you think I'm generalizing, I have a feeling that you are conflicted towards your own judgments and feelings. I'm not just saying that to make you feel worse or anything, I am saying this because after reading your other threads, you do feel conflicted. No. Your wrong. This has nothing to do with my own situation but lets use me as an example. I broke up with this girl and there is nothing wrong with me having second thoughts about that. Happens every day...... My reasons for breaking it off had to do with her level of commitment and not being able to provide me with what I want in a relationship. It wasn't because I found someone else or even a conscious decision that I can do better. I want to be with this person. If she came to me, even though I broke up with her, and said she made a mistake and she wanted to try there would be nothing wrong with that. She realized she didn't want to lose me and through that possible lose realizes she wants to make a bigger commitment. I broke up with her and she came to me in this example. There is nothing wrong with her contacting me OR me contacting her in this case. She may realize she can lose something good if she doesn't give more OR I may realize I want to give someone I love another chance. My example is just one example of many ways.reason it would be ok for someone to contact an ex who broke up with them. Probably hundreds of scenerios. I don't think the OP said who broke off with who or why. Your statements seemed to point to everyone. No one should contact an ex who broke it off with you. I was making the point that that isn't true. Edited February 15, 2015 by High_hopes
kenmore Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 Well, my ex broke it off with me but for a very specific reason (she said) and I have been working hard at correcting that issue. Therefore I have had a slender hope that things could work out. Add to that the fact that she said Christmas eve that she wasn't sure she wants a divorce and on my birthday (two weeks ago) she invited me over for dinner with her and her family. I take all of that as positive. But, even though I sent her and her daughter V-day cards, neither of them did squat today. I justify her daughter not contacting me by thinking to myself she's 17 and that kind of follow-up may not be part of her routine yet or that she may have been told by her mother not to. I don't know my wife's issue and expected something. Needless to say I am disappointed. It's a good thing probably. I spent the afternoon doing my disclosures for the divorce (a fitting way to spend Valentines day NOT!) so am feeling more that I really need to let it all go. Valentines day isn't the biggest special day of the year, but would it have killed them to just wish me well? A real turning point is coming up in a week and a half, and that's our fifth anniversary. Again I sent a card and a gift (made of wood...tradition.) We have exchanged gifts for Christmas and our birthdays but if she blows that off, it's our last special occasion before our finalization, so that will set my mind I think. I have probably been a fool. I'm sure I'm not the first or the last, but I gave it hope. I'm sure some of my emotion today is caused by depression of not being busy and spending time working on our divorce. So much crap in this is mental. Mental games, manipulations, hurting or being nice at certain times to get a response. That's what really does the damage. I have tried very hard to remain constant. Most likely after this day is history, I'll not give a crap anymore. tonight, it would have been nice to hear something!
kenmore Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 And for what it's worth, I am very conflicted.
Hija77 Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 Hell no, I didn't text/contact/send him anything. What for?
Kinetica84 Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 Nope. I was all out day celebrating my birthday with friends and family. Having to good a time to give a sh*t lol
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