rollercoaster11 Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 I must be in the acceptance phase because I saw my ex today at work and we actually had to sit beside each other and normally when I see him I get this funny feeling in my stomach and I get all nervous but not this time. I actually spoke to him and asked him questions pertaining to the job....all without the arkwardness. I haven't ran into him in two weeks so I thought that would be my feelings when I saw him again bv nah..none of that. Needless to say I was and am so amazed at how strong I was. I have done the NC since Jan 2015 so I guess it must be working. Does that means that I don't love him anymore on the contrary my feelings are stronger but I choose to put me first this time. Happy Valentines Day!!! It definitely gets easier. 1
erklat Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 It does get easier but since it has been couple of weeks you are still nowhere near acceptance. You probably feel temporal relief for progressing to the next stage in the circle of grieving but there may be relapses.
mightycpa Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 (edited) Does that means that I don't love him anymore on the contrary my feelings are stronger but I choose... Yeah, "choosing" is not really the nature of love, is it? It is a good sign that you can sit and talk to him without all of the fight or flight signals firing off in your head, but until you wake up one morning with the certainty that you don't care anymore, then that's the day you're good to go. Until then, you just might still be on the roller coaster. I knew it! Edited February 14, 2015 by mightycpa
Author rollercoaster11 Posted February 14, 2015 Author Posted February 14, 2015 Yeah, "choosing" is not really the nature of love, is it? It is a good sign that you can sit and talk to him without all of the fight or flight signals firing off in your head, but until you wake up one morning with the certainty that you don't care anymore, then that's the day you're good to go. Until then, you just might still be on the roller coaster. I knew it! I agree that Im definitely not trully over its just I felt this empowerment at that moment the real feeling that I got from it...is that he couldn't see my pain and that meant a lot to me. Thanks all of you for your replies.
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