guynextdoor Posted February 14, 2015 Share Posted February 14, 2015 Hi everyone I have also posted something similar under breaks but im just looking for as much information as I can, and to see what others have done when in this situation It started the other day when I was on my gf's facebook and seen a message she forgot to delete. Anyway I downloaded all of her fb history thinking it would tell me everything she has ever said to other guys. As I downloaded the file she breaks in to hysteria asking me not to look and she will tell me everything she has said. I said this wasn't good enough and started to pack my bags, I gave her the option that I either look at the file or we break up and she wouldn't give me an answer. She then promised me she was telling the truth, that she only messaged one old friend and that's all it was, I begged her to tell me everything then (and maybe we could try to fix thing) and she promised it was just one guy and it never went any further than messages. I ask her anyway to leave me her passwords for every e-mail account she has, also fb and anything else. I get up in the morning to find she gave me nothing and left for work. When she gets back it goes straight into an argument again, with me this time I open the chat history file, with her breaking into hysteria again she now says that she has been messaging other men also, not only that she has talked about meeting up with them, having sex with them, slagging me off to them. And even one of them she actually met up with twice, she has promised she ahs never done anything and offering to take a lie detector test, Really I have came here as I don't know what to do anymore, this is the girl I love and have a child with, but I don't trust her anymore, I don't believe her anymore when she says she has not cheated, I just don't believe anything she says anymore. Every time I look at her the pain is to much and I find my-self slipping deeper into depression. Has anyone else had a similar experience to me? what did you do next? i.e. repair the relationship, have a break, end the relationship. What can be done to regain the trust and for me to believe that she didn't cheat? All that is going through my mind is that she actually met up with one of them, and she probably at least kissed him. Am I best now to just walk away from the relationship to stop anymore hurt? Thanks From theguynextdoor Link to post Share on other sites
Ieris Posted February 14, 2015 Share Posted February 14, 2015 I would say cut her off, she doesn't deserve a second chance. Not sure if she physically cheated but she did emotionally cheat on you. Fair enough if she slipped up just once but hers is a constant thing which probably would have developed into something more had you not caught her. Clearly there is something you're not giving her and is looking for it elsewhere so cut her loose and let her go get it... I have been with a few cheaters and they're only ever sorry when they get caught. I even gave some a second chance, they just went back to their old ways but just more smart about covering their tracks. Some did behave themselves after getting caught but it just wasn't the same anymore. Whenever the phone rang I'd wonder who it is, I'd wonder where he went, who he is with... basically constantly looking for clues that he's upto something. It was suffocating and not the kind of relationship I wanted, they had their chance and they blew it. Some people can build trust again and some can't, you know yourself best so you need to think about whether its worth another shot. Also do you believe she is going to change? Link to post Share on other sites
Alexjones1 Posted February 14, 2015 Share Posted February 14, 2015 I would say cut her off, she doesn't deserve a second chance. Not sure if she physically cheated but she did emotionally cheat on you. Fair enough if she slipped up just once but hers is a constant thing which probably would have developed into something more had you not caught her. Clearly there is something you're not giving her and is looking for it elsewhere so cut her loose and let her go get it... I have been with a few cheaters and they're only ever sorry when they get caught. I even gave some a second chance, they just went back to their old ways but just more smart about covering their tracks. Some did behave themselves after getting caught but it just wasn't the same anymore. Whenever the phone rang I'd wonder who it is, I'd wonder where he went, who he is with... basically constantly looking for clues that he's upto something. It was suffocating and not the kind of relationship I wanted, they had their chance and they blew it. Some people can build trust again and some can't, you know yourself best so you need to think about whether its worth another shot. Also do you believe she is going to change? My advice man, Cheaters don't respect themselves, so how can you expect them to ever respect you! You already know what to do.... Alex Link to post Share on other sites
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