fluidian Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Ok - I met cute girl online and went out with her for the first time a week ago Tuesday and again last Saturday. I haven't seen her this week, we've exchanged a few texts this week, but not a whole lot, because I was crunched at work - which she was aware of. Last night I got a cold call from her and one of her friends to chat about miscellaneous stuff, and we mentioned getting together this weekend and we're chatting tonight to figure out the plan. My question is should I push for hanging out on Saturday (Valentine's) or Sunday? If it helps, I outright asked her via text whether or not she is a big Valentine's fan or if it's a non-event, and she responded with, "I am somewhere in the middle - I don't hate it, but am not overly concerned with a large celebration". Based on that response - my guess is she likes Valentine's, but is just trying to play it cool, as I had described it as a Faux event. Thoughts on what I should do? If I take her out on Saturday - thoughts on what we should do so it doesn't seem like a big event...I don't want that kind of pressure in just getting to know someone, but I don't want to totally drop the ball and leave her thinking I don't care either...
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Should be fine for a 3rd meeting, tone down the romantic tones though, and keep it a bit more casual. Do an activity of some sort, see a movie, etc. No roses, other flowers are OK. If you want to do a gift, small box of chocolates is OK. Make her feel appreciated, just no grand romantic gestures. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I would go with Sunday personally but if you want to do the Saturday night date, I'd get her a small thing of chocolate or something silly like a heart shaped donut & a funny or non-descript card that just say Happy Valentine's Day, nothing romantic, sexual or lovey dovey. 1
AveryBean Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Go for it!!! I have a third date with a guy on Valentines Day. I got him a 2 foot card with teddy bears on the front. Quick way to find out if he's got a sense of humor lol 2
blueskyday Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 You are very thoughtful. Just go and have a regular date. Dinner and a movie. Whatever you normally would have planned will be good. Since its Valentine's Day and she's a woman, I think she would appreciate a small gesture. Maybe a cute (not romantic) card. A single beautiful flower. A small box of chocolates. Chose whatever you are comfortable with . Keep it small and simple. You can't go wrong acknowledging the day and acknowledging her. Just avoid any romantic verbage. Maybe thank her for being your valentine this year, and celebrate with a glass of champagne. Then move on with the date as a regular date. Have fun! 1
GemmaUK Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 She is in the middle..so..yeah do something on VDay. It doesn't need to be elaborate..just a nice thing to do together. It's a bit of a compulsory 'make her feel special day ' from what I am gathering on here. If she is indifferent though I would say do something so she is not disappointed.
idoltree Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 If it helps, I outright asked her via text whether or not she is a big Valentine's fan or if it's a non-event, and she responded with, "I am somewhere in the middle - I don't hate it, but am not overly concerned with a large celebration". Based on that response - my guess is she likes Valentine's, but is just trying to play it cool, as I had described it as a Faux event. Thoughts on what I should do?I agree with that interpretation. "overly concerned" and "large celebration" are both qualifiers. Plus, if she were a girl who didn't like it, she'd suggest an anti-Valentine's or something. Last night I got a cold call from her and one of her friendsOkay, based on the fact that she called you while with her friend, I feel like this could be a test. I think she was giving you the opportunity to ask her out for Valentine's. Female friends can be pressuring for things like this, and I feel like there was a "He hasn't asked you out? Why not call him and see if he asks you out for Saturday?" I'd get her a small thing of chocolate or something silly like a heart shaped donut & a funny or non-descript card that just say Happy Valentine's Day, nothing romantic, sexual or lovey dovey. This is the way to go. Something small, but cute or silly. A little bear, something heart shaped... just a token. If you go with flowers, choose gerbera daisies or something like that. They're bright, cheerful and inexpensive and can't be interpreted as anything other than lighthearted. And get a card that doesn't say much, and you could just write "Happy Valentine's Day! I'm looking forward to get to know you better :)" so it's clear that you aren't attached or placing too much meaning on this. Just be a little silly and cheeky when you give them to her. All you're doing is acknowledging that it's a day where girls like to receive acknowledgement that the guy they're seeing has thought of them. 1
Author fluidian Posted February 13, 2015 Author Posted February 13, 2015 Female friends can be pressuring for things like this, and I feel like there was a "He hasn't asked you out? Why not call him and see if he asks you out for Saturday?" Could be - tests are evil (so hopefully it wasn't one!). Regardless - she knew/thought that I was going out of town for the weekend. I didn't tell her until the middle of the week that I was contemplating nixing the travel plans and staying local for the weekend, and it wasn't until the end of the call with her friend that I mentioned I was going to be local for the weekend, at which point I did mention getting together this weekend and she jumped at the chance, but no specific day was mentioned because she had to tend to her friend - which is why we're chatting tonight to work out the plan.
mightycpa Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Don't worry about all the nonsense. Keep your eye on this: You like this cute girl, and she called you. Next time she does that, secure that date right then and there. Opportunity knocks, and all that. Do the V date, get her a token of your affection reasonable for a 3rd date, and go have a good time. I'd save the movies until you know her better, unless there's something she's dying to see. Don't forget to kiss her - third date's a charm.
alphamale Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 its too early to take her out on valentines
Author fluidian Posted February 13, 2015 Author Posted February 13, 2015 Don't worry about all the nonsense. Keep your eye on this: You like this cute girl, and she called you. Next time she does that, secure that date right then and there. Opportunity knocks, and all that. Do the V date, get her a token of your affection reasonable for a 3rd date, and go have a good time. I'd save the movies until you know her better, unless there's something she's dying to see. Don't forget to kiss her - third date's a charm. I think I secured a date when she called - just didn't hammer down specifics. I wasn't expecting the call, so I hadn't really thought through anything, and she had a friend on the call as well, so it wouldn't have been super appropriate to chat for 5-10 minutes to get the details figured out. I could have suggested a specific day, but oh well. She actually texted me last night after her friend left and again today...I'm not too worried about interest. I know, it sounds like a lot of message from her, but she's relatively quiet unless we're in the process of coordinating getting together. Not planning on a movie - I actually hate movie dates, unless it's just something running in the milieu. The first several dates you need to get to know the person - sitting silently in a dark room doesn't really let that happen...
Author fluidian Posted February 13, 2015 Author Posted February 13, 2015 its too early to take her out on valentines Part of me definitely agrees - which is why I posted...
alphamale Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 sitting silently in a dark room doesn't really let that happen... ahh but lying naked in a dark room does let it happen
Author fluidian Posted February 13, 2015 Author Posted February 13, 2015 ahh but lying naked in a dark room does let it happen Exactly - but then are you really watching a movie? I'll get her back to my place if I want to...she was there on the last date, but trying to lure her there via the notion of a movie...well, I can do a bit better than that.
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