luvsux69 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 So I've been dating this girl for about 7 months now and it's been a roller coaster. Up and down up and down but 2015 has been much better for us. However, her long time friends birthday is today and she says that her friends are like family to her. It takes a lot for her to bring a guy to her friends. Tonight is the first time Im invited to hang out with her friends, eat some food and have some drinks with them. The bad thing is that a few weeks ago this same guy (birthday boy) was on speaker phone while talking to my girl (right in front of me) and he says that he will have a snowboarding trip and he said that I can come. She never invited me and last night she told me she will be out of town for his birthday... (that implies I'm not invited by her but I was invited by him indirectly). I feel kind of let down by this and I'm not sure if I should ask her about it And tell her how I feel. If I were in her shoes I would have invited her but each one of us is different. What are some possible reasons why she wouldn't invite me?
serial muse Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 OP, I think you know the answers to this. best case scenario is she just wants to be alone with her friends. Worst case is that there's someone in the group she wants to flirt with. Normally I'd say give her the benefit of the doubt and space to be with her friends...but I was curious so I read your history. Yikes. She talks about how easy it is to cheat, breaks up with you every other week it seems, and has both accused you of jealousy and been jealous herself. And apparently has struggled with commitment. She doesn't sound trustworthy. It may be time to let this go.
d0nnivain Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Are you & she intimate? If not, logistics may be a reason she didn't invite you. If you are at 7 months it seems odd. I think you need to talk to her about it. By now you should be part of the friends' group. It's like that thread about opposite sex friends a few days ago. Those people need to be supportive of the relationship not destructive towards it. Going away without inviting the SO is more destructive then constructive.
Author luvsux69 Posted February 13, 2015 Author Posted February 13, 2015 We sleep together every night. She's even asked me to move in with her in a few months.
d0nnivain Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Then you really need to ask her why she is keeping you apart from her friends.
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