quattrob Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 (edited) Hey all, Just wanted to share what happened today and my experience. So this morning my ex (who doesn't know what she wants and it's valentine's day in asia) messages me and asks if I can talk, I ignored for awhile and then she tries calling me several times. So I told her I was working and she said sorry. I asked her what is this about? And she said just thinking of you. I tell her we aren't together anymore. She tells me she knows. At this point I had hope that maybe we can get back together but after talking for a long while, she is still the same as she was, she had no real intention to get back with me. Her reasoning is that she's afraid to let me down and doesn't want to hurt me. She doesn't know how to feel etc etc. So I just got frustrated at her responses, I told her she was so predictable and that we all know what's gonna happened in the end (that should would come crawling back, because EVERYONE even her friends know this). She kind of admitted to it, that's why she told me she needs to better herself and be ready etc. So in the end I just decided you know what? I can't let her keep stringing/dangle me along until she finally is ready. It's not fair for me and it's not good for her. I told her to forget about me and that we shouldn't talk or see each other anymore. She said "finally you spoke your words" whatever that means. She agreed it's not good for me to wait for something that might or might not happen. I have to say when I told her that we shouldn't talk or see each other anymore, it was hard and my heart hurt but after a few hours or so. I realized it's something that needed to be done, as a dumpee at least in my case you can't keep being there for her when she's sad or misses you. Because she won't always be sad and miss you. She will only look for you during these times and eventually if you keep giving her what she wants (your attention and comfort) those sad and times she misses you will disappear and when she finds someone else, you'll be left in the trash or worse a "friend". Don't be weak and fall for your ex's cries and miss yous. They are just being selfish and only look for you to make themselves feel better about themselves. On a last note, I know she will still come looking for me after awhile, that's how predictable and insecure she is. You may ask why don't I block her # or ignore her completely? Because to be honest I won't be looking back anyways and it doesn't affect me. I realize it's her lost because I was the best bf she ever had and she cheated on me (kissed a guy when she was drunk). my 2c. Edited February 14, 2015 by quattrob 4
Ieris Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Don't be weak and fall for your ex's cries and miss yous. Exactly... Miss me? You're the one who walked away... Funny how they always come running back when they are going through a rough patch then kick you aside when they don't need you no more. Talk about use and abuse... We deserve better! x 2
Cupid's Puppet Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 You are so right. My ex contacted me this week, too. I wish I could have been strong like you. These dumpers really do only make contact when they're feeling nostalgic or to ease their guilt. I have been mourning alone all these months and forced to fend for myself. He was nowhere around, and he still is nowhere around. Good job for standing up for yourself. "Finally you spoke your words." Sounds like she's trying to act like you broke up with her. What a bird head 1
JollyDays Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 You are so right. My ex contacted me this week' date=' too. I wish I could have been strong like you. These dumpers really do only make contact when they're feeling nostalgic or to ease their guilt. I have been mourning alone all these months and forced to fend for myself. He was nowhere around, and he still is nowhere around. Good job for standing up for yourself. "Finally you spoke your words." Sounds like she's trying to act like you broke up with her. What a bird head [/quote'] Also known as.... CHICKENHEADS!! CHICK-CHICK!! CHICKENHEADS!! The OP dealt with her like a BOSS!! Wish I had this advice when I was younger in dealing with one of my exes, before cell phones and texting was the norm. LOL 1
Author quattrob Posted February 18, 2015 Author Posted February 18, 2015 Also known as.... CHICKENHEADS!! CHICK-CHICK!! CHICKENHEADS!! The OP dealt with her like a BOSS!! Wish I had this advice when I was younger in dealing with one of my exes, before cell phones and texting was the norm. LOL Thanks for the support/compliment. It's been about 6 weeks since she broke up with me and I can say the painful and difficult part has passed for me. I almost feel nothing for her even though I still care about her well being. I won't be dating anyone soon until I recover from what my ex did to me fully, it won't be fair for the next girl. However I'm looking forward to seeing who the next one will be. Hope you guys found my experience/story insightful.
JollyDays Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 Thanks for the support/compliment. It's been about 6 weeks since she broke up with me and I can say the painful and difficult part has passed for me. I almost feel nothing for her even though I still care about her well being. I won't be dating anyone soon until I recover from what my ex did to me fully, it won't be fair for the next girl. However I'm looking forward to seeing who the next one will be. Hope you guys found my experience/story insightful. No problem...LOL. I have no love for chickenheads. They cause a lot of pain and suffering. But I'm glad that you're cleaning your system out before venturing out into the dating world, unlike me.
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