Amy77 Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 The guy I was obsessively in love with for 8 months dumped me for another girl last month which I haven't taken too well and am completely miserable since. To add fuel to my heartbreak is Valentines day, where he will be showering her with gifts and love while I am stuck depressed over him. It's going to be so hard. Any help guys could use some reassurance and tips on how to get over it? What do ye plan on doing Saturday?
ggas Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 I will go party. Try to talk to a bunch of girls. Will try to hook up. WILL STAY AWAY FROM ALCOHOOL to avoid the depression the day after and that's about it. There's not much one can do. Doing anything else rather than taking it as a normal day or contacting him/her will only make you look weak/desperate and will make him/her feel like they did such a good thing breaking up with you. I also have this problem that imagine the two of them. But then I think that the only way to make myself feel good about me and respect myself is trying not to give a crap or just taking that thought and trying to find and imaginary dumpster in which to throw it away. You see breakups are hard because dumpers are not honest during and before the BU. If they would give correct feedback then you would've probably left your boyfriend before he left you in which case he might felt miserable. So if you think of it like a game your ex gave himself an unfair advantage. The thought of the two of them on Valentine's is the same kind of emotion you feel when someone played a game with you and won just because of some unfair advantage/cheating. You're miserable and think why me? Well because you are a fair person and you started with the assumption that your BF would never take advantage like this. From my experience, this assumption is wrong. like extremely wrong. In any case, if it helps, I want to start a focus group with skype conferences with people from LS to see if we can help each other out through times like these. So far people seem reluctant but if you're interested message me up. 2
unforgotten Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 I don't even care about the Valentines. Never did. I'll be the same as every other day.
NopeNah Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 Taking my boat out with some people and camping at the lake. It is whatever you make of it..
na49 Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 I don't know, but I will have to survive it somehow..
FancyFace Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 I reckon if I could survive Christmas and New Years Eve the way I did without breaking NC, then I can survive anything, including the apocalypse. I plan on spending the day with my first loves, my mother and father. Corny? Probably! Necessary? Most definitely! Better to be in good company than drunk alone on the couch watching the Notebook and crying my eyes out. I keep telling myself that it will be just another day, like any other day, and I refuse to let a commercialised day break my spirit or ruin the progress I have made so far. If all else fails, I have a bottle of emergency vodka ready and will give all electronic devices to my mother for safe keeping till the next day LOL. Wishing all you loveshackers the very best for the day. Stay strong, stay the course, and by God don't break NC! 8
d0nnivain Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 Do you own a dart board or can you get access to one? Tape a photo of him to the board & proceed to throw darts until you obliterate the picture. Eat your favorite chocolate & blast anti love songs, like Love Stinks while you are doing this. It was one of the most cathartic Valentine's Days I ever had. 3
ForgingAhead Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 I have some tasks lined up such as donating my car to a charity(little chariot gave up the ghost), continue packing, cleaning, and then my kid and I are going to stuff our faces with treats. It will be a movie night at home, and the last night I spend in that house as I will be moving out the next morning. My resolve is strengthened with each day as I pray, visit this forum, and a primal hunger to achieve not only my best physique, but to also do personal work to avoid such a catastrophe. I will be true to myself and cut off anyone who causes a red flag to go up with extreme prejudice. Its time.. 1
darkbloom Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 Me and my girlfriend are going to see 50 shades of gray together except we are it it 50 shades of blacked out and we are getting drunk. This is such a stupid holiday.
seminoles84 Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 Not sure but in my opinion, you should avoid alcohol.
Invictus01 Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 Plan on going for a weights workout, then an 11 mile run/walk. Will be all done with that early afternoon. Then I'll go for some drinks. Then I'll go to a high end steak joint and get myself a nice steak and a bottle of wine. Then I'll go to strip clubs.... Ok, maybe not strips clubs... maybe just bar hopping and socialize with women. Anyway, I'll find a way to entertain myself without being surrounded by a bunch of obnoxiously happy couples...
