Versacehottie Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Thats actually what one girl told me. She told me that she wanted to get married but if she would tell men shes looking for a relationship that would lead to marriage, she would scare men off...so instead she downgraded to just looking for new friends...in hopes that men wouldnt be so scared to pursue her...All she did was invite men who only wanted just that..friendship no committment.. When you declare your intentions you get just what you asked for... Games are not what you should be playing if youre looking for a serious relationship right? Thats something you should do if youre looking to play... if you start a relationship off with games, where do you think it would lead to? A relationship full of tricks and games, deception and psychology..Is that the person you can see yourself being with? Serious =/= games... I appreciate your perspective. I have to say it's not always games. I think it's about lowering expectations, just allowing things to develop and not jump too far in the future. Sometimes as much as she is telling you that, she is trying to remind herself not to get ahead of herself. More like let's see where it goes. BTW, i do think that some level of "games" are played by nearly everyone in a relationship. I wouldn't classify all of things that are not full disclosure as games. There is just not always a reason to lay everything on the table as if an end point has already been determined. Prove yourself worthy of more disclosure and you will get it. I think it's obvious on this board and in dating that there are two distinct camps of "lay it all bare" on first date/first conversation and those who don't believe in that. A lot of people who don't have anything to hide, just don't operate like that. Having experienced a few guys who spill there guts and life story and all their wishes for future in first conversation, I find it way TMI and complete turn-off. Also when I hear stories of girls who do the same thing, I cringe. It's just not my style. To me, those kind of things read as desperate--with either side just wanting to slot in a bf or gf who meets their timetable and list in first moment. Not a genuine getting to know the person and choosing to be with them. To be fair, I know of enough relationships where this is exactly what the couple did and they have worked out. Just people have different dating styles. But I would hardly call it deceptive. But I appreciate your point of view.
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