darkbloom Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I have pretty low expectations on all holidays. But most especially this one. I do not want flowers, chocolates, teddy bears, etc. Material **** does not equal love and affection. I want someone who gets me. Plain and simple. 2
alphamale Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Want, maybe a small gift to show he cares and flowers. a gift and flowers better be there otherwise he'll be sleeping in the dog house tonight
Ruby Slippers Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I'd rather have a modest version of the princess treatment (small box of chocolates, sappy card, and romantic night in) with a man who truly adores me than the works with a guy who doesn't. I've had both, and I know which one made me swoon. 1
Rejected Rosebud Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 That's good. But spending Vday in a hotel with a guy you just met once last week seems a bit fast and risky, no? They already had sex so if you're single and into it why not casual valentines day sex? But that's probably not what "girls REALLY expect" like the thread title, it's probably not all that common! I think it's pretty much a fake holiday invented by Hallmark and I don't care about it but I do think it's more like a couples thing than a casual sexy thing!! 1
hotgurl Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I'd rather have a modest version of the princess treatment (small box of chocolates, sappy card, and romantic night in) with a man who truly adores me than the works with a guy who doesn't. I've had both, and I know which one made me swoon. What about the full on princess treatment from a guy that adores you and has for the past 14 years. Yes I am lucky and I appreciate him. He usually takes me out sends me flowers etc.. But this year no flowers due to some newly acquired cats. I have never had cat eat flowers before. we are going to dinner tonight, brunch tomorrow and than shopping for either jewelry or purses. than Sunday in bed. 2
venusishername Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 What do I expect on Valentines Day? Given I'm a super romantic person and love everything love and romance: If I'm in a relationship, I expect (and have always received) a thoughtful gift, a romantic dinner (at home or out).. if at home I enjoy cooking for him or cooking together. Flowers are always nice of course. Sex of course! Single? What do I expect? I expect to be spending it alone. I have no single friends anymore. Trying to forget about it this year.
Ruby Slippers Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 What about the full on princess treatment from a guy that adores you and has for the past 14 years. There's that competitive spirit that holidays like this evoke 2
contact1 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Obviously all the females are expecting tickets to the Imax showing of 50 shades of gray, duh!!
hotgurl Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 There's that competitive spirit that holidays like this evoke Na I just like to be spoiled. We are pretty low key most of the time but we do celebrate on Valentines day. Some years we stay in and so we go out. Some we have a casual year etcc... Really what matters is who you spend it with.
fluidian Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 What do you folks to for Valentines day? Guys? And girls, what do you expect? I personally feel every week should be like Valentines day but it is there, red heart shaped balloons is up and so is the insurmountable pressure of men to make dinner reservations... and all that jazz. What do you do for your partner and how soon into dating have you done these things? My ex guy of 2.5 years did a big stuff all. He was never that into me in a romantic way. I was his mother/best friend:sick: Last guy was a tight @ss - never took me out for a nice meal for Valentines day with chocolates or roses. Put ALL his savings into a mortgage even though he didn't have to, he had cash to spare. Then I dated a man for a mere 2 weeks and he bought me an expensive necklace for my birthday - more than ANY of my long term men did for me! I spoil men to by the way - I get them 400 dollar vintage watches for their birthdays and that sort of thing. I also paint. I make them paintings they all have loved bar one who I didn't make one for. I have a last minute Valentines day date - a guy I met once last week - he is traveling 1.5 hours to see me, we are going halves for a hotel, and he is taking me out for dinner. I don't expect anything in terms of presents as we only just met and he has to pay high rent in the Sydney CBD and he doesn't have loads of spare cash to throw around. He seems sweet and he has mentioned a few times how much he cannot wait until Valentines day - which is sweet enough for me SANS gift. What are you guys doing? And girls, what do you expect from a guy? After months