Is it bad or normal that I'm scared to hang out with a guy with that I barely know al

[beachlover965]

alone* I am an 18 year old girl and a guy that is 2 years older than me wants to hang out with me alone at his house and is using me for sex only. Is it wrong of me to keep saying no to him when he asks to hang out because I'm worried and scared that something is going to happen?

[Honeybunnies]

If you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, you need to listen to that! There are so many people who will take advantage of you if you don't.

 

Do you want just casual sex with him? If a FWB is what you want, you can find someone else you can feel comfortable around.

[preraph]

You don't need to just let this guy use you for sex no matter where it is, and you certainly shouldn't go to his house if you already have your antennae up about him. Tell him you don't hang out at guy's houses until you've dated them out and about for some time. And if you don't trust him -- you should follow your instincts. Find someone else. Just because he's available doesn't mean you have to date him or sleep with him. You're 18. You can find any number of men.

[d0nnivain]

It's bad that he wants to use you for sex. It's good that you figured this out & have the good sense to stay away.

 

 

If he wants to take you on a proper date that would be one thing.

 

 

Going to is house will most likely turn out badly for you.

 

 

Forget this guy & make friends with a better class of men.

[Gaeta]

Listen to your instinct and do not go. You don't know him enough.

 

Also, I read your last thread. Do NOT ever have unprotected sex no matter what even if the guy tells you he is free of STD. You got that? If a man insists on not using condoms you get up and go.

 

If a man does not make you feel safe and comfortable you drop him. You are never gonna run out of men to date. The world is full of men.

[spiderowl]

No, you are a free agent. You make your own choices about who you hang out with. He has no control over you. When it comes to your life, there is no right or wrong about what to do in society: you do what is comfortable and feels right to you. Your feelings might go back to when you were a child and had to do what parents said even if you felt uncomfortable. In adult relationships, you have authority over yourself. Trust your feelings: if you are worried or uncomfortable, don't spend time with him. In fact, even if you aren't worried or uncomfortable, you have no obligation to him. You choose whether or not to hang out with anyone.

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

Listen to your instincts. I'd stay away.

 

If you do go, you will likely feel regret later. No one (guys or girls) likes to feel used, and it sounds like he wants to use you for sex.

[beach]

No reason to go to his place especially if you don't feel comfortable.

 

Any guy should ask you OUT on a date if he intends to see you - otherwise it's just a booty call.

 

It's ok to tell him no! He will just ask the next gal that seems more willing.

[stillafool]

alone* I am an 18 year old girl and a guy that is 2 years older than me wants to hang out with me alone at his house and is using me for sex only. Is it wrong of me to keep saying no to him when he asks to hang out because I'm worried and scared that something is going to happen?

 

Of course not. Drop all contact with him if he only wants to use you for sex. Never let anyone use you. Most 20 year old guys are hitting on girls left and right. Don't be one of his FWBs.