MissBee Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Has anyone ever had a painful breakup, only to go forward and find someone "better" and someone they loved more? I pretty much always have. I always feel better or at least the same about the new person I'm with. I've only had one ex where we were just very good together in a way I haven't as yet found again, but it hasn't stopped me from having other bfs and feeling excited and completely into them and I find they are just different relationships so it's not necessarily better or worse, I feel just as good but in different ways and about different things.
JFReyes Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I've only had one ex where we were just very good together in a way I haven't as yet found again, but it hasn't stopped me from having other bfs and feeling excited and completely into them and I find they are just different relationships so it's not necessarily better or worse, I feel just as good but in different ways and about different things. My feelings exactly, but with my ex-gf.
Rko28 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Yes, every single time. The only exception is maybe your "1st love" I still look back at that relationship as very special and almost perfect, everythign was brand new that you had never done with someone before, holidays, sleep overs, sex, meeting family etc. I think she will always stick with me as a very special moment in my life.
Leigh 87 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 oh LOL. Every ex was better than my last serious one:lmao: The one after was nicer to me but I didn't like him as much. The short flings/dating I have experienced since both men, have been even better! One even bought me an expensive necklace and treated me to dinner every night after a mere 2 weeks of knowing me. Where as my long term exes never took me out and spoilt me or bought me such lovely birthday gifts a year after knowing me heh. I ONLY upgrade. I never look back. I learn what I want/isn't good enough with each ex. Why on earth would you ever go backwards?
Leigh 87 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Absolutely. I laugh at my exs now, I wouldn't touch any of them with 10 fooot pole. I have no idea what I was thinking! ten characters.
Redhead14 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 You would find someone better if you learned from the previous relationship what was working and not working for you with that person. It's the people who don't learn or allow themselves to stay in the "past", who continue to have relationships with people who aren't right for them. 1
Toodaloo Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Yes! I also managed to pick some real duff ones too! Trick is to get rid of the duff ones quickly (which I failed to do) so you can be open and available when you do find a good 'un!
Redhead14 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Yes! I also managed to pick some real duff ones too! Trick is to get rid of the duff ones quickly (which I failed to do) so you can be open and available when you do find a good 'un! Finding the "right" one(s) is a process. Sometimes you find one who is a lot better than the last one, but still not quite right. So you, try, try again That's not to say you should expect to find "perfection" either. No one is perfect. It's kind of like mining for gold, you shake the sifter and the pieces that are not gold fall through and some of the really small pieces of gold fall through too. But, what's left are the biggest nuggets and some really small pieces but you keep them anyway.
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