bebegal Posted April 4, 2005 Posted April 4, 2005 I was dating this guy for a while but he puts career first then girls. I got kind o f sick of it and stopped talking to him for a while. I was bored about 2 wks ago and emailed him and wrote me back a great email asking when we could hang out and that hed call and he did. We were supposed to be getting together on wednesday and he jsut emailed me to say that cant as his father is coming into town for a couple of weeks. His father is coming into town on monday and he just saw him a couple of weeks ago. Dont you think if he wanted he could have told his dad he had a date or plans..? Is this another case again of he just isnt in to you. I emailed him and said no problem call when you get a change. The thing is i am thinking of moving to another city 8 hours away and I wanted to make sure that things were not going to develop.( this guy is perfect for me we are in the same field, have so much in common have fun together, when we hang out he gives me 100% of his attention.. the problem always was that is he interested in job/friends first) Another problem is that I was dating his best friend. Then at work me and him become close and started hanging out and going on dates secretely from the friend. I always thought he must like me or why risk loosing the friendship over a girl he is just not that into.. Also he knows that his best friend really likes me as his best friend always talks abotu me etc. just looking for some clarification on this.
allina Posted April 4, 2005 Posted April 4, 2005 I don't know I'm a firm believer that if a guy is really interested in you and wants to be with you he will make time and put in the effort. Yeah he probably thinks you're cool and attractive but he dosn't seem to be interested enough to try and be with you.
Author bebegal Posted April 4, 2005 Author Posted April 4, 2005 Allina i agree... I am crazy to not book this 3 month job move to san fran then... I keep hoping that he will come around. He really isnt put much effort in. I know If he wanted to see me he would.. Thanks for your reply... I think your right. He seemed to entusiastic in the email I thought maybe he had changed but I guess not. I jsut wonder why he isnt that interested enough to see me
Author bebegal Posted April 4, 2005 Author Posted April 4, 2005 This is the letter he sent me today saying he couldnt hang out. DOes it sound sincere or that he isnt going to be calling anytime soon.. I am so crazy b/c I have an opportunity to move to san fran and I was thinking of turning it down b/c I was hoping that things would work out this time around with us. He seemed so enthusiastic in his first email. bebegal--- I have some bad news, I talked to my dad this weekend and he is coming into town for a few weeks. He is arriving tomorrow, so I won't be able to get together on Wed. We'll have to find a night a little later that works out. Hope all is well at work and I'll talk to you soon,
RecordProducer Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 Rule #1: do whatever you would do if the guy didn't exist in your life. Men appreciate independent women who value their careers and themselves more than them. Your (non-existing) relationship hasn't developed to the point where you refuse a good job offer just to be with him. He asked you for a date and then changed his mind. He could have postponed the date, but not just cancel it. He is probably even lying about his father coming to see him. His friends are more important to him than love? It's a good, but non-valid excuse. When a guy loves a girl, he runs to her like a bull at a red color!
allina Posted April 5, 2005 Posted April 5, 2005 I agree with Record, plus you sound like a smart girl that has other things going for her and dosn't need to wait on his ass =)
Author bebegal Posted April 5, 2005 Author Posted April 5, 2005 R.P He could have postponed the date, but not just cancel it. He is probably even lying about his father coming to see him. His friends are more important to him than love? Thats what I was afraid of. What do I do if he emails me or calls me. I feel like he does this kind of stuff b/c I let him. I want him to chase me, how do I that..... but now I guess its not even worth it cause If I take that job IM out of here in 11 weeks. Should I tell him that Im leaving--- i mean if he were to email me? I just wish I didnt think so highly of him.. I need to somehow forget about him.
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