I would prefer a guy who spoils me - takes me out for a dinner, makes reservations and has some chocolates or a cute teddy or just anything. My mates get spoilt and treated like princesses - treated to a lovely dinner with jewellery - so I wont settle for less than what my mates are getting frankly. Life is too short and I am not one who can sit at home and be like " yeah.. well Frank did nothing for me, meanwhile my friend got taken out and treated to dinner and a necklace" Again - it goes both ways.. after a few months, I make paintings I give to the guy, I stop in random places and get cool presents.. I like to show a guy I am into him and am crazy about him. Sorry - but you just sound incredibly superficial and shallow...if we ever dated I'd dump you pretty quick. You're putting waaaay too much need on physical objects - what about how the person makes you feel? The fact that you're complaining already about a guy you just met a week ago who isn't going to give you an expensive piece of jewelry is crazy (the fact that you even talked about that is crazy). You say life is too short- but what you're effectively doing is ensuring that a larger part of your life is spent single than in a fun, loving relationship, simply because you didn't quite as many necklaces as your mate. Moreover, when you do find someone, you'll effectively be ensuring that that individual feels like they can simply buy you. To each their own, but I'd recommend reassessing your motivations, what you want in life...you may be putting yourself into a tough situation that may ultimately not make you happy. 6
slizl Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Simple, women want a huge chocolate penis that ejaculates $100 bills. 3
GemmaUK Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I like a little normal sized v day card. That is all I need. All I ever needed or wanted. One man listened to me and got it right so far.
xxoo Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 An evening together with Netflix and drinks, hopefully some making out before heading upstairs for the big event. Basically, the normal Sat night Chocolate and flowers are nice, but not necessary. 2
CrystalShine2011 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 It has differed with every boyfriend. This year we are just spending time together. No gifts, no surprises. I think sometimes it nice to just "be". 1
chimpanA-2-chimpanZ Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I'd like to feel appreciated, that's all. However he wants to convey that is good with me. I do love flowers, though. It's my first Valentine's Day with my current boyfriend and he has informed me in no uncertain terms that I am being spoiled. He is making me a secret multi-course meal and offering other surprises of some variety (I'm not allowed to ask). He started prep work on Monday so it must be extreme. For my part I bought some very nice lingerie and Neuhaus chocolates because he's a chocoholic. I'm also very much on the anti-restaurant bandwagon for V-Day. A couple of my friends are professional chefs at high-end places, and even there you'll be paying for the kitchen's B-game because they have to turn out such high volume. Going out to a genuinely nice restaurant on Valentine's Day is like paying to see your favorite band do a crappy show in an expensive venue: it might be okay, but you'll still end up overpaying. If the restaurant is less than spectacular on a regular day then prepare to be disappointed. Honestly, I think it's the non-Valentine's Day expressions of affection that count. My boyfriend sends me kissy emoji when he gets out of work, kind words about how pretty my hair looks even when it's a mess, and text messages with Bruno Mars lyrics immediately followed by angry messages about how he can't believe he's turned into the kind of guy who sends his girlfriend Bruno Mars lyrics. They're little things but they add up in such a big way. 3
Ruby Slippers Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 The full-on classic date night for Valentine's Day can also be fun. Last year a guy I'd been on only one date with took me out for the works. I wore a slinky red dress, he wore a nice suit and red tie, red roses, good bottle of wine, multi-course V Day dinner at a fantastic Italian restaurant. We had a fabulous time. 3
CrystalCastles Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I don't expect anything from my man, although I know him well enough to know he's probably cooked up something for V Day. I'm making him a card like I did for his birthday. I also have 20 dollars I saved for dinner at this really awesome Japanese place we recently discovered that's kind of tucked away and usually not very busy. The food there is super good, super cheap (15$ per two) and the service is excellent. Sex for me is off the table since as of today I'm on shark week. But I'm always up for BJs so it should be a nice night regardless.
