marcelo.santos Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Hey All! (poor english on way: ) This is not about me - Just helping a girl friend of mine, I would appreciate your comments: This is about a pretty friend of mine, Rachel she is 22 - very good heart and smart girl - her now ex-boyfriend Michael, 27 (he has some Alcohol Problems ) broke up with Rachel after he was disappointed in some Rachel mistakes did during a heat argument they had. So 2 weeks ago I convinced Rachel to go NC - she've blocked Michael in fb, whatsApp, Calls, etc.. she forgot to block on sms, now Michael found it out and now he is contacting her via sms - she likes him and get confused on each message he send her - she used to reply cold and politely. Since the break up, Rachel is very confused - she has no idea of what Michael really wants now - She has a hope that Michael solve his alcohol problem that have hurt her very much during relation ship (but no aggressive behavior from him until now) Rachel now is NC 14, - yesterday Michael contacted her and he was completely drunk!! So today Rachel decided that she dont want Michael anymore but she is very afraid of regret. I told her to block SMS and ignore him completely - she still have doubts about this and she wants to tell him that she don't accept him with his drink problems - but I told her to do not say nothing just ignore him, block and move on. What do you guys suggest? I'm afraid of she regrets tomorrow and is too late for something - I'm afraid in being responsible for advising something bad for her. Any thoughts? Thank you for your help!
WhatYouWantToHear Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 What do you guys suggest? Butt out. You made your opinion known, helped her towards that end, now its time for you to mind your own business. 2
Author marcelo.santos Posted February 14, 2015 Author Posted February 14, 2015 now its time for you to mind your own business. lol I will help her and my best friends in the best way I can wherever they asks for my help or advice that is what happened in this case, thank you for yours. 1
mightycpa Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 lol I will help her and my best friends in the best way I can wherever they asks for my help or advice that is what happened in this case, thank you for yours. The best advice you can give your friend is to leave him behind. This may sound harsh, but the best thing about an alcoholic's day is that he didn't take another drink. Everything else in his life rests on that. Who needs that ****? Leave is the best advice you can give your friend. 1
Hija77 Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 It's sounds like going NC is her best bet, and you've told her that. If he's a drunk, she's so much better off without him. 1
Satu Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 She should keep away from him and let him sink or swim according to his own efforts. No contact.
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