ivenius Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 So I know this girl for about 8 months, since the 3rd month we're in a relationship. I was at her house two days ago, it was great, well, I mean...it was like always. At the evening a good bye kiss, and then she's became cold. It's like, she's been always writing to me all the time, often telling me she misses me, calling me when she gets up, an hour without texting was a lot. Today she texted me maybe twice, wasn't responding to my texts, when I called her she ended it up very quickly. She doesn't wanna talk, text, and even meet, as she says she's helping her parents until Friday. When I asked her she started shouting at me that I'm jelous, and she was with her friend, and I can call her to ask if that's true. Telling her that it's not the case doesn't help, she just makes me strange arguments. What's wrong?
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Relationships are about communication. If she's not willing to communicate with you, there is trouble. Tell her you'll give her some space but make it a point to try and talk to her again and find out what is going on?
BeatsByDirk Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Usually that over reaction is a bad sign. Immediately my reaction is that it's an ex boyfriend. My reaction would be: "I'm not jealous, I'm not checking up on you and I'm not calling your friend. I can say you are overreacting and acting strange so why don't you just lose my number because I don't have time for your lies!" If she doesn't call you back well at least you left it with some dignity. If she comes back over and starts trying to justify or put blame on you just end the conversation right there and reiterate: "I don't have time for nonsense" If she comes back and apologizes and comes clean, you can consider taking her back. In my opinion, if a relationship is under a year and somebody just starts acting funny out of the blue, you are dealing with a relationship ending situation, even if it gets drawn out over a long period of time. 1
Zahara Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 When I asked her she started shouting at me that I'm jelous, and she was with her friend, and I can call her to ask if that's true. Telling her that it's not the case doesn't help, she just makes me strange arguments. I find that odd because most times when someone goes on the defense like that and is on the edge, there's something going on. 3
mightycpa Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Oh yeah. Definitely has a new interest, or maybe her parents don't approve. Whatever it is, your best move at this point is to respond to her very next text with something like this: I think we need to talk face to face when you get back. Let me know when you're free to do that. responses to calls or other texts regarding this should be met with I don't want to do this by text or by phone. Nothing's wrong and no rush. Just let me know when you're back and ready to meet. That's going to work out a whole lot better than texting back and forth or ignoring her texts. Then you can get a much better read on things.
LostOnes05 Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Bro, going thru this same exact thing right now...it is rather ridiculous.
mightycpa Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Oh, and if she drops the bomb on you, be sure to have a non-whiny speech prepared to say your goodbyes and feign indifference.
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