cubbyfan Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Hey everyone, I was actually on this site almost a year ago to discuss a girl who broke up with me. She ended up not speaking me for a month, but eventually missed me and wanted to work things out. So we did, but now I am back again... Over the weekend my girlfriend told me that she had lunch plans with a guy that we both knew. She also had plans with another guy to attend a party later that night. She ended up spending the entire night with the first guy, and slept with him. The next morning I get a text telling me that she wanted to break up because of this. I know you will all say that I should obviously break up with her because she was unfaithful, but for some reason that isn't what I want. I asked her to work on all of our issues that led to her cheating and she said no. I begged and pleaded because I was so upset, but she was not interested. She told me that maybe we could talk again on monday, after she takes an exam that she has been studying for. She claims that over the past month I have been distracting to her studies and stressing her out. Do you guys have any advice on what I can do to get her back? It has already happened before with her, so I know I should have some hope. I truly believe that this cheating was a one time thing and that she would be faithful if we got back together. Thanks for taking the time to read. Also we are both 24, if this helps at all.
FancyFace Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Oh honey, you deserve so much better than some loose like goose girl who would cheat on you. Think about the cheating properly: You and her both know this guy. So how are you to know what has been going on between them to lead to this point? What if this is not the first time, maybe its the first time that this guy has shown interest outside of just sex and hence you getting the boot. Even if she was to come back, would you be able to live with those kind of questions and others that would come up? Sorry to get graphic but She went to HIS place, there probably wasnt any small talk whatsoever, just a whole lot of heavy petting. She put her hands on his body, now you want those hands back touching you. She put her mouth on his mouth/body, now you want that mouth back on you. He was all over her and you want to go ahead and put yourself all over those used goods? He was inside of her and thats the place where you want to return? Like really dude? No! She doesnt love you, doesnt care about you, doesnt respect you and couldnt give a damn about you. You deserve better and you know it. There are plenty of girls out there who will love you and treat you better, but you will never ever get that until you love yourself first. The first step of self love is realising when someone is a toxic waste of space in your life and treating them accordingly. 1
mightycpa Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I have an idea for getting her back. Why don't you just tell her this? It's ok if you sleep with other guys, just as long as you never leave me. That's how much I love you! It's probably not the greatest arrangement in the world for you, but it will prove your devotion where lesser men would simply walk away and never look back. If you've been a Cubs fan for quite a while, you should understand this strategy very well. 1
Toodaloo Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Erm... Why do you want her back exactly? She cheated on you and when you asked her what she wants she said the other guy... Two words SELF RESPECT. Google it and learn about it.
Toodaloo Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 p.s. while you are sobbing in the corner and treating yourself like a second class citizen can you pop to the doctor and get yourself tested just in case.
KBarletta Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 She cheated on you and somehow she still has you begging to win her back. But when you do, she says no. It's time to move on. You deserve way better, and the best you are going to be to her is a back-up plan. Even if you end up being her "boyfriend" again, she already knows she can cheat on you and you will come back begging. Not a recipe for a successful relationship in any case. My advice, let her go, implement no contact, and don't look back.
MovingOnIsHard Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Suggest you two have open relationship... Seriously though, don't go after her. Think about how much she is disrespecting you by cheating with another man before you two officially broke up. You deserve better
seminoles84 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I know it really sucks right now but come on man.. have some self respect! Seriously, if this wasn't about you and you read this what would you suggest to the poster? This is embarrassing and you need to man up.
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