Diezel Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 By the way, this thread is specifically about what WOMEN expect for Valentines Day. I'm sure there are lots of men being pampered too. Why are you saying valentines and more importantly, that weddings, are all for women? Thats just bizarre. What do you folks to for Valentines day? Guys? And girls, what do you expect? Reading comprehension. You do not have it, smiley1. And if you think it's bizarre... think back, REALLY think back to the last time you heard a guy say to his buddy, "Oh man, I am so excited for Valentine's Day, I can't wait to get something nice from my girlfriend. I wonder what it'll be and if I can post it to social media with some cool hashtag." Same for weddings. If you don't get the fact that weddings are all about the bride, then you probably have never been to one. Sure, there are men being pampered out there, but the target demographic for Valentine's Day is WOMEN, NOT men.
Ruby Slippers Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 ...think back, REALLY think back to the last time you heard a guy say to his buddy, "Oh man, I am so excited for Valentine's Day... The guy that I had the strongest love and the best Valentine memories with was a sappy romantic like me. He looked forward to holidays, traditions, anniversaries, yearly occasions of all kinds, and enjoyed planning something special. I agree it's more a holiday for women, but I've always made it a celebration of the romance between us. When you have mutual love and adoration with someone, lighting them up is a pleasure. To me, that's what it's all about.
wb1988 Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Did u guys forget the part where I said I also like to spoil a man? I am generous so I also want a partner who is generous with his money and time. A simply rose for valentines day is enough plus a nice dinner out. As I said - that's not high maintenance. The fact is, I'm not a girl who wants to date a guy who doesn't take me out to dinner andbwho doesn't do anything for valentines day. And that doesn't make me superficial. My love language is gifts and kind gestures as well as physical touch. You're not high maintenance, at least you don't sound like it I think the fact that you mentioned 'gift' gives the impression that you are materialistic but there is nothing wrong with expecting a small gift and even better when you are okay with spoiling the guy in return.
guest569 Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Reading comprehension. You do not have it, smiley1. And if you think it's bizarre... think back, REALLY think back to the last time you heard a guy say to his buddy, "Oh man, I am so excited for Valentine's Day, I can't wait to get something nice from my girlfriend. I wonder what it'll be and if I can post it to social media with some cool hashtag." Same for weddings. If you don't get the fact that weddings are all about the bride, then you probably have never been to one. Sure, there are men being pampered out there, but the target demographic for Valentine's Day is WOMEN, NOT men. Haha thats pretty funny cause i think you are the one who has misread it. Whatever you say then, I guess.
guest569 Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 (edited) Happy Valentines Day lovely Edited February 15, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Hydra cleanup
Gloria25 Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 I expect a "D" in a box... Perfect gift for Xmas, V-day, Kwanza, whatever... Watch SNL Digital Short: D*** in a Box From Saturday Night Live - NBC.com
lino Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 Reading comprehension. You do not have it, smiley1. And if you think it's bizarre... think back, REALLY think back to the last time you heard a guy say to his buddy, "Oh man, I am so excited for Valentine's Day, I can't wait to get something nice from my girlfriend. I wonder what it'll be and if I can post it to social media with some cool hashtag." Same for weddings. If you don't get the fact that weddings are all about the bride, then you probably have never been to one. Sure, there are men being pampered out there, but the target demographic for Valentine's Day is WOMEN, NOT men. Well said. Anyone denying this lives on another planet.
Els Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 Leigh, I think it's the usage of the word 'expect' that rubs people the wrong way. I mean, it's like a guy starting a thread asking, "Guys, how often do you EXPECT blowjobs?". IMO it just completely negates the entire point and spirit of the whole thing. Nobody likes to feel like it's their 'duty' to please their partner according to certain standards - they want to feel like whatever they do is appreciated instead of expected. Valentine's Day is about doing sweet things for each other and enjoying the moment and experience. It's about using a set holiday as an excuse to have fun with each other. If you're only interested in what you can get out of someone (whether that be an expensive necklace or "receiving vagina," as some of you might say), then, yeah, you're never going to truly enjoy it and you're never going to understand why others might. Instead you'll just fall back on being "cynical" about it. Personally, I feel I'm cynical enough as it is without making myself bitter about a stupid holiday. Agreed completely. The same goes for pretty much all nice gestures for both genders, really. If anyone is doing something for their partner solely because they're expecting that they'll get something back and they would consider their gesture 'a waste' otherwise... why even bother having relationships? There are simpler and more direct ways of acquiring a trade, that don't lead to so much bitterness. 6
No Limit Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 I really don't care about the smaller holidays. If you really feel like having to make this day special, put a rose on the pizza package. Or a pizza in heart shape. Beside that, I really don't care about it.
