Leigh 87 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 What do you folks to for Valentines day? Guys? And girls, what do you expect? I personally feel every week should be like Valentines day but it is there, red heart shaped balloons is up and so is the insurmountable pressure of men to make dinner reservations... and all that jazz. What do you do for your partner and how soon into dating have you done these things? My ex guy of 2.5 years did a big stuff all. He was never that into me in a romantic way. I was his mother/best friend:sick: Last guy was a tight @ss - never took me out for a nice meal for Valentines day with chocolates or roses. Put ALL his savings into a mortgage even though he didn't have to, he had cash to spare. Then I dated a man for a mere 2 weeks and he bought me an expensive necklace for my birthday - more than ANY of my long term men did for me! I spoil men to by the way - I get them 400 dollar vintage watches for their birthdays and that sort of thing. I also paint. I make them paintings they all have loved bar one who I didn't make one for. I have a last minute Valentines day date - a guy I met once last week - he is traveling 1.5 hours to see me, we are going halves for a hotel, and he is taking me out for dinner. I don't expect anything in terms of presents as we only just met and he has to pay high rent in the Sydney CBD and he doesn't have loads of spare cash to throw around. He seems sweet and he has mentioned a few times how much he cannot wait until Valentines day - which is sweet enough for me SANS gift. What are you guys doing? And girls, what do you expect from a guy? After months I would prefer a guy who spoils me - takes me out for a dinner, makes reservations and has some chocolates or a cute teddy or just anything. My mates get spoilt and treated like princesses - treated to a lovely dinner with jewellery - so I wont settle for less than what my mates are getting frankly. Life is too short and I am not one who can sit at home and be like " yeah.. well Frank did nothing for me, meanwhile my friend got taken out and treated to dinner and a necklace" Again - it goes both ways.. after a few months, I make paintings I give to the guy, I stop in random places and get cool presents.. I like to show a guy I am into him and am crazy about him.
Rko28 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I think there is too much emphasis put on valentines day. The kind of things couples do on this day such as days out, fancy meals, gifts, a day of sex etc should all be done in a relationship anyway. It can even turn in to something negative as some girls/men might build the whole day up to be something amazing when actually its just another normal day 3
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I don't care much for Valentine's day and I nearly always happened to be single then. I am going to the movies with the new guy tomorrow and I do wonder if he will get me flowers or something lol 4
Omei Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 (edited) Im single this year But in the past ive never had a boyfriend who would plan something for me on valentines day so I try to ignore it. It would be nice to be spoiled ive spoiled and gotten my boyfriends vday gifts but I never get actions like that in return I don't think much of men in the romance department nevermind valentines day ive never so much as had a dude take me out for my birthday and ive been in relationships that are way over three years. Ive learned to expect nothing from men when it comes to holidays. Edited February 13, 2015 by Omei
Emilia Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I avoid dates on V day unless I've been with that person for a while. Even then prefer the day after because most restaurants are aweful on that day. Kinda hate the hysteria around it. 1
almond Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Some really, really good sex. Nothing more, nothing less. Other than that, it's business as usual for us.
rocketman122 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Huge emphasis on material things instead of the relationship. Jeez 3
DivorcedDad123 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Got my gf a nice heart shape pendant/necklace,cards, and a stuffed animal. No chocolates as she's on a diet. We're going out to eat tonight instead,to miss the crowds and avoid waiting in lines tomorrow night. Hopefully, she's bought some new lingerie for me to enjoy taking off of her The weekend looks to be very cold,so we're staying in the rest of the time. 2
PegNosePete Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Restaurants are always over-crowded which leads to poor service. Being crammed onto a tiny table in between the other couples, waiting twice as long to order and for the bill... it's more frustrating than romantic. Many have special menus which are simply less choice (in order to streamline orders and service I guess) for more money. No, I prefer to stay in and cook at home. As for gifts etc: it's a holiday invented by card makers and chocolate sellers. I don't buy into that kind of sheep-like commercialism. If I buy gifts it's because I want to buy gifts, not because Clintons says I should. 1
Mr.D.E.B.T. Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I expect nothing. My wife expects a card at the most. We're really not into the whole one day celebration thing. However, this year it falls on our date night, so we may be going out. Then again, she hates crowds, so we will probably move our date night to Sunday.
