Els Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 (edited) Oh I'm not Asian myself, I was helping an Asian woman move. As for hitting the gym and working out as many people recommended.. There was a point in my life where I did that hardcore. My body type is not ideal for it. It would have to be a total lifestyle, prepping meals and constantly having protein shakes to assure I get enough protein and healthy calories to grow + constantly working out heavy. I made some progress but the rest of my life took a back seat. Now with part time school + career, it would really be tough. I realized that I was fighting nature, this isn't a strong point of mine. A strong point, for example, is distance running. So why not spend my limited exercise time getting better at something I am good at? There are 3 basic body types: Ectomorph Me!! Small “delicate” frame and bone structure Classic “hardgainer” Flat chest Small shoulders Thin Lean muscle mass Finds it hard to gain weight Fast metabolism "Size" is all the rage in today's fitness industry, but you don't need to "grow" to be reasonably strong. Lots of men are ectomorphs and are still strong enough to help the average woman when physical strength is needed. My guy is a definite ectomorph and leaner than most women prefer, yet he's still fit and strong, and can carry stuff that some of the bigger guys struggle with. You're mistaking the two goals. How about consistently making sure you get enough nutrients and working out a reasonable amount of time, for the long term, and see how that goes? You may not get much bigger but you should get stronger. You should not need to make it a 'full-time job', because due to inherently having higher testosterone, men are inherently physically stronger than women, all other things being the same. You might need to work out full-time to compete with a full-time female bodybuilder (and there would be no point in that if that isn't what you want), but you should not need to work out full-time to be stronger than a woman who exercises normally. Like I said, if that doesn't work you need to see a doctor, because there would definitely be something wrong. As for those talking about 'violent brute' vs 'scrawny weak and good guy' - how about a healthy, reasonably strong man with a good heart and mind? Just as how women don't have to be ugly to be smart and kind, men don't have to be physically weak to be smart and kind. Not really seeing why there has to be a dichotomy here. Edited February 13, 2015 by Elswyth 1
PogoStick Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Hmm I'm curious. I'm 6'2 and can fend for myself, but a girl in my class is a Div 1 "thrower" in Track and Field. I have a feeling she could take me. Maybe she's a lesbian and it doesn't even matter!?
todreaminblue Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 (edited) Hmm I'm curious. I'm 6'2 and can fend for myself, but a girl in my class is a Div 1 "thrower" in Track and Field. I have a feeling she could take me. Maybe she's a lesbian and it doesn't even matter!? why is it a strong woman is considered a lesbian if she can take a guy on and beat them....that's stereotyping a little isnt it....a bit unfair...and i believe totally unfounded a view on women and strength...i remember there was a story on the news about a mother who lifted a car off a toddler...didnt make her a lesbian....and obviously...she mattered and so did that hidden strength...that all women have the capability to tap into.....deb...... Edited February 13, 2015 by todreaminblue 1
PogoStick Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 why is it a strong woman is considered a lesbian if she can take a guy on and beat them....that's stereotyping a little isnt it....a bit unfair...and i believe totally unfounded a view on women and strength...i remember there was a story on the news about a mother who lifted a car off a toddler...didnt make her a lesbian....and obviously...she mattered and so did that hidden strength...that all women have the capability to tap into.....deb...... No, A woman is considered a lesbian if she's sexually attracted to other women. In addition, she may also be strong. Your defense of this woman is "totally unfounded" being that I know her personally, and I'm willing to be that you do not. Further, in such defense, you imply that being a lesbian is a negative attribute. But in your hasty assumptions you missed the point: Being that she is a high class strength athlete, if the OPs hypothesis is affirmative, then this woman will have very few choices in men. HOWEVER, if she is a lesbian then the point is moot. 1
Rko28 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 you dont need weights to get yourself strong, use your own body weight for this. Start of the year I wanted to gain muscle and look more defined. I up'd my protein intake and ate really healthy, delicious food whilst doing a lot of push ups, sit ups, chin ups at home for about 45 mins 3 days a week. The results are impressive, so much so people are noticing, I even ripped my shirt in work yesterday when i stretched as my muscles have grown too big for it. All that done naturally and beleive me, Im skinny, im 6ft and before this weighed about 11 stone, in just over a month ive put on over half a stone through this. Another option would be karate classes, you will get strength from these lessons and also learn how to protect yourself and others. 1
guest569 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 All guys I've been with are very skinny but they were damn strong, I can feel it in their arms. I dont care if a guy isn't muscly but if he will sit on his arse and watch me lift heavy furniture, no, its a deal breaker. 1
still_an_Angel Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I wouldn't strike off a potential bf just because of body type. Sure I don't normally date guys weaker than me but its all about the dynamics I have with a guy.
mysteryscape Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 Most women do not like a really weak guy for boyfriend material. In fact, while most women are not really looking for a heavily muscled man, most probably like at least a little muscle. Get to a gym with weights and start working out, have a plan. You might also start doing some aerobic exercise like hiking and or some mixed thing like punching a heavy bag with boxing gloves. You'll get much stronger, fast; it will show in your looks; and perhaps most important, it will do wonders for your self-confidence, and not just with women. 1
callingyouuu Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I was pretty much in your situation about 3-4 years ago in college. I was a skinny, weak ectomorph who interacted well with women on a friendly level, but my body type was frequently an issue. A year ago, I started working out casually (maybe 1-2 times a week for 45 minutes), and that's since increased to about 3-4 times a week. I'm still skinny by most standards, but I've noticed that there's been a significant positive change in women willing to date me. Part of it's being able to fill in a shirt much better, but the other part is I think I'm unconsciously carrying myself in a more confident way. Regarding diet, one of the advantages of being an ectomorph is that this isn't as big of an issue. Other than making sure I get enough protein (either dietary or supplementary) on workout days, I still eat terribly in regards to calories, but my metabolism is fast enough so that I don't feel the need to control it too much. Honestly, putting on a bit of fat on top of the muscle is probably a good thing for the overall shape of my body. Totally your prerogative on whether putting in the effort is worth it, but to answer your question, being weak is definitely a liability in the dating world if you're a guy.
CrystalShine2011 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I'm very petit: 5'5 and 100 pounds. I think these things really don't matter in the long run, though.
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