Erised Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 You are dating casually. You already have been out with the person and met them in person, and know exactly what they look like. Do you ask for selfies and photos as they go about? I've run into this quite a few times with guys asking for (g rated!) photos and selfies. I do not understand it at all. It certainly wasn't a thing in my previous relationships. Maybe just one or two to show to a friend, I might understand, but even after I've sent the one that they can jolly well save to their phone, another day, another request. Do you do this? If so, can you explain the reasoning behind it? (No, I don't like being in photos to begin with, and I especially do not like taking selfies. It feels so shallow and vain.)
LoveRefreshed Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 (edited) depends. With one girl I am seeing, she went to a party where they had to dress up, I asked for a photo. Was curious to see her in blue hair and fun makeup. Sometimes it is nice to see someone but typically no I do not ask for one. Edited February 12, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Michelle ma Belle Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 (edited) It's hard to get in the mind of the person asking you for the pics. Men on average tend to be very visual creatures. You might be that attractive that having just one pic isn't quite enough. I can totally see how a couple who aren't able to spend as much together as they'd like because of extenuating circumstances might exchange tons of pics of each other otherwise, yeah, i can see how it can feel a bit odd. In MY experience, MOST of the guys I met and dated casually who were incessant about sending them pics of me (or just exchanging pics in general), especially so early on, were often just testing the water and/or warming me up for the bigger ask which was to send them more naughtier, racier pics :/ Again, this isn't necessarily the case with ALL men but I've seen and experienced enough of it that it does seem to be a pattern. Edited February 12, 2015 by Michelle ma Belle
Mrin Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 I've never asked or at least never asked directly. If I get a text or a call from her doing something crazy or fun I'll usually retort "pics or it didn't happen". But that's about it. I love receiving them though even after the relationship turns serious etc...
The Mighty Quinn Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 I may be the last living human who hates pictures of herself. With that said, I think the sharing of pictures is just another form of communication. Although, it can get annoying when a man continually asks for them.
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