Diezel Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 For men, it's a day for which we have to pay a little extra for sex. 3
organizedchaos Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 (edited) What do you folks to for Valentines day? Guys? And girls, what do you expect? I personally feel every week should be like Valentines day but it is there, red heart shaped balloons is up and so is the insurmountable pressure of men to make dinner reservations... and all that jazz. What do you do for your partner and how soon into dating have you done these things? My ex guy of 2.5 years did a big stuff all. He was never that into me in a romantic way. I was his mother/best friend:sick: Last guy was a tight @ss - never took me out for a nice meal for Valentines day with chocolates or roses. Put ALL his savings into a mortgage even though he didn't have to, he had cash to spare. Then I dated a man for a mere 2 weeks and he bought me an expensive necklace for my birthday - more than ANY of my long term men did for me! I spoil men to by the way - I get them 400 dollar vintage watches for their birthdays and that sort of thing. I also paint. I make them paintings they all have loved bar one who I didn't make one for. I have a last minute Valentines day date - a guy I met once last week - he is traveling 1.5 hours to see me, we are going halves for a hotel, and he is taking me out for dinner. I don't expect anything in terms of presents as we only just met and he has to pay high rent in the Sydney CBD and he doesn't have loads of spare cash to throw around. He seems sweet and he has mentioned a few times how much he cannot wait until Valentines day - which is sweet enough for me SANS gift. What are you guys doing? And girls, what do you expect from a guy? After months I would prefer a guy who spoils me - takes me out for a dinner, makes reservations and has some chocolates or a cute teddy or just anything. My mates get spoilt and treated like princesses - treated to a lovely dinner with jewellery - so I wont settle for less than what my mates are getting frankly. Life is too short and I am not one who can sit at home and be like " yeah.. well Frank did nothing for me, meanwhile my friend got taken out and treated to dinner and a necklace" Again - it goes both ways.. after a few months, I make paintings I give to the guy, I stop in random places and get cool presents.. I like to show a guy I am into him and am crazy about him. You seem to put a lot of emphasis on materialistic expectations. Is this just for vday or relationships in general? And Bolded. You're getting a hotel with a guy you just met once last week? And more on topic, taking my gf out of town. Edited February 13, 2015 by organizedchaos 4
rester Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 We make a point of staying in on valentine's day and not buying gifts. Most people I know these days treat it like any other day and avoid falling into the commercialization of it. It's a little like Black Friday around here...nobody understands what all the commotion is about. The last thing my girlfriend would ever want as a gift would be a Teddy bear and roses.
Toodaloo Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Unicorns. . that fart rose petals... I don't expect anything but would prefer to stay in and spoil each other at home when I am in a relationship. Strawberries and cream are so much more fun when you use your partner as a plate and forget your spoon! Also saves on washing up It is nice to be remembered and have someone just let me know that they think I am special. Its what I like to do. I do it on other days too simply because I can. Been a really long time since I have had anyone to spoil, but this year I am taking my Grandmother out. Can't wait to be honest and its going to be great fun to make her feel loved and wanted even if it is only by her Grand daughter!!! Needless to say we will have a full compliment of cutlery and no strawberries and cream! But hey ho you can't have everything in life - I may enter into discussion with the waitor! 5
MidwestUSA Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 He asked me to marry him. It's a one time trick, so I don't care so much about subsequent V Days. I have everything I need. 7
d0nnivain Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I do expect a card & chocolate (mostly because I refuse to pass up any excuse to have chocolate), maybe a little bit of romance. Sometimes in the hectic fast paced daily life, the time to stop & be together gets lost. I despise going out on Valentine's Day. I also think it's nuts to pay the inflated prices for flowers. Every other the month of the year, bring 'em on. February, no thanks. Last year one of the things I wanted & which I would happily accept again this year is a heart shaped donut. I'd much rather have the creative trinket then a dozen roses. 2
EveAFlame Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I prefer my unicorn to fart rainbows and gold coins. I really would like a low-key evening at home, with a pizza, watching Thor for the 6th time. 2
Toodaloo Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I prefer my unicorn to fart rainbows and gold coins.. I guess I am just a cheap date... don't even need to waste electricity turning the telly on. If we are going to be picky I want my unicorn to fart; rose petals on valentines day washing up liquid on Christmas Day ice cubes on New Years and cake on my birthday... Its fine Unicorns are magic, so they don't poo so I don't mind food stuffs from their bum. 1
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 13, 2015 Author Posted February 13, 2015 Well that's charming. sigh. My Irish ex sent me a text " really miss you on valentines day and would have wanted to have spent the day with you xxxx" Lovely:sick: He left because he's going back to Ireland.
Author Leigh 87 Posted February 13, 2015 Author Posted February 13, 2015 You seem to put a lot of emphasis on materialistic expectations. Is this just for vday or relationships in general? And Bolded. You're getting a hotel with a guy you just met once last week? And more on topic, taking my gf out of town. Well it is nice he is making an effort. And I enjoy being spoilt by a guy. Not ashamed of that. I spoil the guy just as much. I don't expect dinners out every day though or presents every month.
organizedchaos Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Well it is nice he is making an effort. And I enjoy being spoilt by a guy. Not ashamed of that. I spoil the guy just as much. I don't expect dinners out every day though or presents every month. That's good. But spending Vday in a hotel with a guy you just met once last week seems a bit fast and risky, no?
Dybbuk Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 lol my BF was freaking out because this is technically my first Valentine's Day ever (Was single for the first 26 of them haha) and he was wracking his brain on what to do... Lucky for him I really have never made a big deal about this holiday, and rarely felt sad when I was single on Feb. 14. For me what makes the day special is knowing someone out there loves you (Even if it is a friend or family member). So I told him I'd really love nothing more than to cuddle and watch some Netflix, have hot sex, and order take out. Order of events subject to change It's honestly the little things that are making it special. He haaaates romantic comedies (even though they're my guilty pleasure) with a passion and we usually watch thrillers/sci fi movies when we get together because that's what we can both agree upon, but he messaged me yesterday and told me he has a whole list of RomCom choices for Valentine's because the day is all about me. Sure it may not be a hot air balloon ride, or a dinner at some ultra expensive restaurant... but it's just nice to know he thinks about me even in the simplest manner and thinks "We'll do something she loves"
adiamond Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 If in a relationship with someone for 4+ months, Expect, at the very least to spend some time together, maybe cook dinner together and just enjoy being together. Want, maybe a small gift to show he cares and flowers. It would also be nice to have a full date planned like skiing. Do not expect at all (these are just dreams at this moment in my life) but would be awesome , going on a big trip somewhere together (e.g. Mexico, Alaska, Fiji etc.)
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