smoothcriminal94 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 My boyfriend split up with me 6 weeks ago after a year of being together due to arguing too much. He told me to leave him alone for at least a month and I agreed however after just a week he ended up breaking NC. And ever since then we have talked and argued. He decided he wanted to talk and maybe try again when he is back from work on the rigs which is tomorrow. It hurts as its valentines day tomorrow. But what hurts is that he is going out with friends tomorrow night and sunday. And then has "stuff to do" until wednesday (washing, pay bills etc.) So I won't see him until Thursday. Is that not a bit of a joke? You would think sorting out your relationship is more important right? I have waited over a month while he has played with my emotions. I feel like an idiot waiting for him to decide if he wants me or not. This has caused another huge argument and I'm wondering wether to cut contact and move on (so so hard because I love him) or accept that he is "busy". I feel like an option and not a priority.
Ruby65 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 It sounds like he's fine spending Valentine's Day with other people and feels little urgency to work things out with you. I'm guessing most of these past arguments stemmed from your feelings of insecurity about his feelings for you, because he still sounds very ambivalent! In your shoes, I'd choose to take back my power -- accept his breakup for what it was, go NC and work on moving on and healing from the breakup. Why not let HIM be the one chasing YOU to get together or have contact? He should be the one doing all the work. Why make it so easy for him? He ended the relationship -- now it's up to him to do all the work to convince you to give him another chance. Just my opinion, but I say cut him off and if he really cares he'll show up at your front door because he can't reach you by phone or email. Valentine's Day is a big deal. He wants to put you off until Thursday? Not good, my friend. I'd be walking.
CarrieT Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I have waited over a month while he has played with my emotions. You let him... I feel like an idiot waiting for him to decide if he wants me or not. Then take that power away from him if you feel like an idiot. If he wanted to be with you, he would. He HAS made the decision, you just don't see it yet... I feel like an option and not a priority. Then don't be an option. Because it is obvious you are not a priority. My boyfriend split up with me 6 weeks ago after a year of being together due to arguing too much. He told me to leave him alone for at least a month and I agreed however after just a week he ended up breaking NC. And ever since then we have talked and argued. Why do you want to be with someone that involves so much arguing? Sounds like you need to move on; take back your power from him and don't be available to his whims.
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