Tolu2d Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 Has anyone ever had a painful breakup, only to go forward and find someone "better" and someone they loved more?
Rachelmcandrew Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 I have I thought I loved my ex, and I did. But the person I'm with now treats me with so much love and respect, he's open about his past and his feelings and involves me in his life in ways my ex never did. So I respect him so much more and I really do love him more than the person I was with before him. Hope that helps 2
Author Tolu2d Posted February 12, 2015 Author Posted February 12, 2015 I have I thought I loved my ex, and I did. But the person I'm with now treats me with so much love and respect, he's open about his past and his feelings and involves me in his life in ways my ex never did. So I respect him so much more and I really do love him more than the person I was with before him. Hope that helps That's awesome I'm keeping the dream alive.
Author Tolu2d Posted February 12, 2015 Author Posted February 12, 2015 I'm hoping it happens to me. I'm back rowing and hitting the gym, so hopefully in a few months I can hit the dating scene again.
Mrin Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 Oh dude absolutely. So much so that it makes me chuckle as to how I could have gotten so worked up about the ex in the first place. Total paradigm shift. 2
PinkElephants Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 Yes! I had a very toxic relationship and breakup that was a blessing in disguise. That breakup is an experience I'm actually grateful for because it polished me into a person who is able to fully appreciate the amazing person I have now. 4
Author Tolu2d Posted February 12, 2015 Author Posted February 12, 2015 Really nice to hear some positive stories Gives me some hope in these dark times
CrystalShine2011 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 YES!! Granted I knew him before I started dating my ex. But, he is the one!
Omei Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Yes I have and im single now im pretty keen on finding a guy who's better at communication than my last.
d0nnivain Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Absolutely. I broke up with a guy I lived with for 12 years; thought he was my soul mate. Then I met my husband. Almost everything about this relationship is so much better than that one. As DH & I went through the wedding planning process & all the stress that goes along with that, even though we had it relatively easy I realized that the 1st guy & I never would have survived the planning process to get to the alter. 1
xpaperxcutx Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 My recent ex was better than my last ex. So I think in a way, yes there are people out there... I'm hoping this time around I will meet someone to replace my ex.
organizedchaos Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Has anyone ever had a painful breakup, only to go forward and find someone "better" and someone they loved more? Of course. Current gf is better than the last in so many ways. Maturity, the love, the sex, the looks and more. I had the same thoughts as you when my ex broke up with me. But so much better off now.
trolloperative Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Yes! And i've never met anyone who disagreed.
changchewsoon Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 For me, it only gets better and better. Don't lose hope! 1
blackcat777 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 The secret is that if you grow as a person, learn from your experiences, and set your boundaries to "what is healthy for me, ONLY," you will attract someone better every time; as you refine yourself and treat yourself better than ever, you'll only have room for people who are real and want to meet you on that wavelength. It's completely possible to meet someone better and you have more power in the process than you think. 1
Dybbuk Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Of course! First guy I was really seriously involved with ended up hurting me and kind of soured my experience with dating for a while. At the time, I felt like I had led the relationship to ruin, and thought that I wouldn't find someone like him who made me feel the way he did. How funny... after he faded out. I kept dating but there was no more sparks with guys. I wasn't excited, and often pessimistic. Then I met my BF. Who honestly I really thought would be another 'fade out' guy when we were talking on OKC, but then we met and I had a teeny tiny spark with him on the first date. As time progressed I slowly started to open up again and let myself develop feelings. Now 6 months later, he's made me forget about all that hurt from the first guy. He treats me wonderfully, tells me he loves me, always finds ways to do things for me and just makes me feel special. The first guy was never open with his feelings, and I often felt like I had to chase him around. Now for the first time I had a guy be direct with me and gives me just as much as I give him. Don't lose hope!!! Learn from your past relationships and build a better one next time! 2
mightycpa Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 The good news: almost everybody was better... as I got older, the quality of the people I saw continued to improve. I think a lot of this is due to age. The bad news: it took me 13 years to find someone I loved more The good news: the wait was totally worth it, and I had a ton of fun in between. The moral of the story: hang in there, keep looking forward, enjoy the moment(s) and don't get discouraged. Things that are valuable never come easy. 1
CarrieT Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Has anyone ever had a painful breakup, only to go forward and find someone "better" and someone they loved more? Absolutely! The end of a truly toxic and painful relationship is what brought me to this site eight years ago. Since then, I have dated a lot and had a handful of NSA/FWB situations before I met someone who I subsequently married! :love: 1
somedude81 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Nope! My ex was amazing. She was pretty much my ideal woman. I would have gladly married her given the chance. Things were great till she randomly dumped me. I've been single for over a year now and haven't even been on a single date. No women I've been interested in have given me a chance.
organizedchaos Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Nope! My ex was amazing. She was pretty much my ideal woman. I would have gladly married her given the chance. Things were great till she randomly dumped me. I've been single for over a year now and haven't even been on a single date. No women I've been interested in have given me a chance. The question wasn't how long it takes to find someone after a breakup, but can it be better. We all think our exes were amazing until you finally meet someone else and realize there isn't "the one" but many "ones". You just haven't met the next person yet. Give it time. I bet the next girl you get involved with will change your attitude towards your ex. Mark my words.
somedude81 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 The question wasn't how long it takes to find someone after a breakup, but can it be better. We all think our exes were amazing until you finally meet someone else and realize there isn't "the one" but many "ones". You just haven't met the next person yet. Give it time. I bet the next girl you get involved with will change your attitude towards your ex. Mark my words. The question was "Has anyone ever found someone better after a breakup?" and for me I haven't. Hopefully I will sometime in the not too distant future. There were so many good things about my ex it was ridiculous. The only thing that could have been better with her was how she was in bed. Which is kind of funny now that I "have" a woman who is amazing in bed that I would never dream of making into a girlfriend. Now I just need to find a girl that has the best features of both women and I'd be set for life. Of course getting her to actually want to be with me is an entirely different matter.
guest569 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I haven't been in love yet but have had a brief relationship and FWB MUCH better than my ex.
organizedchaos Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 The question was "Has anyone ever found someone better after a breakup?" and for me I haven't. Hopefully I will sometime in the not too distant future. There were so many good things about my ex it was ridiculous. The only thing that could have been better with her was how she was in bed. Which is kind of funny now that I "have" a woman who is amazing in bed that I would never dream of making into a girlfriend. Now I just need to find a girl that has the best features of both women and I'd be set for life. Of course getting her to actually want to be with me is an entirely different matter. Well: Has anyone ever had a painful breakup, only to go forward and find someone "better" and someone they loved more? You just haven't met the next person yet. You think your ex was perfect until you meet someone better. And yes, as great and as perfect as you THINK your ex was, she wasn't the most perfect woman in the world. You have very little to compare to. Believe me and others with more experience than you. There is always someone better.
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Absolutely. I laugh at my exs now, I wouldn't touch any of them with 10 fooot pole. I have no idea what I was thinking! 2
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