alphamale Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Simple, women want a huge chocolate penis that ejaculates $100 bills. does that come in milk or dark chocolate? 3
Omei Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 (edited) Obviously all the females are expecting tickets to the Imax showing of 50 shades of gray, duh!! I don't think I could ever see that with someone lol Like I said before no man has ever been thoughtful enough for me during holidays no matter how long ive dated them But if I was to choose the perfect V day id like a single tulip flower and when it was dying id hang it upside down and dry it out then put it in a picture frame so I could cherish it. Edited February 13, 2015 by Omei 1
organizedchaos Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Sorry - but you just sound incredibly superficial and shallow...if we ever dated I'd dump you pretty quick. You're putting waaaay too much need on physical objects - what about how the person makes you feel? The fact that you're complaining already about a guy you just met a week ago who isn't going to give you an expensive piece of jewelry is crazy (the fact that you even talked about that is crazy). You say life is too short- but what you're effectively doing is ensuring that a larger part of your life is spent single than in a fun, loving relationship, simply because you didn't quite as many necklaces as your mate. Moreover, when you do find someone, you'll effectively be ensuring that that individual feels like they can simply buy you. To each their own, but I'd recommend reassessing your motivations, what you want in life...you may be putting yourself into a tough situation that may ultimately not make you happy. High maintenance comes to mind. 1
carhill Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 What Do Girls REALLY Expect On Valentines Day Never figured that one out. Tried lots of different stuff and did all the girlfriend and wife stuff and live alone now. What do you folks to for Valentines day? Right now zippo, though a nice young lady at my bank asked me yesterday what I'd be doing and I said, honestly, 'working'. Guys? And girls, what do you expect? I don't recall any expectations since that's not my style. However, I'd say some of the most memorable V-days occurred whilst married and not so much in the sex stuff area but rather in the being together area. One example would find me making a nice homemade V-day card, using mediocre art skills but gifts with words to express my delight in being married, then picking up my spouse's favorite vintage of bubbly, then go shopping with her at the fish market for some fish to make sashimi with and being her prep chef in the kitchen and then settling down together in the living room to feed ourselves and each other and just be together and talk about life and us. Those are the kinds of good memories of being married that I won't forget regardless of the propriety, or not, of them. It was a good time in life, even if transitory. Best wishes to folks to make their own wonderful V-day memories. 2
todreaminblue Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 rain..........or blue skies...depending on what mood i am in....deb 3
MidwestUSA Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 does that come in milk or dark chocolate? Let's not introduce race into the thread. Both, of course!
sweetjasmine Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 What do you folks to for Valentines day? Guys? And girls, what do you expect? I expect some sort of acknowledgment/effort to do a small thing out of the ordinary (doesn't have to involve spending money at all - just a "Happy Valentine's Day" is enough acknowledgment for me ) and spending time together. I'd be happy with him making dinner and having a special dessert if that's what he wanted to do. That's about it. I do enjoy when he takes the initiative to take me out somewhere. It's fun to dress up fancy with him, and we enjoy going out. But it's not necessary, and a hole-in-the-wall would be just a nice if he wanted to go out to eat. I don't expect or even want gifts. Don't really care about a card, though when he does it, I appreciate the thought and effort. And I've forbidden him from buying flowers. He thought I was joking the first time I told him that, but I'm pretty firm about not wanting him to get any. I think it's foolish for us to pay 300% normal asking price on flowers. Every once in a while, he likes to surprise me here and there with a small bouquet of flowers just for the heck of it, and to me, that's much sweeter than getting overpriced roses on Valentine's Day. 2
insert_name Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 The full-on classic date night for Valentine's Day can also be fun. Last year a guy I'd been on only one date with took me out for the works. I wore a slinky red dress, he wore a nice suit and red tie, red roses, good bottle of wine, multi-course V Day dinner at a fantastic Italian restaurant. We had a fabulous time. [Cynic hat] How long did it last after that? [/Cynic hat]
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