guest569 Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 (edited) Well from other threads here I can see that it does seem to be "expectations" and can be a one sided event. Personally, I'm quite a romantic and 21st century woman and i like to spoil the men in my life, but usually do this randomly as its fun. Valentines gives me an excuse to do something special too. Perhaps out of the ordinary and to show a kind of affection i would not normally. Even if that is just sending a cute poem. It depends what you think shows love i suppose. For me, it's not about expensive gifts, although for OP it is. I would never expect anyone to spend money on me, if they buy something nice, great. But i am happy with words or to go for a walk together, or sit on the couch and talk. Gifts are gifts.. If you are giving a gift to your partner out of pressure rather than a sweet, romantic gesture, then dont bother. Edited February 15, 2015 by smiley1 2
drifter777 Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 What do I expect on February 14th each year? Same thing I would on any other day. Then if (like this morning) I get a card or something, I am so very excited that someone thought of Me on February 14th. Now don't get me started on the High Expectations I have on these next holidays : - National Talk like a Pirate Day - Cinco de' Mio aaaaaand wait for it.... - ST. PATRICKS DAY Get ready to Pony-Up fellas! J/K CiH* What about these: - no pantie day - topless Tuesday - thong Thursday : p
katiegrl Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 Why is it high maintenance of me to want to only date men who buy me a small gift on valentines day? I prefer to be spoilt. That doesn't make me high maintenance. I don't expect expensive gifts. I like to be taken out for dinner once a week. And treated to it. I don't think that's asking for too much. I prefer the traditional role of the man to take me out and spoil me rather than the 50/50 deal. I don't think I'm asking for too much.... Leigh...no worries I actually think you're fine. BTW, are you familiar with the five "love languages"? YOUR love language may be "gifts". Which IS one of the five love languages...believe it or not. Which means giving and receiving gifts in your relationships means a lot to you. There is nothing wrong with that...as long as the men you date are happy giving and receiving gifts too..
katiegrl Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 Did u guys forget the part where I said I also like to spoil a man? I am generous so I also want a partner who is generous with his money and time. A simply rose for valentines day is enough plus a nice dinner out. As I said - that's not high maintenance. The fact is, I'm not a girl who wants to date a guy who doesn't take me out to dinner andbwho doesn't do anything for valentines day. And that doesn't make me superficial. My love language is gifts and kind gestures as well as physical touch. ^^ OMG Just read this! After I posted my post above. Just as I suspected... your love language is gifts. Nothing wrong with that sweetie... as you like to both receive AND give... Don't let these other posts get to you too much... you're fine. BTW, my love language is quality time ... I don't give a rat's rear end about gifts. Let's embrace our differences guys...it's all good.
katiegrl Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 What you left out was that if I take all those steps I will also continue to get rejected How do you know? Have you tried to become a better man...a better version of yourself? Have you done anything to improve yourself and your lot in life? What do you do for others? Have you ever volunteered for anything? Volunteering is a great way to meet "nice" women....women who value a man for more than how "hot" he is. It's also a great way for YOU to feel better about yourself... it will raise your self-esteem. How about meet-ups in your area? Have you explored that? Find one that interests you...you will meet women who share that same interest...and go from there. Just saying...get out there and improve yourself...it sure beats sitting around whining about how shallow women are for not finding you hot enough...or whatevs .....and feeling sorry for yourself....geez! 1
katiegrl Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 Did certain posts disappear...or am I going crazy?????
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