ZiggyZoo Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 I'm going to see some bands play and hang out with my friends. Since I'm pregnant, drinking won't be an option. Talking s*it about my loser douchebag ex though is ON!
todreaminblue Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 my ex will be with his partner on valentines day like he has for the past eight years.....another guy i dated recently will be with his new girlfriend .....to me february the 14th is just another day in february...i would like to have a bright shiny blue sky kind of february 14th.......maybe with a rainy blessed night....ill spend it with my family...maybe watch a movie......i would like to walk to my pier where the water meets the mainland.....but considering i have to get up early on sunday morning i probably will save the walk for another night.....a friend gave me a new ipod......i have difficulty with electrical appliances they blow up on me....he gave it to me for no real reason other than the friendship we have and he knew that i missed my music......... maybe ill write a soppy love poem......or do something different even .....get my eyebrows done...put hair color in.....something just for me for no real reason at all other than to treat myself.....i dont have to be with anyone to have a good day...that comes from within......i dont need permission to treat myself well...i dont need a day in february to do that......if people have loved ones giving them treats then i am happy for them.....that includes my exes.......doesnt make me a lesser person because i am by myself on valentines day...i will wake up sunday morning and still be me...i will survive valentines day intact and hopeful for blue skies every other day.....its just one day...so will you survive it...dont worry too much about who gives what to whom...just be you ...and appreciate that you have many more days than just one to meet someone special..best wishes....happy valentines day or better put, happy you day for feb the 14th...deb
darkbloom Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 Not sure but in my opinion, you should avoid alcohol. I promise that even in my most blacked out stage I will not break NC. I like my heart in my chest, not as the ex's doormat. 1
seminoles84 Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 I promise that even in my most blacked out stage I will not break NC. I like my heart in my chest, not as the ex's doormat. Haha I'm just not advocating it for a lot of people around here. I've been on here long enough to know in *most* cases it's not a good idea.
Kinetica84 Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 Valentines day is manufactured BS. Also it is my birthday so i will be out partying.
smellysocksuni Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 Probably ordering a pizza and drinking a couple of bottles of alcohol - will not be breaking NC, will be lining up all my favourite films and getting my things ready for college on Monday. 1
Nascarfan Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 Any holiday only has meaning if you allow it to have meaning, therefore, I'm going to go have a good time regardless of the circumstances. The thought of my ex with the guy she left me for will cross my mind once in a while, but I won't give it any power. 2
gnick Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 Guys....look at all the money and hastle that you're avoiding by not having a girlfriend on valentine's day. Another manufacturered day for retailers 4
darkbloom Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 Haha I'm just not advocating it for a lot of people around here. I've been on here long enough to know in *most* cases it's not a good idea. Haha, well maybe that's a good idea for most people. I literally made sure that my NC means NC. I blocked him on everything that can be blocked. I blocked his mom and dads phone numbers. I blocked him on linkedin. I un tagged myself in every photo of us. As far as he's concerned, I never existed. I would advise anyone going through a hard time to stay off social media. That will literally be the death of you on VDAY. 1
Atmosphere77 Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 I'm happy I won't have to get ripped off by a fancy restaurant and run around shopping. I'm also happy because my ex will be wondering all day if I'm going to send her a happy vday text whether she's with someone else or not. I'll be out and about like any Saturday night and as a bonus i'll know who's single. 1
Tolu2d Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 I have some tasks lined up such as donating my car to a charity(little chariot gave up the ghost), continue packing, cleaning, and then my kid and I are going to stuff our faces with treats. It will be a movie night at home, and the last night I spend in that house as I will be moving out the next morning. My resolve is strengthened with each day as I pray, visit this forum, and a primal hunger to achieve not only my best physique, but to also do personal work to avoid such a catastrophe. I will be true to myself and cut off anyone who causes a red flag to go up with extreme prejudice. Its time.. Well spoken friend! OP, I'm just going to see VD as something to get through, if that makes sense? I recently split up with my ex of 1 year, and we pretty much lived together non-stop, and she already has a new bf. Just get through the day in whatever way you can. Even if it means suffering, just stick out. Do not break NC.
L0nleyDude Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I am probably going to text my ex and let her know we should be together celebrating our love. Hopefully she will be receptive
erklat Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 My woman wants to go to movies to watch 50 shades. While I'm not that keen on that movie I told her to take her friend with her or we can join on dinner afterwards while I would go walking with my mal, playing cod or simply learning some new programming skill. I may buy her an ice cream and sweets she likes. We are more laid back types. Valentines day doesn't mean smothering each other to death that day. We have our own lives.
darkbloom Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I'm happy I won't have to get ripped off by a fancy restaurant and run around shopping. I'm also happy because my ex will be wondering all day if I'm going to send her a happy vday text whether she's with someone else or not. I'll be out and about like any Saturday night and as a bonus i'll know who's single. Are you sure you don't want to wait for a table for two hours with me at the Olive Garden ? And then after I can force you to see 50 shades of grey with me while you stab your eyes out with hot pokers? No? Are you sure?
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