What does he want? Mixed signals.

[bolase]

I matched with this guy on Tinder late last year. We eventually met up for coffee in the morning before work, just casual. I liked him but wasnt sure about a romantic vibe or a friendly one. The next week we played tennis which we talked about at coffee. Again a nice time, but I didn't get a flirty vibe from him.

 

Didn't hear from him over christmas and new years (we were both out of town) and figured he isn't interested or has found someone else. No big deal.

 

In early Jan I hear from him, asking how my holidays have been and admitting that he met a girl he was interested in on holiday but also he also wasn't sure if I was interested in him. I appreciated the honesty, but this is where the clarity ended. I replied that I wasn't sure if it was romantic between us either, but I feel he is a good guy. He told me I was a fantastic girl, and we should play tennis again as friends.

 

Okay, cool right? Maybe I've made a tennis buddy? That's what I'm asuming at this point.

 

Except in the last 5 days, he has been messaging me each day on FB/text and has asked me to dinner next week. I even asked him, how did things go with the girl you met over new years, and he said not good she has a boyfriend. I would like to meet him for dinner as friends, but he seems to be talking more like its a date, and I don't want to be his backup, I definitely just want to be friends at this point.

 

How should I go about this?

[wb1988]

If you f**k then it's romantic, if not then it's just friends.

[bolase]

If you f**k then it's romantic, if not then it's just friends.

 

That is not helpful my friend.

[CrystalShine2011]

Haha on the comment above.

 

But seriously, go to dinner! It sounds like he is lonely now that the girl he was interested in has a boyfriend? Don't become his backup...but have fun! Perhaps you two will click and there will be a spark.